Kathy's Journey to Better Self Image (Comments Welcome

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I hope putting my thoughts and feelings on 'paper' would assist me in my journey to be thinner. I am 52 years old, have two daughters in college, and suffer from empty nest syndrom.

I started on the WISH boards at the suggestion of my oldest daughter. She thought I could relate to others who are trying to lose also. I feel somewhat like a fake on these boards. I signed on to the WISH challenge at 178#. I would like to get down to 145 as a goal weight. I see where some of you have had a bigger challenge than me and are able to support others regardless of their weight loss goals.

I am newly divorced (just over a year). My dd2 hit me with the statement coming home from my Mother's at Xmas that she wished I have divorced her father when she was in middle school. She is currently a freshmen in college. I thought I was doing the best for her and instead I was making life miserable for myself and the two girls. :confused3 :confused3 Hindsight is 20-20.

I currently take both antidepressents and anxeity medication. I have been on antidepressents for about 2.5 years. During my 6 month checkup today, I asked the doctor which medication were sabotaging my weight loss efforts. Both of the above drugs are the culprits along with my lifestyle. By that, I mean the fact that I eat my major meal between 7 an 9 at night. She suggested I try to get home earlier to eat before 7 and then exercise. Seems like I read that from alot of your posts. She said I should be thankful that my exercise routine has kept me from gaining alot of weight. I am currently only about 10# heavier that I have been for the last 10 years so maybe I am doing something somewhat right.

A little background on the depression: marriage should have ended about 10 yrs ago (stuck it out for 31 years though). My former mother-in-law passed away in Aug 2003, just before I dropped the bomb on the ex that I was filing for divorce (the one thing he did right was not contest is so it became final within 3 months of the separation agreement being signed. It probably helped that I let him walk away with his pension while I kept the house (with the debt of course). Two weeks before the divorce becoming final, my father passed away suddenly. He had been sick for about 2 years prior be he was doing well and it was a shock to everyone. In July dd1 moved to Maine to start medical school. Three weeks later dd2 moved to Virginia to start college. I handled it well until late Sept early Oct before crashing (my doctor said she knew I would crash, she just didn't know how long it would take)

I finally got serious about getting healthier after reading the thread on everyone trials and tribulations toward their weight loss journies. I felt with the right support, I could do it also. You have all been very encouraging and I appreciate all the kind words. I have used my injuries as an excuse in the past as a reason not to exercise or not stick with it once I started. I just finished 7 weeks of PT on my knee. The back of the kneecap has softened and it was not tracking right so I had pain going up and down stairs as well as just walking. It is a degerative problem I inherited. My mother has had both her knees replaced and my sister (1 yr my senior) is having her second knee replaced this spring. I am trying to avoid the same trap. I have also been in PT to strengthen the muscles in my shoulder to hopefully aleviate the pain from a rotator cuff tear. I turned 50 and started to fall apart. :rotfl2: :rotfl2: :rotfl2:

As an incentive, I have registered for the Mickey Half next January. I talked DD2 into doing it with me. DD1 is doing the full on Sun. We are making it a family affair. I will have to be in shape to complete the race in the alloted time. Maybe by working hard I can take off the excess weight.
 
Kathy!!!! The :sunny: is going to shine on you!!! You've had a trying couple of years to say the least...what a blessing to have two daughters who love and support you! The whole WISH team is here to give you encouragment and support through to your GOAL!!! :grouphug:

You are doing GREAT with exercise given your hours at work!!! Staying after long PT sessions and working more in is AMAZING!!! I know how you feel with the knees...I can't wear anything but supportive walking shoes...they were hurting terribly last week and when I got my new shoes they were 75% better...most of the popping is gone and my front knee pain while walking has really improved....maybe you could meet with a good foot clinic or sports shop and ask for suggestions...I heard a doctor once say that if he hears knee pain he immediately thinks of shoes or hip posture...I think mine is mostly related to shoes.

But it really stinks to have to deal with injuries while trying to up the exercise...so let's give them a little time to heal and I bet as soon as tax season is over you'll have more energy and drive to have a great losing summer!!! And after tax season...maybe try a hobby...you've been raising those precious girls for soo long that it's time to treat yourself....mine aren't gone yet but I'm taking guitar lessons just to give me some "me" time. Come and post to your journal...it really helps!!! And just give a shout for the successes or challenging days...we'll hooop and hollllar for you!! :cheer2:

You are such a GREAT support to all on the 150's team....I THANK YOU for that!!! I wouldn't have made it as far as I have in this last month without you!!!

