Little white Lie???

[bankgirl05]

boy am I ever sorry I even posted this question. Some of you have very strong and even harsh opinions... No, I do not work in a bank, I used to, but was actually let go for "profitability reasons"(thier words not mine) ie they could pay my assistant(whom I trained, and groomed from a teller ) less to do my job, and due to that am just trying to save a bit of money on a trip that I have already postponed twice due to financial difficulties and my (almost ) 3 year olds congenital heart defect. Yes, I realize that wrong is wrong and lying is lying but really. GLASS HOUSES PEOPLE...
again, I am sorry to have offended anyone, now that I feel thoroughly attacked...

 

[RDP]

We took our DD 3 weeks after her 3rd birthday. We bought a ticket for her as we were certain she would sell us down the river if asked her age. There are many things to consider when making your decision and only you can decide what's right. Just bear in mind that should you need to claim from Disney for any personal injury, I doubt whether you will have any legal recourse unless of course you bought a ticket.

 

[RMulieri]

Sorry but Disneys policy on this is clear.Disney relies on its guest to be honest and to do the right thing,If enough people lie( and sorry it is a LIE) disney will recoup that lost revenue elsewhere and WE all pay the price, in higher food costs and ticket costs. Not to mention the example you are setting for your child.Disney does not require proof per se, but I have also personally witnessed Disney asking an obviously older child how old they were, and escorting dear old Mom to the nearest ticket booth.You are putting yourself and your child in an awkward position of having to lie.The fact that you even asked about this suggests that you know deep down what the right thing is.Let your conscience be your guide

 

[bellebud]

I've lied about my kids age. Told the CM's they were 2 when the child was clearly 3.

When we visited last October, my DS was 10 and we told them he was 9. The CM at the BC even asked my DS at check-in how old he was, he forgot and said 10. Did she blink an eye? Nope. She just looked at him, chuckled and said , you mean 9 , right buddy?

Do what your conscious tells you OP. I saved alot of money over the years and was able to sleep like a baby at night.

I usually don't quote people unless I'm asking them a question, but this really stood out to me. It's just wrong all the way around, and holy cow I can't believe what you're teaching your children. You seem so proud of it too, and that's disgusting. You seem to go often enough that you can "afford" it, so you should have just paid the money. Seriously.

 

[turkeymama]

boy am I ever sorry I even posted this question. Some of you have very strong and even harsh opinions... No, I do not work in a bank, I used to, but was actually let go for "profitability reasons"(thier words not mine) ie they could pay my assistant(whom I trained, and groomed from a teller ) less to do my job, and due to that am just trying to save a bit of money on a trip that I have already postponed twice due to financial difficulties and my (almost ) 3 year olds congenital heart defect. Yes, I realize that wrong is wrong and lying is lying but really. GLASS HOUSES PEOPLE...
again, I am sorry to have offended anyone, now that I feel thoroughly attacked...

Look, I haven't posted on here until now. My husband was laid off from his job as a manager of a mortgage loan company, I'm in school full-time (aka, not bringing in any income), and both of my children have special needs. I myself have postponed our trip this year because it just wasn't in the cards for us due to financial reasons. I certainly understand your frustration, but you asked for opinions on telling a lie to get your 3 year-old in for free. This thread will likely be shut down because of the nature of the topic alone. Don't get upset when the rest of us (who have paid for our 3 year-olds who don't ride much and eat like birds) tell you it is wrong. In my opinion, nobody said anything really mean or nasty. They gave you opinions, which you asked for.

 

[snoopy5386]

For me, I am willing to bend the rules a bit. My DD will be 3.5 when we go in October, I will be buying a ticket for her, but if she had just turned 3 within a month or two of our trip, I would probably not get her one. My mom wanted to pass my DD off as 23 months old to avoid buying her a ticket at Sesame Place a couple of weeks ago. I told her no way, but a month or two? Sure. I would also do it with a 9 turning 10 year old if I was doing the dining plan. Buying an adult ticket doesn't bother me too much, but paying the adult price for meals for a kid who doesn't eat? Ouch! I know several CMs and it is standard practice despite it being "fraud" or whatever else.

 

[Kidnurse]

To answer your question, no I would not say my child is 2 when he/she is clearly 3. In fact, we're getting ready to go to Disney in a few months with my 3 year old. After thinking about it for about 3 seconds, I decided it was much better to be honest and be able to relax, knowing that I did the right thing and was not teaching my easily impressionable 3 year old child that lying is in any ways right. Sure, you could lie and save money, but you need to ask yourself if your conscience is worth the money saved in telling that lie.

 

[bellebud]

Don't get upset when the rest of us (who have paid for our 3 year-olds who don't ride much and eat like birds)

this is funny, and so correct! what 3yo on earth rides all the rides and eats like a pig???? disney decided 3yo was the age to pay for whatever reason, and probably 90% of 3yo's are just like anyone's who is justifying not paying, saying their special little ones eat like birds. So do everyone else's 3yo's, and most of us have done the right thing and paid.

