Krismark's CS/WHR Wedding 10/26/2012 ~Final Update

[super_k0116]

Since my birthday in January, I have put into motion an effort to lose weight. I've been the heaviest I have ever been because of my current job and the lack of exercise I got working there.

I am happy to report that, so far, I have lost 9 pounds with at least 10 to go!

Speaking of my job, I'm not so sure I should keep working there. I'm in a bit of a dilemma that is wreaking havoc on my system and mental health. Right now I'm working a job that requires an extreme amount of intense focus and concentration, a crazy amount of studying and outside work, and intensive training that only focuses on what you do wrong every day for about three years. With progress comes pay increases that lead up to a six figure income. Here's the thing, I don't think I'm really meant to do this job. The more I work at it, the more I feel less able to do the job. I'm a sociable person with only so much focus.

I've never felt so lonely and bad about myself as I do at this job. Granted the pay is amazing and the benefits rock. Plus, it's stable but is that really worth it? I feel like I'm neglecting my family, health and happiness. I really don't want to come home everyday frazzled and stressed out and take it out on DD.

I know I don't want that. I also know that if I leave this job, I might not be able to pay for the wedding we want or at the very least push it back even more. Pushing the wedding back really isn't a big deal to me but DF and I agreed to not have any more children until after the wedding and that would mean we would have to wait even longer to have a second child. DD will be 5 and I'll be 30 by the time we would have a second baby with the wedding date as it is. UGH

So, yeah, kind of in a stitch right now and not so sure what to do. Just want to be happy.

Do Disney employees get a wedding discount?

 

[super_k0116]

Ok, so, I'm liking two of the colors I picked for our color palette, ice blue and coral pink, but I'm not sure about buttercup yellow for the third color. I'm starting to lean towards a coffee bean brown instead of the yellow. We could also just add brown to the other three colors. I'm just not sure. So, I'm taking votes.

Option #1: Original Colors

Option #2: Ice blue, Coffee & Coral

Option #3: Original with Coffee added

 

[pixie921]

Always happy to add my .02!

I think combo #1 looks very spring-ish, combo #2 is perfect for summer, and combo #3 is just a wee bit busy unless you used the fourth color really sparingly.

YMMV!

 

[sw33t_angel]

I am happy to report that, so far, I have lost 9 pounds with at least 10 to go!

Speaking of my job, I'm not so sure I should keep working there. I'm in a bit of a dilemma that is wreaking havoc on my system and mental health. Right now I'm working a job that requires an extreme amount of intense focus and concentration, a crazy amount of studying and outside work, and intensive training that only focuses on what you do wrong every day for about three years. With progress comes pay increases that lead up to a six figure income. Here's the thing, I don't think I'm really meant to do this job. The more I work at it, the more I feel less able to do the job. I'm a sociable person with only so much focus.

I've never felt so lonely and bad about myself as I do at this job. Granted the pay is amazing and the benefits rock. Plus, it's stable but is that really worth it? I feel like I'm neglecting my family, health and happiness. I really don't want to come home everyday frazzled and stressed out and take it out on DD.


Do Disney employees get a wedding discount?

Congrats on the weight loss!! Keep it up!! I need to kick my butt into gear to lose some lbs!!

I can completely relate to your job woes (minus the great pay part...) I used to be a teacher and felt completely the same way... I loved teaching..when it was good... which was not that often I felt stressed, lonely, and completely helpless in my position. It felt so unrewarding.... I am no longer in the teaching field at the moment, and I still feel like I am meant to do something in regards to the schools? But maybe not in the classroom? I do feel like I made the right choice for this point in my life but it is definitely not a good feeling when you dread going to work everyday.

about the Disney Wedding discount for employees.... if that is true.... SIGN ME UP!!

 

[lilsqueakrr]

Hii! Just joining in..

Everything looks great! I LOVE your venue and cannot wait to see it in action! It's going to be absolutely gorgeous! And sooo different! I'm kinda jealous! =]

As far as the job goes, I have my teacher certification also, and being that I don't have a job I can't relate exactly. But I know what you're going through, which is part of the reason as to why I haven't really been super duper pushing for an actual teaching position. I'm not sure how I feel about it anymore. Sometimes it's sooo rewarding and others... not so much?

Love your dress. Love color combo number 2!

Can't wait to see what else you come up with!

 

[KristiLyn]

Love #2!!!

 

[super_k0116]

Always happy to add my .02!

I think combo #1 looks very spring-ish, combo #2 is perfect for summer, and combo #3 is just a wee bit busy unless you used the fourth color really sparingly.

