Is this tacky?

[kdibattista]

I have heard of people "exchanging" their engagement rings for bigger ones once they have been married for awhile. I think that's completely tacky and would never, ever do that but I was considering changing the setting (plain band with a princess cut diamond) and would love to get an antique setting for our 5 year anniversary next year. Is that tacky? I appreciate honest opinions.

Thanks!!!!

 

[Mimi Q]

I don't think changing the setting it tacky. I lost my engagement ring, and my husband gave me another over twice the size of the first one for my 10 year wedding anniversary but it's just not the same. I really wish I had my first diamond.

 

[Beauty]

I don't think its tacky, I just think its a personal decision. I am very attached to my original engagement ring and wedding band and I never ever want to change them.

However, my dad passed away 3 years ago and my mom just recently gave me her engagement ring. I would love to have the diamond removed from my mom's engagement ring and mounted into my dad's wedding band which is very thick.

Oh and I also want a princess cut diamond solataire ring. I don't care if it is 'per say' an engagement ring, I've always wanted one.

 

[debster812]

DH and I are actually talking about this right now. I have my original diamond, but 2 out of the 6 prongs are broken, so it needs some work. I also have a set of diamond stud earrings that my grandmother left me, that I do not wear every day. We were thinking of having a new 3 stone ring made out of the original diamond, and 2 from my Nana.

I don't think it's tacky at all.

 

[nealymouse]

Heck No. I had my diamond made into an earring then ended up trading that for a 1 karret set a few months ago. I also have replaced my diamond ring with a much larger one and am so happy I did it.

My marrage is strong and going on 22 years.......

 

[CEDmom]

What does your DH think of your doing this? If he's ok then I'd say do what makes you happy. However, if it bothers him then I think you should just let in go.

 

[princesstommi]

I don't think it's tacky at all. I don't think "upgrading" is tacky either. I think it's up to the couple and the importance they place in the jewelry.

For me, DH didn't propose with a ring. We picked one out after the fact. So, I wouldn't be opposed in the future to picking out something else, upgrading, whatever. But my wedding ring is a different story. I'm very emotionally attached to it, and I can't imagine trading it out for something different.

Do what makes you happy.

 

[Meriweather]

I inherited my mother's engagement ring, anniversary ring, grandmother and grandfather's wedding rings.
Took the stones out of them all and added my engagement stone (all fairly small and had a wide white gold band done incorporating them all.
I love it and it feels extra special having all those with me.

 

[kdibattista]

DH doesn't know yet Actually, I know he wouldn't have any problem with it.

 

[Prince Eric1]

I think that unless the ring is lost or damaged, that the rings you get engaged and married with should have a significant meaning and stay with you for life. I would be hurt if my wife wanted to change her ring, as it was bought with a special meaning and sentimentality, but I'm just kind of old fashioned.

 

[helenabear]

I truthfully see nothing wrong with it. When I got married I was stuck on the idea that our settings had to match and that my ring would never change. Well a few years later the yellow gold bugged me (i do not wear *any* yellow gold otherwise) and with my husband's permission, I changed to a white gold setting. He even added to the set by getting me an anniversary band.

The ring is NOT what is important in the marriage in my eyes... I look at my original setting and it is precious to me... I just don't wear it. Same is true of a ring and necklace that were handed down to me in life and the first ring my husband ever bought me. I keep them safe, but not on my hand/neck anymore. My style has changed and some special jewelry just isn't the style I like anymore, and truthfully they are so special to me I am afraid to wear them out of fear of losing them.

 

[katerkat]

I think you should do it if both of you are happy with it. DH, bless his heart, went shopping the day before he proposed, which was 20 hours before he left for Bolivia. He never found the setting he was looking for - he had no idea that it might need to be ordered! So... I don't mind keeping the diamond, but we're both OK with a new setting for our 5-year anniversary.

 

[Aimeedyan]

I don't see anything tacky about upgrading diamonds or settings... many couples buy with that intention when they first marry, because they can't afford what they truly want. Besides, a ring is just another material possession - just because you upgrade doesn't mean you can't hold onto that first ring for sentimental value. Doesn't reflect on your marriage at all. Just a matter of choice - certainly not tacky.

I don't think what you want to do is tacky, either! I think it would be great!

 

[calypso*a*go-go]

I love my rings as they match my DH's. However, I did not feel offended in anyway when he gave me the opportunity to upgrade to a larger diamond using the same setting.

I told my DH long ago that he didn't need to waste any money on buying a lot of smaller jewelry pieces -- just save up and give me something nice on really special occasions.

 

[alecam]

I do not think that changing the setting is tacky at all, as long as you still use the origional engagement diamond. The origional diamond means forever, and that is the diamond that should stay on your left ring finger. Any other diamond is just a replacement and to me does not signify the engagement anymore.

 

[SandraM]

Funny, I was thinking of this the other day. In Ireland, engagement rings are commonly made up of any number of stones (my own has 4 .25 carat stones which I wear with an eternity ring my DH gave me for our 7th anniversary), but increasingly women hitting the 40-odd mark seem to replace their engagement ring with a solitaire of over 1 carat.
I particularly noticed it the other day in a neighbour's house, because my neighbour had had a particularly pretty ring, which I had always admired. I noticed she was wearing a sizeable rock and enquired about her original engagement ring. She waved her hand dismissively and said words to the effect that the diamonds in it were too insignificant and that the ring was in a drawer upstairs!
Each to their own, I suppose, but I hate to think I would dismiss a symbol of my husband's love for me because my standard of living had outgrown the size of the symbol.

 

[siouxi31]

I don't think it's tacky I just don't see the purpose (for me). I'm not wealthy and jewelry is very low on my totem pole of priorities.

 

[FroggyinArk]

doesnt see a thing wrong with updateing t he rings, dw and i have beent ogether 10 yrs,, teh first ring i gave her was a emerald for her b day,, she wore it as a promiss ring till we married, since then her engage ment ring has lost a cpl of the sets and her weding band was to small and after i lost mine at work,, the bands no longer matched, she should be getting her new wedding set back from jeweler some time next week was this years tenth aniversery together, 6th wedding aniversery gift

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I didn't have a ring when I got married and we did get rings eventually, 2 years after, but I don't like it. It is a marquis that is like a weapon of destruction.

I am planning on an upgrade for my 15th anniversary!

 

[LittleMissMickey]

I am not married, but I plan on keeping my original engagement ring. My boyfriend and I talk about this and we think each step along the way is important. If one day he gives me a larger stone, it is just a symbol of growing love, but will not replace where we came from.

My grandma believes in making herself look "rich." She was excited because she picked out a ring with my grandpa for their 35th anniversary that had 35 diamonds.. Is that really necessary!? I do like that she had her original engagement ring turned into a tie tack for him, though. It is very classy looking, and what a great way to have a man wear a significant and symbolic piece of jewelry!

As it has been said, to each their own.

Ashley