Its taken me awhile to get up the nerve to post this, but..

[remyandhollandsmommy]

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[mommasita]

Oh sweetie..

I have no advice, and am heartbroken for you....My best friend's hubby did this to her on their 10th anniversary, and I told her she would thank him one daySHe told me I was insane....She stayed with me and cried forever..All I did was hold her, and take care of her kids...

3 years later she called to tell me how right I was. She called him to thank him for giving her the chance to life and she found an AMAZING man who treats her like gold....

Cry and vent..We are all here for you..

 

[poohandwendy]

I am so sorry to hear that. {{{HUGS}}}

I don't have any good advice, I just am glad to hear you will be by family to help you through this.

 

[remyandhollandsmommy]

Oh sweetie..

I have no advice, and am heartbroken for you....My best friend's hubby did this to her on their 10th anniversary, and I told her she would thank him one daySHe told me I was insane....She stayed with me and cried forever..All I did was hold her, and take care of her kids...

3 years later she called to tell me how right I was. She called him to thank him for giving her the chance to life and she found an AMAZING man who treats her like gold....

Cry and vent..We are all here for you..

Yea, Oct 10th was our 10 year anniversary...

 

[solferino]

 

[binny]

I am so sorry. I dont know what to say.

i will be thinking of you.

 

[L107ANGEL]

Angela you don't deserve any of this. get a lawyer, hes not going to get off that easy

 

[chobie]

I'm sorry. This is horrible. Maybe you should let the court decide how much money he should pay. In Florida you will be entitled to rehabilitative support payments while you go back to school to be able to support yourself as well as child support.

 

[ChristmasElf]

I guess I would start here:

http://www.divorcesupport.com/divorce/Florida-Divorce-Laws-476.html

I have not read through the laws myself but if that link doesn't help you, I just googled : Divorce laws in Florida

If it were me though, I wouldn't do a thing. If he wants the divorce, tell him to file and go get it. He will have to support those children though and not as cheaply as he thinks. Sounds like hubby needs to grow up. And don't be surprised if he goes back and forth changing his mind and wanting you and the girls back. (I had a friend that her husband did this for 2 years. Thought he could come and go into her life whenever he liked. Did nothing but help confuse their kids)

If I find anything else I will add it to this post.

Best of luck to you and if there is any good to come out of this, look at it this way. Ocala is much closer to Orlando and WDW.

 

[mtemm]

(((HUGS))) I am so sorry. I'm heading in this direction myself, and my dh (not dear) has told me many similiar things over the past couple of months.

one thing that has helped me tremendously is therapy. I can't imagine doing this without out it, personally. if you haven't started, I recommend it.

wish I had more words of wisdom, just know you aren't alone. you are stronger than you know.

take care, and get a lawyer.

 

[beattyfamily]

He's a selfish jerk!

hugs to you. I'm so sorry.

My DD, age 11, just asked me out of the blue yesterday 'why do people get married if they are just going to break their vows and get divorced?" I couldn't believe it. I asked her what made her think of that and she said because we drove by her friend's dad's house. It's so sad that I have to explain to my 11 year old why so many people get divorced and why it's still worthwhile to get married someday.

God bless you and keep you safe and I hope he can give you the strength to get through this and come out even stronger.

 

[ilovejack02]

Im so sorry this is happening to you!!!

Talk to a lawyer asap. Things arent as cut and dry as he is trying to make it. You have rights and you need to protect yourself and the kids.

Good luck, ill be thinking about you and the kids.

 

[darlak]

I am sooo sorry. As for the child support, at least for as long as he's in the military, it WILL be paid, so you won't have to worry about that part of it. I know this is hard. I've been there. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other. You'll get through this.

The older I get, the more I realize that those times in life when we get to sit down and decide what the right thing to do is, are a luxury. Most of the time, we're just doing what we have to do.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Sounds like you have alot of support coming from your family.
I am so sorry.


As far as advice, sounds like you are pretty on track. I would hire a pretty good lawyer, it sounds as if you are headed into battle, unfortunately.

As far as him cheating, well he probably is, so don't get hung up on that when he hits you with it.
He is probably "saving that" for a nice time to hurt you bad.

As far as your kids, well they are going to have it rough. So if you need to get some counseling for yourself so you can vent to a neutral party and sort through things that might be worth looking into.

That way you can vent innermost personal things to people that are not family. You want to keep your family in a positive supporting role and not sway them anymore than they already are right now, at least during the divorce battle.

Anyway breath in and out and hug those kids ALOT!!!!

 

[RadioNate]

I'm sorry to hear this.

I've seen this happen a few times. The whole "I just don't want to be married" thing. Unfortunately in all 3 cases there was a 3rd party involved.

I'm sorry you and the girls have to go through this. Just know that in time you will all be ok.

 

[EthansMom]

Get a lawyer... a good one. No matter what the jerk (soon-to-be-ex) tells you, you are likely entitled to half of everything you own jointly (including a portion of his retirement/pension accounts, half the equity in your house, half of all bank accounts). Also, as a SAHM, you would probably be able to get some sort of spousal maintenance to help cover schooling expenses for a year or two. And your kids are entitled to their fair share of support, not just what their father thinks is good enough.

Make copies of all of your financial paperwork (his retirement benefits, your savings accounts, etc..). And take them to a lawyer. Seriously. Your kids deserve it.

 

[GJM]

I agree - get a lawyer ASAP.

My DH said this to me at one point. Wanted to hang out with his friends, and I changed. I agree it is called growing up and having a responsibilty when you have kids. We went thru a very hard 2 years.

I wish you all the best -

 

[Muffy]

He is a selfish jerk and will reget this someday. I'm glad to hear you will be with family. Get a lawyer as soon as possible. Sending hugs...

 

[dmslush]

I agree that you need to get an attorney pronto. Do you still have access to the bank accounts? Use his cash for the attoney fees if you do. (Just MHO)

Also, do not sign or agree to anything without an attorney. Don't agree that you will take 600 a month. Let the courts decide you could probably get off better than $600.

I'm sorry that you are having to go through this. I am divorced and it was very difficult.. just remember there is a light at the end of this tunnel.

 

[kctwinmommy]

So sorry to hear about this! Like someone else said, at least being a government employee, you know you can get that CS money! And more than that $600/month he *thinks* is enough for you 3! I hope that you can make it through this, and the best thing is that your family is there to help you too! I know too many women who have to go through this stuff alone.

On a side note, I hate to hear when military families are broken apart. It seems that the military still needs to work on pushing the family side even more. I think they've improved a LOT, but still, having been in it myself, it does promote that party atmosphere. I think it's simply cuz a large portion of it is younger guys and gals who are out on their own, getting a chance to have some fun. I know I did!! But I was single at the time.

I wish you luck with everything in the future and I hope you find something to get you through all this!!