Just found out TDY :(

[Mrs. Darcy]

Ok, again too much info.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I'm so sorry. I hope they say safe and the time passes quickly.

 

[MELSMICE]

Hang in there. Thoughts that your husband remains safe & the 6 weeks go by quick for you both.

 

[Handbag Lady]

What is TDY?

 

[Mrs. Darcy]

What is TDY?

Temporary Duty

 

[Handbag Lady]

Temporary Duty

Thank you. Six weeks. You can read a novel a week. You can post silly polls here. Your husband will be safe. We'll be praying and sending good thoughts so that's taken care of!

We'll keep you company!

 

[Mrs. Darcy]

Thank you so much!

 

[Mouse House Mama]

That is an awful lot of information to post on a public message board don't you think? While I am sure it is in a public newsletter distributed at perhaps your base I am guessing that it isn't something that was meant to me shared on the internet. I'm not trying to be mean but you could get your husband in trouble for stuff like this. Just something to think about........

As for the TDY, I hope it goes fast for the both of you. I would imagine that no matter how much you think you are prepared for military life it is still hard to be apart. I know I wouldn't want to be apart from my dh so I always feel for military families. It can't be easy. Good luck.

 

[MIGrandma]

I used to have a pen pal, well we actually sent cassette tapes back and forth instead of letters, that her husband went TDY several times. A couple times he was gone for a whole year. Those times she moved back to the same town where her in-laws lived, so at least she had the family support. But like you said, it's only for 6 weeks and not a whole year so that is at least something. Hopefully the time will go fast for you and he will be home again.

Oh, and tomthebarncat...shame on you. That was truly uncalled for.

 

[mckryan]

The timing is unfortunate, but there are others in worse situations than you are. I understand you are upset, but I am sure that you will adapt very quickly. I found out I was pregnant five days before my husband deployed to the Iraq war in 1990. He was gone from December through May and missed all of those appointments. There was no way to communicate quickly back then - we only had letters. So, find the positives in your situation and try to make it as easy as possible for your husband to do his job in Haiti and come home safely.

I cannot tell you how many birthdays, anniversaries, and firsts that my husband missed during our 21 years in the military. I had to learn to adjust very, very quickly when we were first married because he was assigned to an airborne unit and they were off training and TDY very often. We probably spent one weekend together during our first two months of marriage. I knew what I was getting into when we got married, but I didn't expect it to happen the first two months! Being upset about it only made it more difficult for him to concentrate on his job. It was rough, but I adjusted and learned to do so much on my own. Then you have the opposite problem, especially after long deployments, of your spouse having a hard time finding his place in the family again.

Just keep the lines of communication open, but try to be really supportive so that he can keep his mind on the job knowing that you are keeping everything going at home.

 

[nancycg56]

TDY is a royal pain! It always seemed to happen to us when we had some big event planned.

Anyway, what worked for me is to not look at it as 6 weeks (or however long) but to take each day one at a time and have the best day that I could. Before long, it was over. Keep busy!!

You can do it!!!! When it's over, you'll be wondering what you were worried about!

My DH was in for 23 years so I have some experience

 

[VAfamily1998]

ENOUGH! I wrote something on your officer leaving the military thread last night but decided to delete it.

You say that you are not saying anything secret, but you just mentioned the
-number of Marines
-location they are going to
-date they are leaving
-location they are leaving from (not in this exact post, but inferred from other posts you have made)

Even if it is in some type of newsletter on base (what?!?!), you shouldn't be posting it in a public forum.

But I am not very concerned about that because...

Something is very very wrong here. There are way to many inconsistencies with what you say in your posts. You have a lot of terminology/concepts/regulations wrong (not just in the post, but others)
Marines do not go TDY. They go TAD.
What kind of "8 year contract" does your Dh have? Never heard of a Marine officer with that. Officers have the ability to resign their commission.
There are so many "just odd" things you have posted.



I don't know what your agenda is, but something is not right.

By the way, about a month ago you posted your husband's real name, but have since edited it
http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?p=39243712#post39243712
I saw that before you edited it. And I remember.
I don't think you'll find a Marine by that name and rank stationed where you claim your husband is stationed...

 

[pilesoflaundry]

Normally I wouldn't jump on someone 6 weeks without someone you love is 6 weeks but this OP just seems off. It seems too copied and pasted from somewhere or something.

 

[JCJRSmith]

Ex-military here:

There was a saying when I was in the Navy: "Navy Wife - the toughest job in the Navy" - and it was absolutely true. Being away from my family sucked big time, but it was easier for me than is was for my wife. Luckily for me, She Who Must Be Obeyed is very self sufficient - she is a very tough lady.

