Just Went to Kim's Wake

[AmandaSparks730]

Hardest freaking thing I've ever done.

It was closed-casket...no surprise...the condition of her body...and all...

Her sketchbook and karate things were on top of it. I know...knew...that sketchbook SO WELL. She was always drawing in it, always.

Lots of pictures. She was so cute as a little girl. There was this one that just broke my heart, of her and Jake at Homecoming last September...
Just the way she was looking up at him, so adoringly (which isn't like her...wasn't...)...and him looking so happy. She looked so pretty in her dress. You could tell that they really, really loved each other (I'm amazed Jake's even been coming to school, with all that's been going on).

SO many people were there. The line went down the street by the time I left (around 4:15). The wake was supposed to start at 4, but I suppose started early because of the amount of people there. So many friends...her entire karate team showed up in their uniforms...her mom kept crying...sister (Jamie,13) seemed subdued. Poor Jamie. She and Kim got along, yes, but she always seemed to kind of be in Kim's shadow, know what I mean?

All in all, very sad experiance. "I can't believe this is goodbye", in the words of RENT.

Before they go to mass, the funeral procession is going to drive around the main driveway of the school. Everyone's going to go outside to see it...say our last...

Sorry, just had to dump that all out. I just...I can't believe...she's gone...

 

[imabrat]

Oh, Meg. My heart is breaking for you and your classmates right now. I know exactly how you feel.

J was cremated and there was no service. When I went to visit her last week it was like a ton of bricks - she's not sick anymore, she's just in that box in the living room instead of the hospital bed. It sucks, there's really nothing to say or do that will make it feel better except cry.
J's mom is planning a memorial party/celebration before school ends and it is going to be very emotional.

 

[MrsSparrow..]

We had a girl that died in our year group at school recently too. It was horrific, and I totally understand what your going through. Her funeral was something that I never want to repeat again, the size of the casket and her family -.- Yeah, I totally get how you feel
You will never forget her and you and your friends will remember all the amazing times you had spent with her or seen her having.
Petty things seem to be unimportant now.

My thoughts are with you, her family, friends and your school.

 

[Smiley.Socks]

Meg, you and your classmates are so, so brave.


You, Your Friends, Kim's family.. anyone who knew her will be in my thoughts hon'.

 

[I Am What I Am]

No one should ever have to go through that.

 

[AmandaSparks730]

Thanks, guys. It was seriously the hardest thing I've had to do...just to see all those people who cared about her. Even people who didn't know her at all were crying. Just goes to show you that a tragedy can really bring a community together.

Let's just hope nothing like this ever happens again

 

[disneychick2721]

 

[OneTreeHill]

 

[wilmabride'sdaughter]

Aww bless you Meg. My thoughts and feelings are with you and your school right now.

 

[AmandaSparks730]

K,

Thanks, Jess

Aww bless you Meg. My thoughts and feelings are with you and your school right now.

Aw, thanks Sian.

Today, the funeral procession drove around the circular driveway in front of the school. The entire school came out to form an honor guard...a sort of final goodbye. Everyone was sobbing and hugging (I was hysterically crying. Many people asked if I was okay, people who generally ignore me. Lots of hugs, too). Everyone just went dead quiet; you could only hear the crying. Her family passing by in the cars were all crying, too...just the thought of us all being out there to send Kim off...the casket car...I just LOST it. (like that). There was a storm here last night, a big one, that knocked out the power for a while this morning. As the procession started, the sun began to come out, the skies blue...I knew then that Kim is at peace...at last, she's at peace...

A very emotional day at PHS.

 

[wilmabride'sdaughter]

Awww. I know how it feels to lose someone. I can sympathise. I'm glad you know Kim is at peace

 

[AmandaSparks730]

Awww. I know how it feels to lose someone. I can sympathise. I'm glad you know Kim is at peace

I'm glad that I know, too. We all couldn't stop crying. In a way, it was beautiful. Sad, but beautiful.

Lots of hugs all around, even from people I'm not really close with.

 

[cindys_castle2011]

I'm sorry you had to go through that.
The wake and funeral service are always very hard.

