Jill Duggar's wedding

[proud_canadian]

I looked but couldn't find a thread on this. Did anyone watch Jill Duggar's wedding last night? What did everyone think? She looked so happy, as did he!

 

[luvmarypoppins]

My ds and I were watching it.

I was happy that Dericks mom could make it to the wedding. I was wondering why Jill keeps calling her Miss Kathy and Derick calls Michelle, well Michelle and not Miss Michelle. Is this some kind of cultural thing from the area?

From what I saw the snacks served to guests were rootbeer floats in punch sized cups. One of the kids commented they had 3 of them. My ds laughed and said how tiny they were. Also cupcakes and popcorn?? The dad commented that this was a very budget wedding that Jill and her husband planned.

If Jim Bob is already giving them a free place to stay I wonder why they couldnt spend a little more on food like even hot dogs etc. Doesnt she get any money from being on these shows? Jim Bob also bought them all the used auction stuff for their home too I believe as he said it was 3k.

For the wedding itself, ds was commenting that it looks like they were really anxious to get on with the honeymoon and it was their decision to have devotions and see each other before the wedding., to each their own.

As long as they are happy that is all that matters.

 

[cabanafrau]

It does seem they were happy, and I certainly hope they are.

Several things about the episode were disturbing to me. One of the grown Duggar brothers commented about the groom potentially turning into "a good worker, another one for the fleet"? I thought the groom was a college grad w/ a good job? Just seemed very disrespectful to think that any and everyone would be aiming to become another cog in Duggar, Inc.

I also found the dad very over the top regarding giving his daughter away, making sure he was standing up there to announce you may kiss the bride, etc. Worst of all was him asking them if they had a chaperone -- at the church, while they were heading for the chapel to have devotions and call to check in w/ the groom's critically ill mother. Seriously out of bonds display of power and piety IMO. If you can't rely on your grown daughter to follow the morals you've taught her in that situation, you ain't done your job buddy.

 

[leebee]

I have been to several weddings down south and it's been customary to just have cake and punch after the wedding, so I wasn't surprised that Jill's reception was just cake/cupcakes, popcorn, and floats. Besides, didn't they say they'd invited 3000 guests?

Their choice to not kiss until the wedding was their decision to make, but I was surprised on how focused everyone was on this. SO MANY of them talked about it- Jill & Derrick, Michelle, JimBob, Anna, several of the daughters, even the little kids had comments to make. I thought that was awkward and uncomfortable, but I guess when you haven't even kissed during your courtship, you are REALLY anxious to start the honeymoon!

I thought Jill and all the girls looked beautiful, and Jill & Derrick seem very happy together. It sounds to me like JimBob and Michelle are going to end up with around 100 grandkids, though, if the rest of the kids follow Josh's and Jill's decision (along with their respective spouses) to "happily accept every baby god gives them!" (somewhat paraphrased from Jill…)

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

My ds and I were watching it.

I was happy that Dericks mom could make it to the wedding. I was wondering why Jill keeps calling her Miss Kathy and Derick calls Michelle, well Michelle and not Miss Michelle. Is this some kind of cultural thing from the area?

From what I saw the snacks served to guests were rootbeer floats in punch sized cups. One of the kids commented they had 3 of them. My ds laughed and said how tiny they were. Also cupcakes and popcorn?? The dad commented that this was a very budget wedding that Jill and her husband planned.

If Jim Bob is already giving them a free place to stay I wonder why they couldnt spend a little more on food like even hot dogs etc. Doesnt she get any money from being on these shows? Jim Bob also bought them all the used auction stuff for their home too I believe as he said it was 3k.

For the wedding itself, ds was commenting that it looks like they were really anxious to get on with the honeymoon and it was their decision to have devotions and see each other before the wedding., to each their own.

As long as they are happy that is all that matters.

We loved it!

I think the sheer size of the event was issue one--hosting and catering for 1000 people. I think one of the venues they checked could only hold 300.

And while it is common to do a meal, there are still folks who opt for the simple approach.

 

[Hrhpd]

My ds and I were watching it.

