Is your Hubby Romantic?

[Kimickey]

I would like to know is your DH romantic. Mine is not!!!! No not at all, not one romantic bone in his body. We have been married for 5 years and really have never done anything romantic. What does it take? I don't ask for much besides a trip to Disney once a year! But that is besides the point, my DH says how does such a strong woman want romance? I would like to know if I'm the only woman who is romance deprived?

 

[Suzy Mouse]

It's funny because my hubby and I "argue" about this. He thinks that he's more romantic than me. Where as I tend to disagree. Then it gets into "what is romantic?"

What do you consider being romantic ?

 

[caseylouandtyler2]

No Romance here! I've pretty much given up that daydream.

 

[CEDmom]

I'd say my husband probably gets a B- in the romance department. Not spectacular but better than average. He actually asked if I wanted to get a baby sitter and do something special for valentines day. Now I was surprised and pleased by this but the spectacular romantic would have arranged the baby sitter and all the other details himself. Oh well, he happily puts up with me and that's not always an easy task.

 

[luvmydogs]

I bet you are not the only woman who is Romance-Deprived! My husband and I have been together 17 years, married for nearly 11, and I think the romance began to disappear when ds8 was born--which I don't think is unusual. We had to become more of a well-oiled machine rather than a romantic couple to keep up with the needs of a baby! But there are two things my husband has always done--when he comes home from work, he'll always come up behind me, wrap his arms around me, and kiss my neck, and he'll always hold my hand whenever we're out. My ds is at the age where all this completely grosses him out! So although a lot of the flowers, candy, jewelry, etc. are pretty much out of the picture, I guess when it all comes down to it, he's still a really great husband and dad. Maybe were at the point in life where "being comfortable" with each other has replaced "being romantic."

 

[KristaTX]

My husband is much more romantic than me, actually. For instance, over New Year's week he planned and took me on a 3-night trip to a great little cottage B&B a few hours south of here.

 

[dvcfamily41801]

For the most part mine is. I do wish that we would have date night a little more often. It is just hard with our schedules, he works retail and a lot of nights and weekends. He will buy flowers for me every now and then for no reason and that is always nice. We used to write notes for eachother a lot just little hi and I love you stick in his work bag or my purse

 

[Lewski709]

Not at all and it's a bummer. I really miss the previous relationships with some romance. I love my DH, but he just doesn't get it. Maybe if he did, he would get more of what he wants.

 

[acepepper]

Originally posted by CEDmom
I'd say my husband probably gets a B- in the romance department. Not spectacular but better than average. He actually asked if I wanted to get a baby sitter and do something special for valentines day. Now I was surprised and pleased by this but the spectacular romantic would have arranged the baby sitter and all the other details himself. Oh well, he happily puts up with me and that's not always an easy task.

LOL, now this is just typical of a woman. Whatever we do, it's never quite enough is it? If he'd booked the restaurant and surprised you, you probably would critisised his choice of retaurant. This romance thing is my wife's big thing, drives me nuts. You've got to realise that we're only romantic when we want to get inside your pants. What's wrong with that?

 

[pirateofthecarolinas]

We leave notes of encouragement for each other. I usually put his on his steering wheel or in his daily planner. He puts mine in front of the coffee pot.

He sends flowers but only on special occasions, never out of the blue. I send him flowers (once every few years) for no reason. He gets embarrassed and says don't do it, but he talks about it for a month. I know that it makes him feel good.

Your husband may have grown up in a family that didn't show affection and it is difficult for him to do so because he knows you are expecting him to be romantic. My husband says that he is amazed that he and his sister were even conceived because of how cold his parents are towards one another. I remember my father always hugging my mother.

Good luck. I think it is hard to get someone to be romantic when it doesn't come naturally for them.

Lori

 

[Beast fan]

No offense to you wonderful women, and I hate to sound cruel, but........... If I wanted it from DW, I'd be romantic. Since I don't, I don't have to be.

Dave

 

[browneyes]

Nope.

 

[Lewski709]

No offense to you wonderful women, and I hate to sound cruel, but........... If I wanted it from DW, I'd be romantic. Since I don't, I don't have to be.

That is harsh.

I have a very good relationship with DH....missing the romance.....so it's missing the .............. you know. Unfortunately for him, he needs it more than I do. A little romance may help him, in more ways than one.

 

[buzzlady]

Nope. Not at all.

 

[Tiggerlover91]

Originally posted by Beast fan
No offense to you wonderful women, and I hate to sound cruel, but........... If I wanted it from DW, I'd be romantic. Since I don't, I don't have to be.

Dave

WOW! So glad my DH doesn't feel the way you do. How long have you been in a relationship? Been with my DH for 16 years and married for 13 of those....his romance gets better and better EVERY year! How blessed am I??

 

[luvmarypoppins]

Gee I am still waiting. Yes DH grew up in a family where coldness abounded. He didnt have a good role model of either parent in the romance dept. He doesnt get me flowers, I am allergic, never plans anything nice or special on his own without me giving a major hint. On new years eve he fell asleep in his chair as usual. He is not old either. He does work really hard and takes us to disney once a year. So I guess I shouldnt complain. He has gotten better and calls once in a while just to say he loves me, ohh how sweet especially since its not to make up for something he did to get me mad. I think our 3 ds have a good concept of everything when they see us, so that is good especially coming from my dhs family background as his reference point. He doesnt get me things, like clothes or jewelry. I dont like his taste and I am really not into "things". He did get me some mickey ornaments for christmas, (big hint from me) and he promised to get a part of my van fixed. Wow one year my christmas gift was 2 tires for the van, so he has come along.

 

[CamColt]

I only say "My Husband" and "Romantic" in the same sentence when Im saying hes the least romantic person around.

 

[HoneyPooh]

My DH is not so much un-romantic as he is clueless. Every now and then the lightbulb comes on but not nearly enough and it dims way to quickly . It makes me all the more touched when he does come up with something, so maybe he acts clueless on purpose .

 

[faithinkarma]

My husband is so romantic that it embarrasses me how far he has outdistanced me in this field. And he does it not just to please me but because he enjoys it himself.

Such an incredible contrast to my first husband. Example : Once, for Valentine's Day, I planned a surprise for him. He was a huge basketball fan. I got tickets to see Magic Johnson play with the Lakers in a city about 300 miles away. I arranged hotel, meals etc. I packed the tickets with his lunch one day so he would find them and be surprised. I was so excited.

He was too.................he went, and took our teenage son instead of me. ROFL and it still took me another 10 years to see the light !!!!! None so blind........

 

[helenabear]

Not really romantic at all. Then again he never was so I never will expect him to be. I just think it is fair not to be upset at him for not doing something he had never really done to begin with. Although, when he is a bit "romantic" it is a pure surprise and means a ton to me