We love to stay at a different resort every time we go so that each trip is different from the last. I can't imagine limiting ourselves to only staying at one resort. We have tried all of the WDW resorts except for the newest 2 (VGF & PVB). The Poly is on our radar for next summer (2016). We have also stayed at VB, HHI, VGC & Aulani so we've made the rounds and can compare nearly all of them. The only resort that was a true disappointment was our first
DVC stay ever at OKW. It has since added a booking category for the HH area & has been refurbished which was some of the reasons we didn't like it but the others were the long walks to the bus stop & the LONG waits for the buses. Now that 2 of the 3 things we didn't like have been resolved (refurb & booking cat.) we should try it again but the long waits we had for the buses were unacceptable so we haven't been able to talk ourselves into going back (we waited OVER 1 hour for a bus to the MK one day). We have our own theory why that is and why that's not likely to change so staying there again isn't high on our list.
We have stayed at AKV the most times bcuz the points for the std view villas are so reasonable. We much prefer Jambo House to Kidani tho. We like the lobby, larger store and being close to the Mara plus we also like the layout of the studios better there. The kitchenette is noticeably bigger and the bathroom has a more functional split since the shower is separated from the vanity area.
We own at SSR and have stayed there 2 times & currently have another trip booked there for next January. We like it just fine there, although it probably isn't our most favorite but it's OK for us to stay there - we don't mind. It is definitely a good deal to own there tho - the
points charts are quite reasonable and our dues are affordable. Whenever we stay there we tend to visit DTD more often.
OP if you are specifically looking for a "hotel like feel" I would try for VWL, BCV or BWV. All of them are lovely resorts and are among our favorites. I think of those 3 that BWV is really the only one that you don't have to leave the main building to get to the villas. BLT is also a nice choice if you'd like to be on the monorail for a change although there is that outside walkway / skybridge from the CR. I have never felt unsafe at any DVC resort - you are primarily surrounded by families at any Disney resort.