I was happy that Dericks mom could make it to the wedding. I was wondering why Jill keeps calling her Miss Kathy and Derick calls Michelle, well Michelle and not Miss Michelle. Is this some kind of cultural thing from the area?

From what I saw the snacks served to guests were rootbeer floats in punch sized cups. One of the kids commented they had 3 of them. My ds laughed and said how tiny they were. Also cupcakes and popcorn?? The dad commented that this was a very budget wedding that Jill and her husband planned.

If Jim Bob is already giving them a free place to stay I wonder why they couldnt spend a little more on food like even hot dogs etc. Doesnt she get any money from being on these shows? Jim Bob also bought them all the used auction stuff for their home too I believe as he said it was 3k.

For the wedding itself, ds was commenting that it looks like they were really anxious to get on with the honeymoon and it was their decision to have devotions and see each other before the wedding., to each their own.

As long as they are happy that is all that matters.

Just another example of the woman's place in that cult.

The man can call a woman, even his MIL by her first name, with no show of respect, but the woman is required to show respect to her MIL by using Ms.

 

[yellowjacketfan]

Just another example of the woman's place in that cult.

The man can call a woman, even his MIL by her first name, with no show of respect, but the woman is required to show respect to her MIL by using Ms.

I don't think so, especially since she also called her Mom several times. Not everyone uses Ms. in the south but some use it as a form of respect. It seems to be more of a female thing to call someone Ms (first name). I never hear a guy do the same thing. Being respectful and polite (in whatever form) is a very old school southern thing. I find myself wondering where it went

 

[SC Minnie]

I don't think so, especially since she also called her Mom several times. Not everyone uses Ms. in the south but some use it as a form of respect. It seems to be more of a female thing to call someone Ms (first name). I never hear a guy do the same thing. Being respectful and polite (in whatever form) is a very old school southern thing. I find myself wondering where it went

DD20's boyfriend call me, Ms firstname, and DH, Mr firstname. He started calling us that when he first met us. DD was brought up to call older adults Ms or Mr unless they told her to call them by just their first name. It depends on how you were raised and how you raise your children.

 

[3DisneyBuggs]

I started watching but stopped right before the proposal reenactment. I know it was a wedding episode but that was just too much for me. My proposal was just DH and myself. I couldn't imagine our families reenacting it. The whiole side hug chaperone thing is starting to get on my nerves too. I think the Duggar girls have shown they value their beliefs, can't they be trusted?? I do think Jill is very happy.

 

[leebee]

It does seem they were happy, and I certainly hope they are.

Several things about the episode were disturbing to me. One of the grown Duggar brothers commented about the groom potentially turning into "a good worker, another one for the fleet"? I thought the groom was a college grad w/ a good job? Just seemed very disrespectful to think that any and everyone would be aiming to become another cog in Duggar, Inc.

I also found the dad very over the top regarding giving his daughter away, making sure he was standing up there to announce you may kiss the bride, etc. Worst of all was him asking them if they had a chaperone -- at the church, while they were heading for the chapel to have devotions and call to check in w/ the groom's critically ill mother. Seriously out of bonds display of power and piety IMO. If you can't rely on your grown daughter to follow the morals you've taught her in that situation, you ain't done your job buddy.

Just another example of the fixation on the first kiss. They all seemed a little obsessed with the beginning of the physical side of the relationship. It was odd… and because I am NOT a very good google-snoop, I JUST learned that Jill is already pregnant. It makes me sad; she is so young, they barely have been married and are still learning to live together and be adults, and already they are having children. I know, it's their lives and their decision, but it seems like they have spent years being "kids" and will have years to be parents, but spent so little time together as a couple.

 

[olwyngdh]

I don't think so, especially since she also called her Mom several times. Not everyone uses Ms. in the south but some use it as a form of respect. It seems to be more of a female thing to call someone Ms (first name). I never hear a guy do the same thing. Being respectful and polite (in whatever form) is a very old school southern thing. I find myself wondering where it went

We used to live in VA, we now live in MA. The kids at my daughters dance school find it weird that she calls her teachers Miss or Mr (first name). I think it is just a matter of politeness and respect.

