Lesson learned

[Anthony1971]

I have read many posts warning of this......
My wife and I invited my wifes parents and one of her brothers who still lives with the parents......both are in thier 40's parents are in thier 70's
The other brother a great person fun to be around but you can only take him for a few hours as he does not stop talking or moving... and never has any money but does have a decent paying job and better he was on who wnats to ne a millionaire and won a nice amount of money since he has refinaced the condo he bought twice... and only put a down paymnet on the condo with a small part of the money he won.......H also is getting laid off next week but getting a sizable lump sum package which will no doubt be spent on going out.......and he will have no mony to pay oh maybe his bills and he will view this as a vacation rather than looking for a new job so I am sure there will be money sent his way at some point.....
He decides he is coming with us but we did no one invited him simply my FIL will not come if he goes as he make him nervous and they just do not want to pay for him and we don't either......and he would be this thing living on the pull out coach in the living room sleeping until??? and getting mad if we bother him so the living room would be unusable..
So to make a long story longer he calls my MIL and she tells him he is not going he gets upset calls my wife and yells at her and than hangs up.....
we never invited him as cruel as it may sound...
Now I see how a timeshare becomes family property I thought My wife and I shelled out the buy in and the dues every year... Being nice can sometimes turn into this..
P.S. I took my parents last year and my brother and wife will be coming next year on dates that fit thier needs......I have no problem taking my family as we thankfully can and enjoy thier company at this point.....
Be warned I never thought this would happen and laughed at posts like this

 

[gkrykewy]

All of these stories today are frightening. If any of my family members decide to invite themselves on one of my trips, they have another thing coming .

Also, as expected, your post was a single very long sentence. Somehow you always manage to pull it off. I salute you, long sentence Anthony!

 

[robinb]

Your post is really hard to read, but I think I have the gist of it. You invited BIL-1 and your wife's parents to WDW. BIL-2 was not invited but thought he was. When his mom called him to tell him he was not invited he got mad and yelled at his sister. Right?

First of all, it is not unreasonable for your BIL-2 to assume that he was invited when his parents and other brother was invited. Secondly, I am confused about why your MIL had to tell him and you didn't. Also, what lesson did you learn?

 

[Anthony1971]

Your post is really hard to read, but I think I have the gist of it. You invited BIL-1 and your wife's parents to WDW. BIL-2 was not invited but thought he was. When his mom called him to tell him he was not invited he got mad and yelled at his sister. Right?

First of all, it is not unreasonable for your BIL-2 to assume that he was invited when his parents and other brother was invited. Secondly, I am confused about why your MIL had to tell him and you didn't. Also, what lesson did you learn?

More sense in real sentences. (the periods are just to hard to type never good with that)
My MIL told him they were going so he figured he would come as well in the same conversation she told him he was not coming. We (MIL FIL sister decison) did not invite him because he is sefish in a lot of ways and never has any money. We would need to pay for his plane ticket park ticket and food as he would say he will give us the money later. He simple put makes my FIL (his father) nervous as he never sits still and is always talking loudly and fast. He would sleep on the pull out and get up at 11 after coming home late from drinking all night.
We have a young child so it was never the intention that we will be together all the time so the parents would need to pay for him (he is 44 has/had a decent paying job but spends all of his $ on well him self) and has been sent money many times.
We would take him just not on this trip maybe when our child is a little older.
The lesson is when you invite family it seems to cause argumnets and others asking when you are taking them.

 

[robinb]

The lesson is when you invite family it seems to cause argumnets and others asking when you are taking them.

Yes! That is an important lesson . You don't have to explain to me why you didn't invite him. It makes sense now that your MIL was talking to him and then when he got excited about going too she set him straight. FWIW, I don't blame you one bit for not taking him!

 

[Anthony1971]

Yes! That is an important lesson . You don't have to explain to me why you didn't invite him. It makes sense now that your MIL was talking to him and then when he got excited about going too she set him straight. FWIW, I don't blame you one bit for not taking him!

I truly feel bad about not taking him... as I would feel a litlle not so loved myself..

 

[disneynutz]

I truly feel bad about not taking him... as I would feel a litlle not so loved myself..

He will get over it. If he doesn't, his loss. I'm too old to let anyone come between me and my vacation. When I was younger I wanted to been everyones friend. Now I could care less...

I think that I'm much happier now.

 

[BroganMc]

First off, sorry for your family troubles Anthony. There's really nothing you can do except let it go. Realize that your BIL is an adult. It sounds as if he causes his own problems and loves to pass them on to everyone else. I have a brother somewhat like that. It gets bad only when I forget who's problem it truly is.

Secondly, in general I think shared vacations are like any other shared holiday (Christmas, Thanksgiving, Easter, etc.). They just highlight problems that already existed in the group. Don't they say the true test of any relationship is to share a room with another person?