ONWARDS & DOWNWARDS!!!
Tara
 
You are making the 1st grand step. :) You have a plan and you wrote it down!

Sounds like life has given you a great deal of stress over the last year especially, more like 10 yrs...

Good for your DD to tell you to find a place like WISH. These are great folks and they have helped me sooooooo much!

Looking forward to keeping up with your progress! :sunny:
 
Kathy,

Welcome to WISH!! As we say here, ONWARD & DOWNWARD!!

:grouphug:
 

Today was another one of those mixed up days. While I was in the office this morning, for 2.5 hrs., it seemed the only thing I accomplished was field phone calls from clients wanting to know my schedule. I am working with 3 clients, 2 of whom have problems wlth computer programs (getting little or no support from the companies) who want me to see if I can help them. i prefer doning that to taxes anyway but does it have to happen all at once :confused3 :confused3 :confused3 The third client just got in their 3 new computers and wants me to assist them transfering data from their old machines and re-network the new computers. They figure it would be easier to come up on a Saturday because they are only open until noon and don't get many walk in customers then. The bookkeeper said this week isn't good. Next week isn't real good for my as Xterratri is off for spring break and will only be home for the weekend before heading south for the week. My schedule has to be flexible enough to work into their schedules. As the boss likes to say "Remember who provides the money for our paychecks." This is part of the reason I am trying to start my own business.

I am still working with the teamster client, their bookkeeper is frustrated by their 'wonderful program'. Seems they mandate the unions to use their software but don't have anyone at the international who can fully support it because it is a new update. It's amazing how they think the users can figure out something they can't do themselves. :badpc: :badpc:

Tomorrow, i agreed to spend 2 hours at a clients to determine if I can figure out their new program. Their support person in St Louis has only worked for the company for 6 weeks. I figure I can help as much as she can. They can't even get a maual for the program. I guess the software company wants them to pay big bucks for their technical support. Funny thing about that, they usually don't know the first thing about the accounting process. they reiterate what they find in their technical manuals which is better than nothing at all.

I don't find out about the Long Island consulting job until next week. If it goes through, I will only have about 4 days to rearrange my schedule to be out of town for the week. Oh well, wouldn;t want anything easy. :rotfl2: :rotfl2: :rotfl2:

I went to the gym after work and completed the strength training circuit my trainer set me up on last week. I felt less stressed after working out. I should have no excuse not to exercise if I continue to use it as a stress relief valve.

I have signed up for the March Challenge. It will help me when I think I'm too tired to move to have a goal to strive for. :Pinkbounc :Pinkbounc
 
The challenges are great!!! They really keep you motivated! :cool1:
 
Just thought I would catch this up. Managed to be in the office on Weds but was not very productive. Was at loose ends trying to figure out what to do first. March 15 (corporate return deadline) is just around the corner so I should get focused soon.

Wednesday - ate reasonably healthy, drank LOTS of water, had PT for an hour and spent 45 min on arctrainer.

Thursday - ate healthy during day, went to gym and completed strength circuit, sat in hot tub 20 min and had 1 hr massage :) :)
From there, the day went downhill. After supper, I got a major case of the munchies - ate 5 (90 cal) reeses peanut butter eggs, and a bowl of Breyers rocky road ice cream. I wasn't really hungry but I couldn't seem to resist the urge to binge either :rotfl2: :rotfl2:

Friday - ate much healthier although I was hungry all morning - 7:30 am appt threw my schedule off. I picked at snacks the rest of the morning (an orange, some baby carrots and a 50 cal bag of pretzels). Was very glad when lunch finally arrived. Evening went much better, ate supper before 7 and did not eat after. :cool1: :cool1: Urge wasn't there.
 
I spent 60 min on the stationary bike for a distance of 14.29 miles and an ave HR of 133 BPM. I have to think of something healthy for supper. Vegetables and chix, turkey or pork are probably the choices.

May go on the TM after supper so I can finish watching the current episode of 24
 
Awesome job on the bike!!! keep it up! :cool1:
 
Haven't posted for a while. This has been a hectic week with funeral and being out of town for 2 days as well as being sick on Monday.

Exercise this week has been non-existant. :sad2: :sad2: :sad2: :sad2: Have PT today so plan on staying at gym and using arc trainer for 45 min. Other than the 2 days out of town, I have eaten reasonably so hopefully am maintaining and not gaining.

