Just getting this off my chest

[Kama89]

The words that we speak have so much power- the power to heal, to encourage, and to love... or the power to hurt and even sometimes destroy.

It breaks my heart as well Elaine when I see the hurtful (possibly hastily typed out?) words. I sometimes wonder if some of the comments I see on the CB would've been made by that same person if they had been standing face to face with the individual they're speaking to here. As you said, we all have the right to disagree and have our own opinions (Thank God... what a dull world it would be if we didn't!!) but maybe if we all spend just a moment or two running the words past our hearts before we speak or type them, the differences of opinion could simply remain that... a difference of opinion stated in a friendly and respectful manner. A retyped word here or a restructured phrase there could make all the difference in the world, and honestly people... isn't it nicer to love and be loved? I myself certainly prefer that over the alternative. I guess the problem with this theory is that, as Janice said... unfortunately there does always seem to be a small percentage of the population, no matter where you are, that honestly do seem to prefer the alternative.

 

[Disney Doll]

I agree caity, that evil is a very strong word. Nasty, disrespectful, and in many ways sad, but evil??? I don't know...

 

[coqui]

The problem also isn't always someone disagreeing with a person.

There are numerous posts I have seen in my short time here, that are flat out instigating an argument.

On one of the other forums that I went to, as soon as someone mentioned Religion, people automatically called them ignorant and stupid for following a belief.

When someone mentioned wrestling, they did the standard "it's fake" (which it isn't, just fixed)

Also there have been instances where someone said something that they felt incredibly sorrowful and someone else posted something that contradicted it( i.e. my cat died and they post I hate cats. while it is there opinion, that was neither the time or place to post that)

 

[Wagamama]

Helenabear,
no flames from me!! we love you!!!

 

[believe]

Well said, Helenabear.

 

[scarlett873]

i'm glad that i steer clear of the possible debate threads...
i come here to "get away" from the normalcy of everyday life and i have a good time when i'm here...i've met some pretty wonderful people in the process...

here's to better DIS days to come!!

 

[Saffron]

I agree with you Elaine. I have often asked the same questions in threads that become sarcastic, disrespectful and demeaning. I understand how you feel. I don't know why people post the things they post sometimes. We, as adults, should be able to get along, no matter what. If we don't agree, say so in a non-disruptive, non-argumentive way. I see the same thing happening that you do, and I feel the same way you do.

Originally posted by Disney Doll
No flames from me helenabear. I happen to agree with you 100%. I don't think anyone feels that people don't have the right to state their opinions...different opinions make the world an interesting place. The sarcasm, insults, and demeaning tones etc are what upset me. I try to refrain from posting in that nasty manner (not saying I always succeed but I do try!) while still trying to make my thoughts known.

It seems to me that those who tend to post sarcastically etc are the same ones who cry "foul" when their sarcasm and nastiness is met with anger.

Respect is the key. If you don't have it for others, don't expect it from others.

I will join you in donning my flame-retardent suit, as I am sure the flame-throwers will be arriving shortly !

This is exactly how I feel Disney Doll. I too do not always succeed, but I try.

 

[MonaCK]

Well said, Heleanabear. No flames from me. Maybe they'll listen to you, since I pretty much said the same thing, but was told not to let the door hit me the butt when I go..

 

[Dan Murphy]

Originally posted by Teejay32
oh put a sock in it ****. This time, please. Robinrs has more reason than a lot of us do to feel the way she does, let's just not bring world history events into it.

If she said something wrong, she can apologize. Put down the sword.

So true.

Elaine, you know my thoughts, I think most others do also.

{{Hugs}}

Dan

 

[yepod]

Elaine {{{HUGS}}}

 

[Lars624]

{{{hugs}}} to you helenabear {{{hugs}}}
I think that it's a shame that people can't just be nice to each other. Even when you disagree with someone else there is no reason to be mean. I was raised with the idea of that if you can't say something nice to someone, don't say anything at all.

- If it feels better to SAY it than it will be to the person who HEARS it, don't say it.
robinrs - I love this..thanks for sharing it

 

[browneyes]

Hi Helenabear. I know some people just love to stir up the pot. Sometimes, stirring up the pot is a good thing. It keeps things from sticking or boiling over. Sometimes stirring up the pot is a bad thing, there's no coherence going on. Things just get muddied, instead of being well-blended. I wish those that don't understand coherence, would go stir up a pot somewhere else. People like you don't need to move on. You're a good pot stirrer.

 

[lilboo]

{{{Elaine}}}

I'm foggy about the other threads that prompted this post...but I agree with your posted sentiments. Intelligent exchanges don't need to degrade into malicious or condescending attacks.

 

[Kitty 34]

{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}} Elaine.

 

[jldriscoll]

Elaine..I understand and agree with you 100%. I read the happenings last night as they were going on....now as I catch up with today's posts, I see a tone, a stressful under current....

It really is not what you say....but how you present your thoughts......

 

[catsrule]

yay for Elaine. I know I am a goof, but I try to be a good goof. Thank you Elaine, for looking at my Simba pictures.

 

[snoopy]

helenabear, its people like you who keep me coming back. You seem like such a warm and gentle person, I admire people like you and get such good vibes from you.

Emotions are at a high right now, particularly for those of us in this area, but really for the country in general. I don't think any of us have really recovered from 9/11, and now we've got an unknown gunmen lurking in our neighborhoods. And even though its the D.C. area now, people in other parts of the country feel vulernable that it could be their neighborhood next. I think we need to cut some slack for that alone, the boards are naturally going to be more volatile.

EROS often comments that this board is nothing but prayers and pixie dust and holier-than-thou. I personally feel nothing could be further from the truth. We have all sorts of different personalities here - those who are confrontational, those who avoid controntation at any cost, and those somewhere in between. You're gonna get interesting conversation when you have so many people, but you are also going to get *******. It happens in every group, especially one as large as this one.

Anyway, I've run on, I really can't think beyond this madman running through the place killing people, so forgive me for rambling. I do think you're a real gem, helenabear, so thanks for getting all that off your chest, you are an important and much loved member of the CB.

 

[iluvorlando]

Elaine, you said so well how I think most of us feel. ((((HUGS)))) my friend. Please don't leave us.

 

[Kteacher]

No flames from me either. Count me as another DISer who comes to the CB for enjoyment. I've met some great people here, and hopefully people feel the same about me . Take care

 

[bfeller]

{{Hugs}} Elaine. I am absolutley clueless about what went on here last night and actually don't think that I want to know. If a person who I respect as much as I respect you felt that you had to finally make a stand then I don't want to read the threads. I come here for the Disney Spirit.

Just stay with us on the DISerhood. Life is much simpler there!