My best guy friend died the morning on Christmas Eve. His friend accidentally shot him.
The bullet went through another friends hand, the box he was holding, and out his other hand..
kept going and went through the truck's door which Brad was sitting in.. went through his
side and out the other truck door. The memorial service was actually harder to go to then the funeral.
They had his basketball jersey hanging on the casket and then team came in wearing their jerseys.

Loosing someone so young, is definitely the hardest thing someone can go through.
I'm sorry for you loss, but your fiend Kim now, and my friend Brad are both at peace now.

Think of it like I do, now you have an extra guardian angle watching over you

 

[AmandaSparks730]

I'm sorry you had to go through that.
The wake and funeral service are always very hard.

My best guy friend died the morning on Christmas Eve. His friend accidentally shot him.
The bullet went through another friends hand, the box he was holding, and out his other hand..
kept going and went through the truck's door which Brad was sitting in.. went through his
side and out the other truck door. The memorial service was actually harder to go to then the funeral.
They had his basketball jersey hanging on the casket and then team came in wearing their jerseys.

Loosing someone so young, is definitely the hardest thing someone can go through.
I'm sorry for you loss, but your fiend Kim now, and my friend Brad are both at peace now.

Think of it like I do, now you have an extra guardian angle watching over you

Thanks, Cindy

I'm so sorry about Brad. That's terrible! I can't imagine the guilt his friend must live with every day. Nice about the team showing up in their jerseys; her karate team showed up in their uniforms too.

 

[DramaGirl]

First of all, I'm so, so sorry. This must be so hard for you. I've never lost a friend my age, so I don't have any idea how you feel, but

Thanks, guys. It was seriously the hardest thing I've had to do...just to see all those people who cared about her. Even people who didn't know her at all were crying. Just goes to show you that a tragedy can really bring a community together.

Let's just hope nothing like this ever happens again

That sentence reminded me of:
1- 9/11- just how the whole country came together after that, even with all the turmoil that was going on.

and 2- last February, there was a shooting in my town at a city hall meeting, and literally everyone knew someone or knew someone who knew somewone who was shot. Our town's such a close-knit community. Everyone came to the big plaza square type thing and there was a candlelit vigil, with all these different people talking. Everyone also put out bags full of cat litter/gravel with candles in them along the streets. Just driving through town that night was simply... incredible. The shops all had signs that said something like
(our town)
Lives together
Grieves together
Heals together.

Just the way the community came together and was so supportive. The mayor was shot but did not die (he died about 6-8 months later as a result) and there were signs all over, saying "You can do this, Mike!" or "We're behind you, Mike"

Just amazing. A year later, we had a memorial ceremony outside of the city hall, just across the street from where the vigil was last year. Almost as many people came to that as the first.

Sorry for taking this thread... just reminded me.
Again, I'll be praying for you guys.

 

[AmandaSparks730]

First of all, I'm so, so sorry. This must be so hard for you. I've never lost a friend my age, so I don't have any idea how you feel, but



That sentence reminded me of:
1- 9/11- just how the whole country came together after that, even with all the turmoil that was going on.

and 2- last February, there was a shooting in my town at a city hall meeting, and literally everyone knew someone or knew someone who knew somewone who was shot. Our town's such a close-knit community. Everyone came to the big plaza square type thing and there was a candlelit vigil, with all these different people talking. Everyone also put out bags full of cat litter/gravel with candles in them along the streets. Just driving through town that night was simply... incredible. The shops all had signs that said something like
(our town)
Lives together
Grieves together
Heals together.

Just the way the community came together and was so supportive. The mayor was shot but did not die (he died about 6-8 months later as a result) and there were signs all over, saying "You can do this, Mike!" or "We're behind you, Mike"

Just amazing. A year later, we had a memorial ceremony outside of the city hall, just across the street from where the vigil was last year. Almost as many people came to that as the first.

Sorry for taking this thread... just reminded me.
Again, I'll be praying for you guys.

Aww, thanks

 

[cindys_castle2011]

Thanks, guys. It was seriously the hardest thing I've had to do...just to see all those people who cared about her. Even people who didn't know her at all were crying. Just goes to show you that a tragedy can really bring a community together.

Let's just hope nothing like this ever happens again

Like 'DramaGirl' said, this reminds me of a few things also.