Losing three days at work have made me second guess my new adventure. I need about another week before going on a scdhedule of working for my employer of 18 years and working as an independent contractor every other week. I will be on Long Island living in a hotel every other week. Will strive to eat as healthy as possible. (I am also doing an independent job trying to get a unions benefit fund audit ready) Am I spreading myself to thin. :confused3 :confused3 :confused3 They also have a fitness center at the hotel and if all goes well i plan to exercise at least 45 min per day. I am also taking my stretch cords so I can do some resistance work also.

Off to work to see if I can accomplish enough today so I don't have to work all weekend (Lynne is coming home tonight for her spring break. she will be flying to Atlanta on Sun AM so I will only see her tomorrow).

Need to seriously get back on track. :cool1: :cool1: :cool1:
 
Come on Kathy! You can do it! :cheer2: I hope you have a good time with Lynne!
 
Best wishes to you! I'm sure you'll manage hotel living just fine! It's awesome they have a fitness center--you'll definitely be putting it to good use!

Have a great weekend?
 
Have settled into the hotel here in Hauppauge. The fitness center has enough equipment to keep me on track execising (only if I go down to use it).

Goals for today:
8 glasses of water - only 36 oz
30 - 60 min exercise - none
no non-diet soda - yes
eat healthy - except for reeses pieces

Since I worked from 6:30 am until 11:30, I didn't get on the road until about 1:30 PM. I was tired by the time I got here. Mapquest said it should take about 5.5 hrs. It did, they even took into account the extra time for traffic in NYC and on the LI expressway. The have signs up telling you which exchanges have bottlenecks.

Will try to exercise first thing in the morniing to get me energized for the day. I will be done by 4:30 so I should be able to exercise in the afternoon/early evening also.
 
Kathy!! You are doing GREAT!!! Look at those workouts!!! :banana: Hope you are enjoying your LI visit and not working too hard!!! Knowing you're on the road and still find time to work out ...it really makes me want to work out, too!!! Thanks!!!!

Keep posting to your journal..you'll see great changes over the next few months!! And the time really does fly by! :cheer2: :cheer2: :grouphug:

Tara
 
Day three as interim controller. Job is exciting, challengeing and somewhat over-whelming all at the same time. Every one here is so willing to help with what they can. Former controller was a control freak so noone really knows everything she did or even how to do it.

Breakfast consisted of 2 frosted cherry pop-tarts. Not the most nutritious but food to keep me from getting a headache later. Will try not to graze all morning but am taking the chex mix with me in case I get too hungry. A little to satisy the hunger pains and keep the nausiated feeling from being too hungary under control.

Worked for 2 hours last night on an account I brought from home. Don't feel I am making as much headway as I need, but I'm trying.

Going out to dinner with some of the dept managers in the office tonight. Will try to eat healthy and make time for exercise when I get back to the hotel.

Have consumed 16 oz of water so far so I have to remember to keep the water bottle filled and actually drink it.
 
Last evening on the Island for this stay. This week has been spent putting out brush fires and trying to get a handle on their way of operating. Finally felt like I accomplished somehting today. Have to clean off the desk so I don't have to keep looking for papers I know I have had my hands on at some time this week. The top of the desk looks like someone brought in a dump truck of files and emptied them there. Have been busy all week determining cash needs and setting up a system so they will have adequate resources to meet operational needs next week while I am back in Syracuse.

Need to start drinking more water and less soda. I only like ice cold water so I should put one bottle in the freezer while I drink the other one. Next time I'm here I need to eat smaller lunches. I feel so stuffed after eating which proves to me that I really didn't need everything I ate.
 
Looking at the calendar today made me realize how much I have to do by April 15 and how liitle time I will be in the office to accomplish it. I think i need my head examined for taking on 2 outside clients during tax season. One of my regular clients also needs 6 month financials by April 8. I just have to take it one day at a time. If I get too stressed, I procrastinate and get in a major crunch to meet deadlines.

I am enjoying trying to start my onw business while working full time where I have worked for the last 18 years. It will be different but if I can get the business off the ground I will have more control over my income and my time off.

Have to keep in mind that next disney trip is May 29. :cool1: :cool1: :cool1: It won't come any too soon. Hope to still have my sanity by then.

Todays eating has been better than the last few days. I cheated an checked the scale this morning and I have maintained my weight without exercise and without eating the greatest. Hope to get some time on the bike or treadmill tonight. Have been doing family's tax returns since getting home from work after working 9 hrs.

Am going to Panera's with dd2 for supper. She goes back to college Sunday. Will leave for another week on Long Island after taking her to the airport. :moped:
 
Good job on maintaining your weight despite all of the challenges of the past week!

Hope you have a yummy dinner--Panera is great for tastly, healthy meals!
 















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