YMMV!

I'm happy to take your .02 and put it in my pocket! I have to agree with #3 being a bit busy. I think I only kept it because I want all of us girls to wear yellow shoes, but now I'm thinking we should all just wear chuck taylors. Boys and girls. Blue for the guys and whatever I can get that's close to coral or cream for the girls. At least we all would be comfortable.

Other than that, I don't know where I'd use the yellow. Not a huge fan of it.

Congrats on the weight loss!! Keep it up!! I need to kick my butt into gear to lose some lbs!!

I can completely relate to your job woes (minus the great pay part...) I used to be a teacher and felt completely the same way... I loved teaching..when it was good... which was not that often I felt stressed, lonely, and completely helpless in my position. It felt so unrewarding.... I am no longer in the teaching field at the moment, and I still feel like I am meant to do something in regards to the schools? But maybe not in the classroom? I do feel like I made the right choice for this point in my life but it is definitely not a good feeling when you dread going to work everyday.

about the Disney Wedding discount for employees.... if that is true.... SIGN ME UP!!

Thank you! I used an app on my iPod that counts calories for me and it's been a HUGE help to get these lbs off of my too-bootyliscous bod.

Not sure what I would want to do at Disney if I worked there. Maybe a mobster or cowgirl on the Great Movie Ride.

Hii! Just joining in..

Everything looks great! I LOVE your venue and cannot wait to see it in action! It's going to be absolutely gorgeous! And sooo different! I'm kinda jealous! =]

As far as the job goes, I have my teacher certification also, and being that I don't have a job I can't relate exactly. But I know what you're going through, which is part of the reason as to why I haven't really been super duper pushing for an actual teaching position. I'm not sure how I feel about it anymore. Sometimes it's sooo rewarding and others... not so much?

Love your dress. Love color combo number 2!

Can't wait to see what else you come up with!

Welcome and thanks!

DF and I were looking for something a bit more different and already have a bunch of ideas for the space. Work is starting to get a little better since I started avoiding talking to my supervisor. I'm starting to think he's the root of all these feelings I've been having. So, we'll see how long I can make this new plan last.

Love #2!!!

Thanks! I think that's the way I'm leaning now.

 

[belle2211]

Not sure what I would want to do at Disney if I worked there. Maybe a mobster or cowgirl on the Great Movie Ride.

Lol..that's what I do there seasonally! Love it!

 

[super_k0116]

Lol..that's what I do there seasonally! Love it!

Gah! So jealous. I would have said SuperStar Television host, but it's gone.

 

[super_k0116]

This weekend was DD's 3rd birthday!! We had a Tangled theme birthday party complete with Rapunzel birthday cake, a Rapunzel dress and toddler bedding set from Grandma, and pink & purple balloons EVERYWHERE. DD got quite a haul (including a princess sing-a-long CD player we bought from disneystore.com that doesn't work and they won't exchange! ) and two helpings of birthday cake because my cousin's birthday was the day before DD's and had his party the same day as DD's.

So in the morning, DF, another cousin (who is 20), my Dad and I played laser-tag with a gaggle of 8/9 year-old boys in a black-lit room. Which BTW revealed that two of the diamonds in my ring are probably FAKE!

The two outer diamonds in my engagement band started glowing a milky white color while the rest of my diamonds in the ring were black under the glow of black light. I'm not sure what I should do or what I'm entitled to. I'm pretty sure we weren't told that some of the stones were fake in my band, so I'm fairly upset by this.

On another note, we sent out our STDs today! Fortunately, they only needed one stamp a piece. I was so worried it would be more because of the magnet inside each envelope, but it was all for nothing.

We have 111 people on out guest list as of today. Keeping my fingers crossed that about half will say they can't come or they're coming without a date/their kids. Otherwise, we'll have to find a different location for the reception again. Yikes.

 

[super_k0116]

Ok, after looking at color palettes for weddings online to make what I had picked out work. I finally decided the color I liked most out of the colors I picked was the blue. Still liked pink but started to get sick of looking at the coral and noticing there weren't too many resources available to make items for the wedding in coral pink. So we switched to shades of blush. Finally, i took out the yellow and brown options and opted for taupe/nude. Here's the look:

So, I feel like I'm the most indecisive bride on the Dis or maybe I'm sharing too much too soon without making final decisions. To be honest this has consistently been my style in life. Always changing paper themes and project ideas at the last minute in school. At least most of them worked out in the end.

