It is finally sinking in

[Ibelieveinfairies]

There's really nothing that I can say to make your pain disappear but I wanted to say that I am sorry for your loss.

 

[Breezy_Carol]

Val, I am so sorry to hear this. I missed where your mother had passed away. I remember her going through a lot and being a fighter.

to you. Death is a part of life. This doesn't make it any easier but something that happens to us all.

 

[goofy4tink]

I'm so sorry. I feel your pain. I'm going through that same year of firsts without my mom also. It may sound really morbid, but I have most of her furniture/stuff. One of the things I treasure the most is a recliner that we had given her years ago. It was in this chair that she fell asleep and went home to God. When I feel the need to be close to her, I sit in 'her' chair and get a hug. Morbid? Maybe, but it makes me feel better. I still have photos of her on the fridge and talk to her all the time. As was said before, she is 'home' with her loved ones now. I told my dd, 10, that when Meme died, her family was waiting for her, with open arms. And when I die, I know my mom will be there waiting. And it will be the same for Katie when her time comes. So, these are the things I find comfort in. Maybe they can help you find some comfort also. Yes, it's a difficult time, this first year. But, we all make it, as our parents did before us. Hang in there, and keep talking to us. We'll listen as much as you need us too.

 

[Parrothead1964]

I am truly sorry as well. It's been five years since my mom died -- we got the news while we were vacationing at WDW. My mom fought rhematoid arthritis and other accompanying illnesses for many years. She was actually in the hospital when we left for vacation, but she wouldn't let my dad call me because she didn't want us to cancel our vacation. That was one LONG car trip back to Arkansas.

I remember the anniversaries -- one month, one year, two years. I can truly say there is not a day that goes by that I don't think of her in some way.

I remember once I had a really bad sickness, some kind of lung infection. If my mom were here, she would remember what it was, but I dont. Anyway, this was back in about 1996. I went to the doctor and got my medicine and came home, barely able to walk. I was just about to take the medicine when my mom called. She wanted to know how the doctor visit went, and I told her. I took a pill out of the bottle and was walking with the phone over to get some water to take it when she asked what medicine they gave me. I read the bottle to her, and it was penicillin or something I am deathly alergic to. She told me to put down the bottle and call the doctor. I did, and they told me I could have been in much worse shape if I'd have taken that pill. I've never forgotten that.

So many things have happened that I wish I could tell her about. My oldest child is on the President's List in college, all of my kids are happy and healthy, and I have been promoted three times since then. She was always glad to know I was happy and doing well at my job. I used to call her all the time to ask for advice because while I might have some aptitude at computers, I have zero aptitude at anything else. She was always able to bail me out and get me through.

Even though I can't tell her in person, I know she knows I miss her. Don't ask me how, because as a Systems Engineer, I explain things with computer programs and data, and trust me -- that doesn't compute. But I still believe it.

They say "time heals all wounds". Well, sort of. I used to cry every time I thought about her, and then it changed to a few minutes of feeling really bad, then it eventually changed to just feeling lucky that I had a mother that loved me and cared about me. Today, I see recipes for Mississippi Mud Pie or Sweedish Tea Ring and the memories come back again. To this day, I am still lucky that my mother cared about me and took the time to raise me right. And every time I go see her grave, I cry like a baby.

Hang in there and you'll be fine. I don't have to tell you to remember her and the times you had together, because you'll do that on your own. Your mother would want nothing more than that.

Sorry this got so long. Some of it was hard to write.

God Bless You.

 

[mickey65]

Thank-you all for your kind words and thoughts. Thank-you too for sharing your own experiences with me too, it really does help. I guess some days are going to be harder than others as I go through this first year.
I do have such wonderful memories and I know that my mom's spirit lives in me. I guess it just takes some time to get used to the idea that she is not pyhsically here.
Thanks again for listening and caring.

 

[tiggerlover]

I am so sorry for your loss.


{{{HUGS}}}

 

[dhcoffey]

Mickey65, I'm so sorry for your loss and the pain you're in. I'm right there with you. My mom died two weeks ago tomorrow. You're right, this is the hardest thing I've ever had to deal with. With lots of good memories and crying and laughs, maybe we can get through this.

Lots of hugs,

Heather

 

[birdiesunshine]

Originally posted by mickey65
My mom is really gone Tomorrow will be one month since she passed away, and today it is hitting me full force that she really is gone....not just in the hospital...not just away.....she is really gone. Nothing I can do will bring her back. It hurts so much.

Wow!! This is so weird that you started this thread. My Dad passed away almost a month ago as well and today when I went to the cemetery I felt the saddest and most alone since he passed away. It hit me harder today than any other day. After reading your thread I know I'm not alone. You made me feel better. Now, here's a hug from me to you hoping I make you feel a little better too!!

 

[Lars624]

Val
My heart goes out to you.......I am so sorry for your loss
You know where to find me find me if you need someone to talk to

 

[JVL1018]

I am so so sorry-it is incredibly hard, I know.

 

[The LK 4]

Val, I'm so sorry to hear about your mother.

 

[dianeschlicht]

So sorry , Val.

 

[Ranatra]

Val I'm so sorry you're hurting.
This is a pain I've not experienced yet, my heart goes out to you.

 

[Pop Daddy]

hey

 

[Kitty 34]

So sorry you're still hurting so much Val. My heart goes out to you. {{{{{HUGS}}}} my friend.

 

[slo]

My deepest symphathies to you.

I am so sorry about the loss of your mother. When my grandfather passed away I was devostated. What helped me through a though time was knowing that where he went he was no longer sick, weak, and old but was now healthy, strong and young. He was able to watch over me and my DD and that made us both feel better.

Again I am so sorry to hear of your mothers passing and I hope you start to feel better soon. Just remember all the wonderful memories you and your mom shared and that where she is now she is healthy, strong and young and is watching you every minute of everyday.

God Bless!!!

 

[Morganpics]

I am very sorry for you in the loss of your mother. I lost my Dad 5 years ago last Friday. I still miss him dreadfully and I understand your sorrow. I talk to him almost every day asking for his guidance. I do find that with time I have been able to remember things we did or he said without feeling overwhelmingly sad. It will get better.