If you go to an a la carte restuarant, or counter service, they can share off your plate, or you can order, and pay for their own food. At a buffet, they can eat, and you will not be charged. They don't have to "eat off of your plate". We were there right before dd turned 3, and didn't have a problem making her a small plate from the buffet, and not being charged. In fact, not one server even asked how old she was, it was all in the ADR. When we went to pre-plated places, we were brought food and not charged. Cinderella's Royal table brought her french toast sticks, and at Princess Norway Restuarant, she was able to pick something off the kids menu, and we weren't charged.