I've been looking at our seemingly ever-growing guest, the money we can put aside each paycheck (without riding mules to work and eating nothing but recycled paper for every meal) and the day we need to submit our final payment. As of now, the numbers aren't adding up to what they need to. Therefore, DF and I had to have a serious talk about the wedding yesterday. We are looking at pushing the wedding back to October and retooling our guest list to ensure only 50 people, at most, come to the wedding. Otherwise, we're looking at changing locations, extra costs across the board and sacrificing what we want on our wedding day. DF is a minimalist and I'm a lazy "thank you" note writer, so, thankfully, we're on the same page with all of this.

BRIDEZILLA moment:

I called my mom last night to discuss my and DF decision of changing the date to save more money and cut the guest list to 50. She comes back with, "Oh, ok. I wanted to invite some people from work but you haven't asked me."

I'm a bit irritated by this because I had just told her we're trying to set a reasonable budget with a small guest list and both Mark and I don't really want anyone there that we don't know personally. We don't want strangers seeing us cry or having an awkward "hello and thanks for coming" in our receiving line. We just want a day to celebrate with those most important to the two of us.

On the other hand, she is paying for part of the wedding and I feel guilty for maybe having to talk with her about this and put a nix to it. DF thinks we should give her a list of the people we want to invite and tell her to choose who shouldn't come in place of some of her coworkers.

Is this too big a bridezilla thing or am I being reasonable?

 

[lilsqueakrr]

Ok, after looking at color palettes for weddings online to make what I had picked out work. I finally decided the color I liked most out of the colors I picked was the blue. Still liked pink but started to get sick of looking at the coral and noticing there weren't too many resources available to make items for the wedding in coral pink. So we switched to shades of blush. Finally, i took out the yellow and brown options and opted for taupe/nude. Here's the look:

So, I feel like I'm the most indecisive bride on the Dis or maybe I'm sharing too much too soon without making final decisions. To be honest this has consistently been my style in life. Always changing paper themes and project ideas at the last minute in school. At least most of them worked out in the end.

I've been looking at our seemingly ever-growing guest, the money we can put aside each paycheck (without riding mules to work and eating nothing but recycled paper for every meal) and the day we need to submit our final payment. As of now, the numbers aren't adding up to what they need to. Therefore, DF and I had to have a serious talk about the wedding yesterday. We are looking at pushing the wedding back to October and retooling our guest list to ensure only 50 people, at most, come to the wedding. Otherwise, we're looking at changing locations, extra costs across the board and sacrificing what we want on our wedding day. DF is a minimalist and I'm a lazy "thank you" note writer, so, thankfully, we're on the same page with all of this.

BRIDEZILLA moment:

I called my mom last night to discuss my and DF decision of changing the date to save more money and cut the guest list to 50. She comes back with, "Oh, ok. I wanted to invite some people from work but you haven't asked me."

I'm a bit irritated by this because I had just told her we're trying to set a reasonable budget with a small guest list and both Mark and I don't really want anyone there that we don't know personally. We don't want strangers seeing us cry or having an awkward "hello and thanks for coming" in our receiving line. We just want a day to celebrate with those most important to the two of us.

On the other hand, she is paying for part of the wedding and I feel guilty for maybe having to talk with her about this and put a nix to it. DF thinks we should give her a list of the people we want to invite and tell her to choose who shouldn't come in place of some of her coworkers.

Is this too big a bridezilla thing or am I being reasonable?

I think that you are definitely being reasonable.. I had a talk similar to this when we first began putting together the guest list. DF was SUPER overwhelmed as to how LARGE my family is and how many people my father had wanted to invite from work, etc. DF's total list, friends included, is 49 people. Mine is about 3 times that.. BUT, as I explained to him MY PARENTS are PAYING for a large majority of the wedding.. us only having to pay for flowers and transportation. So we REALLY couldn't say much..

On your hand though I would just sit down and talk to your mom and try to reason with her, she is paying part of it.. but not for all of it. Unless she can contribute a little bit more money on the funds part, there really isn't any give in as to how many more people can be invited to the wedding because you cannot afford it. And see what she says??

Hopefully it all works out.. if the pleasant way doesn't work.. do what your DF says, show the list and tell her to replace who she wants with who she wants to invite from work and see how it goes?

Good luck girl!

 

[LuvLuvLuv]

Gah! So jealous. I would have said SuperStar Television host, but it's gone.

lol.... my life long dream was to host mickey's magical tv world. i can still sing you the song but i won't, . when it closed, i was devastated to have to find another profession.