 

[turkeymama]

this is funny, and so correct! what 3yo on earth rides all the rides and eats like a pig???? disney decided 3yo was the age to pay for whatever reason, and probably 90% of 3yo's are just like anyone's who is justifying not paying, saying their special little ones eat like birds. So do everyone else's 3yo's, and most of us have done the right thing and paid.

I know, right? Believe, I'm trying like mad to squeeze in one more trip before DD turns 10. My mother always described me as her "painfully honest child". I just can't lie about their ages, not for something as optional as a trip to Disney.

 

[brymolmom]

My response to this question is always the same - I see no problem with it AS LONG AS when your 3 year old is 16, and tells you 'but it was only a little white lie' that you are okay with him doing it as well.

 

[Louiepipbgeeco]

I would pay for the 3 year old. That is the policy and the right thing to do.
If it is an issue, wait to do your trip later or travel before the third birthday. My son has issues too, but it does not mean I don't have to follow policy and pay like everyone else.

 

[Allisdad]

When I was in college I worked as a swimming instructor and we had a class for kids up to 4 years old that was free (if parents had a membership). I would often have parents bring their kids to my class and say they were 4. Later on they would let it slip they were 5. The way I looked at it was this, the reason it was free was 1. to get parents to buy memberships and 2. Kids 5 and older normally could swim on their own and this became swim time instead of not being afraid of the water time. They had to set an age or you would get tons of parents saying "Jonny may be 15 but he's afraid of water" and take advantage of the situation. I'm not saying CMs do this, but just remember when you were 20 the day before your birthday did you suddenly become mature enough to drink responsibly at midnight. What I'm trying to say in my rambling is this to the OP why did you start a thread you Knew would go like this and to those who are bashing her if you say you never thought of it you are telling a white lie now. OK coming off my soapbox now.

 

[SageFemme]

My mom did this with me all of the time when I was young. Did I turn into a huge liar? NOPE! As a matter of fact, I hardly ever lied to her. You don't always do exactly what your parents do - it's based off of personality.

BTW, I haven't done this with my DD. However, I understand why people would.

 

[sk!mom]

How is lying in order to cheat someone out of money a "white lie"?


I doubt they'll ask for proof but if he's a chatty 3 year old, you may be embarassed if a CM engages him in conversation and asks his age. Unless, of course, you intend to have him lie, as well??

 

[turkeymama]

When I was in college I worked as a swimming instructor and we had a class for kids up to 4 years old that was free (if parents had a membership). I would often have parents bring their kids to my class and say they were 4. Later on they would let it slip they were 5. The way I looked at it was this, the reason it was free was 1. to get parents to buy memberships and 2. Kids 5 and older normally could swim on their own and this became swim time instead of not being afraid of the water time. They had to set an age or you would get tons of parents saying "Jonny may be 15 but he's afraid of water" and take advantage of the situation. I'm not saying CMs do this, but just remember when you were 20 the day before your birthday did you suddenly become mature enough to drink responsibly at midnight. What I'm trying to say in my rambling is this to the OP why did you start a thread you Knew would go like this and to those who are bashing her if you say you never thought of it you are telling a white lie now. OK coming off my soapbox now.

I get what you're saying, but no, I never thought of saying DS was 2 just to get him in free. Quite the opposite, I was excited that he would not have to eat from my plate anymore. And no, I'm not thinking of stretching the truth when DD turns 10 either. No white lie.

 

[JUJU814]

OP, sorry you got so attacked on your question. Just take anything here with a grain of salt..

I'm afraid to ask any parenting related question on this board I try to refrain because when I come here, I'm planning my trip to the happiest place on earth and can get quickly disillusioned reading some threads on how many mean people might be there at the same time as me!

Mostly though, it's a great board with awesome advice and help...but initiate a hot topic, and watch out! Put on that thick skin!

 

[minniem]

You sound as if you already know the answer to your question. I really think people should pay for their kids when they are 3 and not lie about it. We have postponed our trips due to financial burden or other family issues...this doesn't make it ok to lie just b/c you don't want to pay.

Disney is very expensive we all know that, either take your child before he's 3 or pay for the tickets and food. Rules are rules, you should set a good example for your kids.

Just my opinion...

 

[PigletsMommy]

Just do what YOU feel is right for you. Your the only one that can really answer this questions.

For me... We are already planning a huge family trip (grand gathering) the week DD turns 3. That way I dont feel guilty about lying. But thats just me.

On a side note we were just talking about this yesterday with my nephew who is 4. Someone asked him how old he was and he told them he was 3 except when he eats chinese

 

[brekin67]

Disney keeps a record of your ages for future trips. There may be something in the future he will want to do, and he will be always be trying to remember to age him up one year. Please don't feel attacked, but you had to expect these kind of responses when you asked hundreds of thousands of people their opinions on whether you should cheat Disney or not.

 

[nmmom95]

I don't think that anyone answered with the intention of being mean. The nature if the question was how to cheat Disney out of money. I've gotten some wonderful advice on the DIS from polite, knowledgeable people. We all pay a lot of money to go there because we choose to. I've paid for both of my sons at 3. It is not a little white lie if you are breaking the rules.