Since you are new to the military as a military spouse, get to know who your husband's command ombundsman is and also know you are not alone. Your husband can find out if his command has a Spouse's organization as well.

You CAN do this.

 

[okeydokey]

ENOUGH! I wrote something on your officer leaving the military thread last night but decided to delete it.

You say that you are not saying anything secret, but you just mentioned the
-number of Marines
-location they are going to
-date they are leaving
-location they are leaving from (not in this exact post, but inferred from other posts you have made)

Even if it is in some type of newsletter on base (what?!?!), you shouldn't be posting it in a public forum.

But I am not very concerned about that because...

Something is very very wrong here. There are way to many inconsistencies with what you say in your posts. You have a lot of terminology/concepts/regulations wrong (not just in the post, but others)
Marines do not go TDY. They go TAD.
What kind of "8 year contract" does your Dh have? Never heard of a Marine officer with that. Officers have the ability to resign their commission.
There are so many "just odd" things you have posted.



I don't know what your agenda is, but something is not right.

By the way, about a month ago you posted your husband's real name, but have since edited it
http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?p=39243712#post39243712
I saw that before you edited it. And I remember.
I don't think you'll find a Marine by that name and rank stationed where you claim your husband is stationed...

The plot thickens.

 

[Scurvy]

OP, I can't imagine how stressful this must be for you and I'm very sorry. But are you sure you ought to be posting such specific information on here? I am not a military wife but I live in a military town and am married to someone who works for a government contractor and it was my understanding that this is not the sort of information that should be shared on a public forum. (I had quoted you, but now that I think about it I'm deleting that because hopefully you'll delete or at least edit your post as well.)

ETA - I see others have mentioned that concern as well. I wouldn't assume the the fact that it's in a newsletter means it's fair game to talk about. My husband isn't supposed to say where he works or what project he's on, even though the company gave him a jacket that has that information embroidered on it which is allowed to wear wherever he wants. Decisions like that aren't always logical, apparently! Of course this might be a moot point if the other speculation on this thread turns out to be correct.

 

[beaucoup]

You might wish to learn what OPSEC and PERSEC mean and start following it. Best wishes while your DH is away.

 

[ClarabelleCowFan]

ENOUGH! I wrote something on your officer leaving the military thread last night but decided to delete it.

You say that you are not saying anything secret, but you just mentioned the
-number of Marines
-location they are going to
-date they are leaving
-location they are leaving from (not in this exact post, but inferred from other posts you have made)

Even if it is in some type of newsletter on base (what?!?!), you shouldn't be posting it in a public forum.

But I am not very concerned about that because...

Something is very very wrong here. There are way to many inconsistencies with what you say in your posts. You have a lot of terminology/concepts/regulations wrong (not just in the post, but others)
Marines do not go TDY. They go TAD.
What kind of "8 year contract" does your Dh have? Never heard of a Marine officer with that. Officers have the ability to resign their commission.
There are so many "just odd" things you have posted.



I don't know what your agenda is, but something is not right.

By the way, about a month ago you posted your husband's real name, but have since edited it
http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?p=39243712#post39243712
I saw that before you edited it. And I remember.
I don't think you'll find a Marine by that name and rank stationed where you claim your husband is stationed...

When I saw her mention the 8 year contract I assume it is related to the fact that her DH is studying for his PhD. You have to "pay back" 3 years for every 1 year of school that Advanced Civil Schooling pays for (or at least my DH did in the Army for his PhD) and that extends your requirement for time served for officers. If he had the military pay for his Masters and PhD then there would be a "contract" type of obligation and he couldn't just resign his commission until after that time was served.

I had no clue that Marines went TAD and not TDY. Learned something new! Can we all not use the same acronyms??? LOL

And yes, OPSEC needs to be reviewed or learned. There is WAY too much info out there. Just because the details are out there in the military community doesn't mean they are for public broadcast. Remember this is a public forum with a worldwide audience (and not all of the world likes the US military). Many more people read here than post. Better safe than sorry.

I honestly don't think there is any agenda here. I think there is just some naivete' on the part of the OP.

 

[BabyTigger99]

Only 6 weeks?? Consider yourself lucky!!

 

[SunnyP4Disney]

I am sorry your husband will be missing your ob appointment. And yes, that six weeks will fly by! That being said, I agree with the other posters that the amount and detail of information you gave in your post is unsettling. A base newsletter that is only seen by those that live or work on base is not really public information. It seems like people want to share way too much these days.

My husband is also in the military, just went over 18 years, I have been ombudsman of a large cutter, and your oversharing of Opsec and persec concern me. Please take this as a constructive criticism. I have also deliberately not quoted you so you can go back and edit your post. The military is one large family, we take care of our own. I wish you the best on your journey as a military spouse and mother to be.