 

[elle1024]

I'm really sorry you may have to postpone the wedding... I don't really have any suggestions for you on your guest list... I wish I did since I wish I could get away with not inviting some of the people on mine. I'm up to 80 not including anyone DF's mom would want to invite... they don't have much family and if it wasn't for DF's friends then most of that list would be mine... which is why on one hand I feel bad not adding some guests she would want to invite and on the other I don't really care since those people DF doesn't really care for... but anyways enough about that. I'm sure everything will work out for you. Look on the brigt side, more time to plan!

All your ideas are coming together so nicely. Love the new color combination & your inspiration pics.

 

[super_k0116]

I think that you are definitely being reasonable.. I had a talk similar to this when we first began putting together the guest list. DF was SUPER overwhelmed as to how LARGE my family is and how many people my father had wanted to invite from work, etc. DF's total list, friends included, is 49 people. Mine is about 3 times that.. BUT, as I explained to him MY PARENTS are PAYING for a large majority of the wedding.. us only having to pay for flowers and transportation. So we REALLY couldn't say much..

On your hand though I would just sit down and talk to your mom and try to reason with her, she is paying part of it.. but not for all of it. Unless she can contribute a little bit more money on the funds part, there really isn't any give in as to how many more people can be invited to the wedding because you cannot afford it. And see what she says??

Hopefully it all works out.. if the pleasant way doesn't work.. do what your DF says, show the list and tell her to replace who she wants with who she wants to invite from work and see how it goes?

Good luck girl!

Thanks for the support. Mom did text me today and said she didn't need to invite some of the people from work. She didn't realize or didn't let it sink in that we were trying to keep things small. So, at least that is ok now.

Even though now I'm getting static from my aunt for changing the date because she was planning on taking a cruise a couple of days after our wedding and now we changed the day she's freaking out even though she hasn't even booked the cruise. She told me none of her family will come and no one else will probably come if we keep changing the date and we should just get married at home because obviously we can't afford this wedding. Overreaction much? Oh well, five new spots for guests that would be happy to come to the wedding, even it if has been postponed by four months.

lol.... my life long dream was to host mickey's magical tv world. i can still sing you the song but i won't, . when it closed, i was devastated to have to find another profession.

That would have been awesome! Can't say I could stand being a Jungle Cruise skipper.

I'm really sorry you may have to postpone the wedding... I don't really have any suggestions for you on your guest list... I wish I did since I wish I could get away with not inviting some of the people on mine. I'm up to 80 not including anyone DF's mom would want to invite... they don't have much family and if it wasn't for DF's friends then most of that list would be mine... which is why on one hand I feel bad not adding some guests she would want to invite and on the other I don't really care since those people DF doesn't really care for... but anyways enough about that. I'm sure everything will work out for you. Look on the brigt side, more time to plan!

All your ideas are coming together so nicely. Love the new color combination & your inspiration pics.

Thank you. I'm kind of relieved about moving the date back four months it gives us a little more time to save and pick exactly what we want, how we want to do it and execute a better plan on who to invite and how to invite them. Before now, we've been kind in a "let's get this done without really thinking this through" and it's been driving DF crazy. Making a concrete plan now that we have a better idea will make things so much easier.

As far as the guest list goes, I think we'll send out a card letting everyone on our STD list that the wedding has been postponed indefinitely. Then we'll wait until we sign our LOA and send out new STDs to our first round picks of guests and ask for pre-RSVPs then gauge who else we can invite off of that.

Hopefully that can keep our budget in check more easily.

 

[super_k0116]

Now that we picked our colors, not changing them! (mantra), I think I've got the invitation design pinned down. Here it is for review and constructive criticism.

We plan on having a pocket invite in our taupe color and maybe an ice blue matte inside with extra details for the (I'm assuming) several people who won't look at and retain info from our website. So more to come from that in the coming many more months.

 

[KristiLyn]

I love it!!!!

 

[lilsqueakrr]

Invite looks FAB. Only thing I would recommend is to make your names a little bit larger to stand out a bit more?? Bigger font size, bold? After all it is all about you two! Maybe add middle names too? I feel like it makes everything sound a bit more formal.. ;] Just minor things. Otherwise, loves them.

 

[super_k0116]

Invite looks FAB. Only thing I would recommend is to make your names a little bit larger to stand out a bit more?? Bigger font size, bold? After all it is all about you two! Maybe add middle names too? I feel like it makes everything sound a bit more formal.. ;] Just minor things. Otherwise, loves them.

I'll look into the bigger font for our names. The original does have our middle names, I just didn't feel comfortable posting them on a public forum.

 

[lilsqueakrr]

Aw okay, cool! =]