just a little help!

[smgmartin]

I want to highly recommend that if you seriously have a question that youre stressing over you dont ask it here. Im not knocking everyones answers. But, ive been planning my wedding and ive asked several questions on here and have been very upset with the answers I was given because I thought I was stuck with my wedding being a certain way. They have all been proved wrong by my wedding planner who has put me at ease over and over. Even the answers from people who answer every single question on here and claim to know what theyre talking about. They simply dont. Im only telling this because planning a wedding can be very stressful and asking questions on here doesnt make it any less! I recommend speaking with someone at Disney Fairy Tale Weddings sny time you have a question

 

[mb187143]

I want to highly recommend that if you seriously have a question that youre stressing over you dont ask it here. Im not knocking everyones answers. But, ive been planning my wedding and ive asked several questions on here and have been very upset with the answers I was given because I thought I was stuck with my wedding being a certain way. They have all been proved wrong by my wedding planner who has put me at ease over and over. Even the answers from people who answer every single question on here and claim to know what theyre talking about. They simply dont. Im only telling this because planning a wedding can be very stressful and asking questions on here doesnt make it any less! I recommend speaking with someone at Disney Fairy Tale Weddings sny time you have a question

Wow. Personally, I find this kind of rude. People come on here and answer questions based on their personal experiences. Some are recent brides and some of us got married a few years ago, and things change over the years (there were significant changes to the wishes pricing structure in 2014 for example). Also, some rules vary based on your package (wishes, escape, memories). Many of us have also cautioned not only here but on the FB group that sometimes answers vary based on your planner. Some planners are better than others, and some are willing to go the extra mile for brides to make things happen (mine was one of those), while others stick to the script. We've seen planners tell a bride something can be done, and pull the rug out at the 11th hour. Or, conversely, that something wasn't possibly originally but because of a change is now possible. Some of us were here back in 2011 when DFTW told a bride 30 days before her wedding that she couldn't have the WP anymore due to VGF construction. Talk about a mess.

People here are trying to help. Including one poster who literally wrote the book on how to plan a DFTW. With input form DFTW. If you look at her contributors, you'll notice some are currently still with DFTW, so she's not pulling things out of nowhere. Is she perfect? No, but she's gone above and begin to help us navigate the ins and outs of planning a DFTW. Including trying to get updated information when one of us got an answer from our planner that didn't match what we thought it should. People are answering questions you asked - not giving unsolicited and purposefully bad advice.

You are free to disregard any and all advice you've gotten on here, and I truly hope you have a wonderful wedding day. I certainly will be sure to steer clear of any of your future threads at the risk o being "unhelpful" to you. Best of luck planning.

 

[smgmartin]

Obviously I was aware a response like that would happen. Thats fine. I was not being rude at all. I was actually trying to be helpful. I understand things change over the years. I am not knocking anybody for giving their stories or saying what they were allowed at their wedding. However, that being said what good does it do for someone to know what was allowed years ago or even last year for that matter? I personally think it just leads to disappointment. Im also aware there are different packages but thats irrelevant also. My point was simply that asking questions of people who cant give you the correct answer isnt a very smart thing to do. I recommend only getting that information from Disney. I have no problem with people sharing things about their wedding. But I got on here before my wedding and was almost turned away from having a Disney wedding because of incorrect information regarding one. I would hate for someone to be turned away from a great experience just because someone gave wrong and upsetting information.

 

[Chilly]

It would perhaps be helpful if you can post examples of what info was wrong so that we can learn from this rather than just having an argument.

 

[alyaki]

I have to agree with Chilly - it'd be nice to know some examples of what information you found to be wrong.

 

[LadyD]

Disney weddings are so customizable it is wonderful to hear other's experiences to try and get an idea of what to do for your wedding. Disney does not give you a brochure with a breakdown of what they can do and the cost. Even though there is not a ton of information on this board about Disneyland weddings, I do know my partner and I would have been overwhelmed and at a loss for not only what to expect out of the whole process, but also to show us that it is ALWAYS worth asking your planner about something you would like and is important to you. While it's true that you very may well hear conflicting information on this board due to each individuals unique experience and the ever changing policies of Disney, to knock the valuable advice these women and men provide is disheartening. It is always worth confirming anything with your planner and not to expect to be able to have a wedding like anyone else's on here. While you may not be able to do exactly what another bride has done, the good planners will make suggestions for alternatives it sounds like. I am personally very thankful for any and all information other Disney wedding couples have provided. I know it has helped me and my partner work to create a beautiful day that we will never forget.

 

[Lorelei528]

I also want to say that I think MOST brides here find information that their coordinators don't even know are options.

This board was more helpful to me in planning on my wedding than DFTW or my own family.

I also would LOVE to hear some examples of incorrect info you have received here.

