John came by last night

[minkydog]

Some of you know that our DS23 stormed out of our house in an extreme fit of anger back in August and has had NOTHING to do with us ever since. He was living in our basement playing video games all night and sleeping all day. And he didn't want to live by our rules(get a job or go to school, do your laundry, clean your room, pay rent, yard work.) We didn't throw him out, although that's the story he's giving all over town. Our friends and family know the truth. The whole situation has just about broken our hearts.

Anyway, he came by late last night to see DD16, who had oral surgery yesterday. He wanted to check on her and bring her Christmas present. While he was here I greeted him and his GF--she was actually very talkative and open with me. John was reserved. I brought out his & GFs gifts (and a nice check!) He declined at first, but I could tell he felt ambivilent. I mean, who could turn out a big ol' bag of goodies. In the end he allowed me to hug him lightly and kiss the back of his neck. I told him I loved him and invited him to come for Christmas Eve dinner, our traditional low country(Sea Island) boil--boiled red potatoes, corn on the cob, and shrimp. Heavenly! I doubt he'll come,but they know they're invited.

 

[ReneeA]

Sounds like he's coming around.

 

[JodyLynC]

Some of you know that our DS23 stormed out of our house in an extreme fit of anger back in August and has had NOTHING to do with us ever since. He was living in our basement playing video games all night and sleeping all day. And he didn't want to live by our rules(get a job or go to school, do your laundry, clean your room, pay rent, yard work.) We didn't throw him out, although that's the story he's giving all over town. Our friends and family know the truth. The whole situation has just about broken our hearts.

Anyway, he came by late last night to see DD16, who had oral surgery yesterday. He wanted to check on her and bring her Christmas present. While he was here I greeted him and his GF--she was actually very talkative and open with me. John was reserved. I brought out his & GFs gifts (and a nice check!) He declined at first, but I could tell he felt ambivilent. I mean, who could turn out a big ol' bag of goodies. In the end he allowed me to hug him lightly and kiss the back of his neck. I told him I loved him and invited him to come for Christmas Eve dinner, our traditional low country(Sea Island) boil--boiled red potatoes, corn on the cob, and shrimp. Heavenly! I doubt he'll come,but they know they're invited.

 

[Piglets Mommy]

I hope this is the beginning of a reconnection for you!

 

[Rose&Mike]

 

[RunningGirl]

I think you handled this perfectly. Welcoming and warm without being overbearing. Great job, mom!

 

[m&m's mom]

Progress, albeit slow-is still progress.

 

[Silent1CB]

Sounds like another step for growing up for him. He's seeing how good he had it at home & how he blew it by not helping & taking advantage of the situation.

 

[4nana]

It's tough to be a Mom, but for what's it worth I whole heartedly agreed with your decision in August. As difficult as it was to help your DS, John, be accountable and take some responsiblity. Wonderful he took the first step by visiting, as it proves his love for you and the family. Hopefully in time he'll appreciate and even thank you for helping him grow up and stand on his own. You're a great Mom who can look at herself in the mirror and know she tried her best, that's all any of us can do ! Hope your DD is on the healing road to a speedy and complete recovery.

 

[AnnaS]

Some of you know that our DS23 stormed out of our house in an extreme fit of anger back in August and has had NOTHING to do with us ever since. He was living in our basement playing video games all night and sleeping all day. And he didn't want to live by our rules(get a job or go to school, do your laundry, clean your room, pay rent, yard work.) We didn't throw him out, although that's the story he's giving all over town. Our friends and family know the truth. The whole situation has just about broken our hearts.

Anyway, he came by late last night to see DD16, who had oral surgery yesterday. He wanted to check on her and bring her Christmas present. While he was here I greeted him and his GF--she was actually very talkative and open with me. John was reserved. I brought out his & GFs gifts (and a nice check!) He declined at first, but I could tell he felt ambivilent. I mean, who could turn out a big ol' bag of goodies. In the end he allowed me to hug him lightly and kiss the back of his neck. I told him I loved him and invited him to come for Christmas Eve dinner, our traditional low country(Sea Island) boil--boiled red potatoes, corn on the cob, and shrimp. Heavenly! I doubt he'll come,but they know they're invited.

 

[Big V]

Merry Christmas!

 

[chicagodisneyfan]

I have followed your story all year, and vehemently disagree with how it was handled. But I am glad you were able to see John and hopefully there will be a reconciliation.

 

[Heidict]

I think you handled this perfectly. Welcoming and warm without being overbearing. Great job, mom!

MTE! Glad he came over and you got a chance to see him. Hope he joins you Christmas Eve. I can imagine it must be very tough for you and your family.

 

[Eeyore'sthebest]

I think you handled this perfectly. Welcoming and warm without being overbearing. Great job, mom!

ITA! Good job!

 

[Jennasis]

You are a tough cookie and agreat mom. I guarantee you that someday...maybe a long time from now...maybe when he has kids of his own...but eventually he will come to thank you for the reality check. Hang in there!

 

[terri01p]

KIDS....my house is a three ring circus too so welcome to the club!

 

[WebmasterMaryJo]

I know it's tough, but I believe you made the right decision. It's nice to know his girlfriend seems to not be working against you.

Merry Christmas

 

[java]

I am loving that he came to check on your daughter and I applaud your invitation. You said it best. They know they are invited! What a great gift.

 

[MomNeedsVacay]

 

[OceanAnnie]

I am loving that he came to check on your daughter and I applaud your invitation. You said it best. They know they are invited! What a great gift.

I agree. It looks like he is slowly coming around. You handled it well.