Is this tackY? Staying at MIL's

[BuzznBelle'smom]

Okay, here's the history--DH and I have been married for 17 years, 3 kids, still happy, thank you very much. Whenever we stay at his mother's, she puts us in a room with twin beds. Even when we all stayed in a condo, we got the room with twin beds. We've always just pushed them together--hey, we're used to sleeping next to each other.

Then last Thanksgiving, I insisted that the twin beds be held together by a king sized sheet. We had a nursing infant in a strange place, who would likely be in with us during the night, and I wanted the assurance that she wouldn't get stuck in the crack between the two beds. MIL produced a sheet, but complained the entire weekend about "what we were doing up there". Mind you, we were sharing this room with all 3 kids, with DH's brother's family across the hall, and MIL downstairs--yeah, it was a wild party!

So, next visit, I think we're going to get one of those foam thingies that fill in the crack between two twin beds to make a king. We'll also bring our own king sheet, so if MIL doesn't come upstairs, she'll be none the wiser. I'm really not trying to pick a fight, just have a comfortable night's sleep with DH. Do you guys think I'm being tacky by bringing this stuff? We're likely to have a kid in bed with us again this year.

 

[mommytotwo]

Nope, if you have tried out the twin beds without the foam and such and it didn't work, why not try your new approach.
Sounds like your MIL just wants to have a say in what you are doing-even though nothing is really going on.

 

[poohandwendy]

Do you guys think I'm being tacky by bringing this stuff?

Um no, I think your MIL is being tacky...and downright wierd. You are MARRIED, you have 3 children!!!! How does she think they came about?

To be honest, if I were you I would turn the tables and start cracking jokes about how you just can't get enough of eachother, I would go on and on until she asked me to stop....that should teach her for minding your business.

Next time bring plastic sheets and wesson oil...that should give her something to think about....

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

Why does an adult woman care or have anything to say about an adult, married couple who choose to *gasp* sleep together? You certainly don't need to provide an excuse, ie a child may end up in bed with you. If MIL seems to have a problem with providing anything herself, then by all means, bring your own. And last I heard, adult married people are allowed to have sex without permission from someone's mother.

 

[auntpolly]

I think after 17 years and 3 kids your MIL needs to come to grips with the fact that you and her son have sex! Who cares what she knows and doesn't know? Do what you need to have a nice time and be comfortable!

 

[aprilgail2]

Wow...I think I would just make hotel reservations so we could do what we wanted to..I couldn't stay in someones house if they were like that!

 

[eeyore kelly]

Um no, I think your MIL is being tacky...and downright wierd.

ITA!!!!! If you can't get a hotel room, then fix your bed how you like it. If MIL doesn't like it, then she can....... Well, you get my drift.

 

[Mermaid02]

I'd stay in a hotel....

 

[disneyjunkie]

Originally posted by aprilgail2
Wow...I think I would just make hotel reservations so we could do what we wanted to..I couldn't stay in someones house if they were like that!

I agree.

I'd just spend time with them during the day then go to a hotel each night.

 

[dianeschlicht]

Yep, reservations are definitely in order!

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Originally posted by aprilgail2
Wow...I think I would just make hotel reservations so we could do what we wanted to..I couldn't stay in someones house if they were like that!

In fact we prefer NOT to stay with relatives. It is nice to visit and then LEAVE!

 

[Pop Daddy]

I agree with your mil, cant you guys keep your hands off each other for just a week

 

[jacksonsmom]

I agree....we would be staying at a hotel.
Infact we never stay at relative's houses, we like our privacy!

BTW--what does your DH think of all this?

 

[NMAmy]

My ex's mother was like this. We were allowed to sleep in the same bed with dd in the room, but she would come into our room late at night and call my ex to come downstairs to chat with her privately. She always had some crisis (still does from what dd tells me!) and would always want his advice.

She's a wacko. Luckily I don't have to see her anymore!

And I don't think you're being tacky at all--your mil sounds really controlling.

 

[SC Minnie]

This should be where your husband steps up an says something. After 17 years of marriage she is worried about what is going on when the lights are out???? It sounds like she doesn't respect your marriage. I am with everyone else here and would stay in a hotel if possible-- which we often do when visiting DH's family for other reasons.

 

[Serena]

Oooh, why do I get this inclination to have the kids jumping up and down on the bed and make moaning sounds loud enough for her to hear.
When she comes pounding on the door be fully dressed.
I'd also get a copy of the marriage license and tape it to the outside of the door.

 

[browneyes]

Do you guys think I'm being tacky by bringing this stuff?

No, I think your MIL is the one that's being tacky.

 

[ThAnswr]

Originally posted by BuzznBelle'smom
So, next visit, I think we're going to get one of those foam thingies that fill in the crack between two twin beds to make a king. We'll also bring our own king sheet, so if MIL doesn't come upstairs, she'll be none the wiser. I'm really not trying to pick a fight, just have a comfortable night's sleep with DH. Do you guys think I'm being tacky by bringing this stuff? We're likely to have a kid in bed with us again this year.

I think it's a wonderful idea.

It's practical, it's sensitive to your MIL'S "imagination", and best of all........ IT SOLVES THE PROBLEM!

 

[roliepolieoliefan]

I think what you're doing is fine. Its your MIL thats tacky.

 

[Tinks]

I agree with your mil, cant you guys keep your hands off each other for just a week

This made a great laughing start to my day. Thanks, P.D.