Kinda A Personal Question For The Guys (Girls can Read too)

[Princess_Aurora]

Once you're settled down and have all the kids you want, would you have a vasectomy? My mother had her tubes tied as have most of the women in my family. I surely don't want to take BC pills all my life and having your tubes tide is more complicated. And if you get a vasectomy when would you get one? DH says he only wants the two kids and no more so now that we've just had our second should he do it now (if he can overcome the fear) or wait a while still? And for the guys that have already had one...was it really that bad???

 

[Towncrier]

The procedure is not that bad and a vasectomy is a lot easier to perform than a tubal ligation. In our case, I figured that it was the very least that I could do for our relationship.

Sterilization is a serious matter and should not be taken lightly. The odds of reversing either operation are slim to none. You must be absolutely certain that you don't want to make any more babies. In our case, we talked it over with our physician and with our parents before going ahead with the procedure.

Good luck in your decision.

 

[Meriweather]

My husband had it done when our second child was 2 months old.

 

[Jeff in BigD]

I can only speak for myself, but I'm nervous about someone wanting to fool around with the plumbing. I realize they say it's completely safe, but if they do mess up...

 

[shep]

I'm with Jeff..

 

[jfulcer]

from what I have read, it is a relatively easy procedure to do, and I'm thinking that I'm going to be having this done soon... Conversations are still ongoing.

and BigD - for you, it's too late.

 

[Jeff in BigD]

Originally posted by jfulcer
and BigD - for you, it's too late.

I've got your vasectomy right here!

 

[Troyfus]

I agree with Towncrier. It is a very serious matter and all options for wanting more children must be considered. That said......
I opted to have the procedure done when my youngest turned one. My spouse had minor complications during the birth of both of our sons that could have become major. We wanted to try for a girl, but my love for my wife overuled that desire. WE decided to hold at two, and when the little one turned one.....SNIP!
We waited till he was one just to make sure. First year survival factors and all....
Now for the report: YES!! The procedure was in and out in less than two hours (that included the waiting room time).
I was a llittle sore.....ummmmm.... a lot sore for several days, but no complications arose. I followed the doctor's orders to the letter!
My wife and sons went to visit relatives for a week during the recovery. It kept me from lifting the boys or doing anything that would aggravate the healing. The personal time with no "honey-do lists" is a must for the guy opting in on this procedure.
Four years later: sex is still as awesome with my wife as ever.......better.....no worries!
IMHO: Any guy who makes his wife get her tubes tied because he has personal fears of losing his manhood, .....

 

[dianeschlicht]

My DH had it done when our second child was 5. We waited 6 years between our first and second child, because our first was not terribly healthy. When second was 5, we knew our family was complete, so he had it done then. It was no problem for him at all. He said it was as easy as a dental visit, and it was done in the doctor's office.

 

[believe]

shep: I'm with Jeff..

He may be with Jeff now, but he did tell me he will consider it as he gets closer to 40. The hold off is that individuals do change their mind depending on events in their lives. My SIL wished she didn't have her tubes tied right after #2. She would love another child and I believe they are considering adoption now.

 

[snoopy]

Our youngest son was 2 years old when DH had a vasectomy. There was never any question of me having my tubes tied, a vasectomy is a much easier operation than a tubal ligation, so we knew when the time came, DH would be the one to do it.

We did wait 2 years for the reasons named above, we wanted to make sure our family was complete with 2 children. DH was leaning toward another one more than I was, but in the end, we realized that 2 children was perfect for us. Neither of us have ever regretted our decision.

 

[Cindy B]

I will practically ditto what Snoopy said... it is a less invasive procedure than tubal.

It was less expensive with insurance as well. It was an outpatient procedure (30 minutes max!)

2 kids is perfect for us.. we got lucky, boy and girl, best of both worlds.

 

[amid chaos]

DH had all the necessary matters with the doctor taken care of before #3 was born. He had a vasectomy when DD was 8 days old.

 

[glo]

Sore point between DH and I. For medical reason for me I should not get pregnant. The birth of the twins almost killed me and it was suggested that be the last. The pill is not good for me for more health reasons, but DH refuses. Feels he will be less, I guess. Even the Dr. has talked to him about how much easier it is for a guy to have it done and still a no go

 

[Troyfus]

If your DH has any questions, please ask him to PM or email me. I will answer any questions he might have. I would not hesitate to do it again if I had to make the choice over again. I wanted to take no chances with my DW having any more complications.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

All the guys on our court are going to get one. We gals feel we did our part, now it is their turn. In fact no one is on BC...our bc days are over.
My friends Dh did it after the birth of their 5th child. HE RAN OUT and got one...wonder why?

 

[Mark P.]

Sheesh! You had to bring that up,lol

After 2 appointments cancelled by the office saying the Doctor had emergency surgery, I'm scheduled to finally get it done on August 30th. At this point, I just want to get it over with, and if they cancel again, I'm going to go elsewhere. Personally, I wouldn't want DW to go through getting a tubal, as a vasectomy's much less invasive.

This past month, I've had a couple friends who got it done, and both made out fine. Just sat around "on ice" for a couple of days

Might as well bring this up...A co-worker of mine had a reversal done around a month ago. Now, that was some major surgery, and they won't know for a while if it worked or not.

 

[ckr]

DH has never even considered that I should undergo major surgery for this when he knows he can handle it via a doctor's office visit. I guess his "Protector of the Family" concept outweighs his "Dude, you are NOT going there!" fears.

One interesting note is that after surgery, you must take back a "sample" for them to test to be sure the "pipes" are clear of the "little swimmers."

The pamphlet says after about ____ "pipe purges" (can't recall how many right now), approximately ___ weeks, to bring back the sample. Being the great, motivating wife that I am, I promised DH we would cut that time in half!

 

[s&k'smom]

This is a "sore" subject between DH and me. He doesn't want to get it done but also does not want more children. I can live with two kids but I wouldn't mind one more either. My pregnancies are very easy but wouldn't have one if DH didn't agree. We work seperate shifts so together time is minimal and though there are "issues" with us getting pregnant again I have a fear that when I turn 40 we'll both be as fertile as the green hills in Ireland.

 

[Serena]

My dh had it done about 10 years ago. It took a whole 10 minutes.

We haven't had to worry about birth control since.