 

[andeesings]

Obviously I was aware a response like that would happen. Thats fine. I was not being rude at all. I was actually trying to be helpful. I understand things change over the years. I am not knocking anybody for giving their stories or saying what they were allowed at their wedding. However, that being said what good does it do for someone to know what was allowed years ago or even last year for that matter? I personally think it just leads to disappointment. Im also aware there are different packages but thats irrelevant also. My point was simply that asking questions of people who cant give you the correct answer isnt a very smart thing to do. I recommend only getting that information from Disney. I have no problem with people sharing things about their wedding. But I got on here before my wedding and was almost turned away from having a Disney wedding because of incorrect information regarding one. I would hate for someone to be turned away from a great experience just because someone gave wrong and upsetting information.

Why don't you say what had you reluctant to have a Disney wedding and how you resolved those issues with your planner.

That way more brides could benefit from the things you were able to work out.

 

[Cmdbuddy]

Like what? Being chosen as the couple to open the MK in your wedding attire?

 

[andeesings]

I had to delete this whole post. It was wrong! Sorry!!!

 

[tinkerbell 766]

I want to highly recommend that if you seriously have a question that youre stressing over you dont ask it here. Im not knocking everyones answers. But, ive been planning my wedding and ive asked several questions on here and have been very upset with the answers I was given because I thought I was stuck with my wedding being a certain way. They have all been proved wrong by my wedding planner who has put me at ease over and over. Even the answers from people who answer every single question on here and claim to know what theyre talking about. They simply dont. Im only telling this because planning a wedding can be very stressful and asking questions on here doesnt make it any less! I recommend speaking with someone at Disney Fairy Tale Weddings sny time you have a question

Really?
I found the posters on here to be extremely helpful, very accurate and terribly friendly. Most know exactly what they are talking about!!!
Our wonderful Carrie, in particular, knows more, IMHO, than DFTW know themselves!!!
I am not sure if you have misunderstood some information, or just trying to provoke a reaction from the Disbrides, but either way, it would be very helpful if you could provide examples of the misinformation you say you have received.

 

[lirija]

But I got on here before my wedding and was almost turned away from having a Disney wedding because of incorrect information regarding one. I would hate for someone to be turned away from a great experience just because someone gave wrong and upsetting information.

I had the opposite experience. I pretty much assumed it was not for me but when I saw the wide range of experiences and options people have had, it made me realize that I had options I was not aware of, and Disney's DFTW website gives very little information. I would not have continued further if not for this board, and of course Lurkyloo's book. Her book pretty much cinched it, in fact - what a treasure!

No one gives "incorrect information" unless you are accusing someone of lying. What happens is people post their experience, which is unique, and then you build concrete expectations based on that without verifying first, and then you are disappointed. That is why you phrase it as "wrong and upsetting information," which sounds a bit dramatic. It happens to everyone, just be more open-minded instead of advising other not to seek extra information. That's just silly. Have you even encountered a situation where the "official source" gave you everything you needed without extra help. College? Taxes/IRS? Doesn't everything in life require a little extra research? We all google because official sources are seldom enough.

 

[aristocatz]

I want to highly recommend that if you seriously have a question that youre stressing over you dont ask it here. Im not knocking everyones answers. But, ive been planning my wedding and ive asked several questions on here and have been very upset with the answers I was given because I thought I was stuck with my wedding being a certain way. They have all been proved wrong by my wedding planner who has put me at ease over and over. Even the answers from people who answer every single question on here and claim to know what theyre talking about. They simply dont. Im only telling this because planning a wedding can be very stressful and asking questions on here doesnt make it any less! I recommend speaking with someone at Disney Fairy Tale Weddings sny time you have a question

My experience was the exact opposite as this. I wouldn't have been able to plan my wedding as amazing as it was, if it was not for the helpful brides on here-especially the ones who post all the time.

Sorry your experience was not as positive, OP, but I'm not sure I would encourage other newbie brides to not post or seek info on here, as your experience does not seem to be the norm.

What I would suggest is, if you were not happy with the info provided on here, just don't post or read this board.

 

[MrsDuck]

lol, okay. Thanks. Bye.

 

[Lorelei528]

I'm thinking troll alert idk. Or something else, just someone who likes to stir the pot etc.

I mean, the OP has yet to come back and give any examples.

 

[October 2014 Bride]

You can search all the posts that this person has done on the board if you want to see what she is referring to ladies. I can't see exactly what her problem is as it looks like a lot of brides have bent over backwards to answer her questions including myself and that the answers are pretty accurate.

 

[BelleoftheWedding]

This website was my saving grace for Disney Weddings! It is very hard to get ahold of someone who will answer every question you have before signing the contract at Disney, so I loved all the advice and experiences of other planning brides or past brides. This place made me feel welcomed and like I was apart of a club. I have avoided many of breakdowns by the responses I have received ! I woudn't have decided to have my wedding at Disney if it wasnt for this forum!

 

[WDWLover75]

This website was my saving grace for Disney Weddings! It is very hard to get ahold of someone who will answer every question you have before signing the contract at Disney, so I loved all the advice and experiences of other planning brides or past brides. This place made me feel welcomed and like I was apart of a club. I have avoided many of breakdowns by the responses I have received ! I woudn't have decided to have my wedding at Disney if it wasnt for this forum!

Agreed 100%