 

[shoney]

We used to live in VA, we now live in MA. The kids at my daughters dance school find it weird that she calls her teachers Miss or Mr (first name). I think it is just a matter of politeness and respect.

Do you think the other children are impolite or disrespectful for not using Miss/Mr. First name????

Around here, people just do NOT do that outside of a preschool setting.

 

[olwyngdh]

Do you think the other children are impolite or disrespectful for not using Miss/Mr. First name????

Around here, people just do NOT do that outside of a preschool setting.

No, I think it a difference in culture. I don't think there is anything wrong with it either way, but I like the show of respect thing better. A child wouldn't call their school teacher by his or her first name, and I think the dance teacher deserves respect also, but Miss Jenn is more casual than Mrs Dubillio.

 

[yoopermom]

I enjoy this show and think to each their own. I do come from a very physical family, very huggy/kissy, openly affectionate, so when I watch the Duggars I do notice that there is very little physical contact except among married couples. You just don't see them hugging and kissing, so maybe to them it IS a big deal when you get married and finally do this. I wonder if it's truly the first time their lips have ever touched someone else?

And I think it's great how frugal they are, even when it comes down to sewing the guys' ties! Wow!

Terri

 

[yellowjacketfan]

DD20's boyfriend call me, Ms firstname, and DH, Mr firstname. He started calling us that when he first met us. DD was brought up to call older adults Ms or Mr unless they told her to call them by just their first name. It depends on how you were raised and how you raise your children.

Of course. I was just referring to the pp that stated Derrick did not call Michelle "Ms. Michelle" and Jill did so because of some cult mentality. In my personal experience it is more of a female thing, purely out of choice. My dh (along with most of his cousins, male and female) does not call his aunts and uncles by Aunt so and so, Uncle so and so. I do because I was taught it was respectful. It definitely falls back to what we were taught as children.

 

[kidshop]

I enjoy this show and think to each their own. I do come from a very physical family, very huggy/kissy, openly affectionate, so when I watch the Duggars I do notice that there is very little physical contact except among married couples. You just don't see them hugging and kissing, so maybe to them it IS a big deal when you get married and finally do this. I wonder if it's truly the first time their lips have ever touched someone else?

And I think it's great how frugal they are, even when it comes down to sewing the guys' ties! Wow!

Terri

Just so we are all clear, the Duggars are multi millionaires, due to their TV show, people magazine payments and product placements,; among many other things.

They could well afford to buy whatever they want and feed as many people real food as they want.

 

[rszdtrvl]

DVR'd it and am watching it now. She just went out to see him in her wedding dress.

I absolutely LOVE how non-traditional she was in the fact that she spent the wedding day morning with him and they saw each other in their attire prior to her walking down the aisle.

They both look so happy and totally in love.

Even if I don't agree with the Duggars on everything, I do agree that Jill and Derek look like they are committed to each other, and that is the most important thing in a marriage!

 

[mom2rtk]

Just so we are all clear, the Duggars are multi millionaires, due to their TV show, people magazine payments and product placements,; among many other things.

They could well afford to buy whatever they want and feed as many people real food as they want.

Yeah, but how many ways do they have to split the pot?

 

[proud_canadian]

Does anyone remember what restrictions Josh and Anna had? I don't remember side hugs and remember lots of hand holding. But maybe they only started following them on the show after they were engaged? I don't remember.

 

[minkydog]

I have been to several weddings down south and it's been customary to just have cake and punch after the wedding, so I wasn't surprised that Jill's reception was just cake/cupcakes, popcorn, and floats. Besides, didn't they say they'd invited 3000 guests?

Blessedly born, raised, and married in the Deep South and I can attest to your statement. All 5 of us siblings had similar receptions: cake, nuts, ham biscuits, buttercream mints, tuna or chicken salad finger sandwiches, and punch. No alcohol, no sit down meals or buffet, and no dancing. We each had between 15 and 125 guests. Wedding receptions were more like big birthday parties.

I like the budget conscious wedding. When I see a couple spending thousands on superfluous things, like fancy reception flowers, photo booth, open bar, second wedding gown for the reception , and band I can only think how far that $25,000 could have gone toward things they actually DO need.