1.) A few years back (when I went to school) a boy at our school got in a terrible car accident on his way to school. I wouldn't say he was 'popular' (whatever that is.) But everyone knew him, and he was definitely the friendliest person in school. Well he was in the hospital for five months (the wreck was very bad) and the day he got released.. the principle came over the intercom(sp?) and said that he wanted everyone to walk outside to the front of the school. Well we all left class and did so, and a white car pulled up, and his mother walked to the back seat car door, opened it and helped him out. He walked very slowly towards all of us, and I looked around and saw everyone tearing up (even the guys) It was heartbreaking, but also relieving to see all the improvements he had made.

2.) Last summer, June to be exact; I was at my old boyfriend's house (in my hometown, fifteen min. away) watching a movie. Well I always just layed my phone on the coffee table and left it there, even if it rang or whatever. Within a five minute rage I received 12 texts, and like 5 calls.. So i automatically called my bestfriend. She was crying and I heard a lot of other people crying in the back ground. I started freaking out asking what happened. Well come to find out, my current boyfriend's older brother and his friend (someone I know pretty well also) was drinking and driving (in my current town) and hit and killed two little boys (cousins).. the two boys we're 5 and 7. I went to a VERY small church with them, so I knew them and the family well. I broke down and got my bf to bring me home. The boy driving, 'K' has spent a lot of time with the little boys families, they are very close now. They both have definitely paid for their mistakes. All three familes went through a hell of a lot dealing with this, but it's been almost a year now, and it's slowly getting better. It was a tragic to both towns, but it brought everyone within our two towns A LOT closer.

sorry so long.

Thanks, Cindy

I'm so sorry about Brad. That's terrible! I can't imagine the guilt his friend must live with every day. Nice about the team showing up in their jerseys; her karate team showed up in their uniforms too.

I love how they show respect like that. It gave me chills when they all walked in at the same time. They also signed a basketball and placed it on the table with all his pictures and memories things.. idk what they're called.

 

[K-Shong99]

i am sooooo sorry.
my prayers are going out to all of you guys.

 

[AmandaSparks730]

Like 'DramaGirl' said, this reminds me of a few things also.

1.) A few years back (when I went to school) a boy at our school got in a terrible car accident on his way to school. I wouldn't say he was 'popular' (whatever that is.) But everyone knew him, and he was definitely the friendliest person in school. Well he was in the hospital for five months (the wreck was very bad) and the day he got released.. the principle came over the intercom(sp?) and said that he wanted everyone to walk outside to the front of the school. Well we all left class and did so, and a white car pulled up, and his mother walked to the back seat car door, opened it and helped him out. He walked very slowly towards all of us, and I looked around and saw everyone tearing up (even the guys) It was heartbreaking, but also relieving to see all the improvements he had made.

2.) Last summer, June to be exact; I was at my old boyfriend's house (in my hometown, fifteen min. away) watching a movie. Well I always just layed my phone on the coffee table and left it there, even if it rang or whatever. Within a five minute rage I received 12 texts, and like 5 calls.. So i automatically called my bestfriend. She was crying and I heard a lot of other people crying in the back ground. I started freaking out asking what happened. Well come to find out, my current boyfriend's older brother and his friend (someone I know pretty well also) was drinking and driving (in my current town) and hit and killed two little boys (cousins).. the two boys we're 5 and 7. I went to a VERY small church with them, so I knew them and the family well. I broke down and got my bf to bring me home. The boy driving, 'K' has spent a lot of time with the little boys families, they are very close now. They both have definitely paid for their mistakes. All three familes went through a hell of a lot dealing with this, but it's been almost a year now, and it's slowly getting better. It was a tragic to both towns, but it brought everyone within our two towns A LOT closer.

sorry so long.



I love how they show respect like that. It gave me chills when they all walked in at the same time. They also signed a basketball and placed it on the table with all his pictures and memories things.. idk what they're called.

That's amazing. Her entire karate team was standing together, so sad. The entire parking lot was so, so quiet. You could just hear all the sobs. It was like everyone was holding their breath, just saying goodbye.

i am sooooo sorry.
my prayers are going out to all of you guys.

Thank you

 

[Tinkerbell424]

I pray for you and your friend/her family/her friends every night.
I couldn't imagine losing any of my friends or my family.
I was actually thinking about you and your friend in class today. I hope your doing okay.