Is this normal?

[almburr]

Wow..................

I got nothing.

AS a person of Mexican decent my kids would not be running around like that. But then again...I'm American so I guess that makes a difference.

The quote was coming from another Mexican mother.

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

The quote was coming from another Mexican mother.

That makes it okay?

 

[pigletgirl]

Maybe you should 'get over it' A Mass is not a playground. Kids should not be running around AT ALL. I am so sick of people with the 'kids will be kids' attitude. There is a time and a place for running around and making noise and church is not one of them. It's crappy lazy parenting and it's rampant.

Crappy lazy parenting? Ok Ms Judgment.. Everyone but you is probably a bad parent. Thanks for pointing it out!

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

Maybe you should 'get over it' A Mass is not a playground. Kids should not be running around AT ALL. I am so sick of people with the 'kids will be kids' attitude. There is a time and a place for running around and making noise and church is not one of them. It's crappy lazy parenting and it's rampant.

Agreed. But, it's surely not because of their nationality.

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

Crappy lazy parenting? Ok Ms Judgment.. Everyone but you is probably a bad parent. Thanks for pointing it out!

I don't think she was saying that at all.

 

[MnMomtoboys]

You know instead of focusing on their culture just tell them they aren't being human right.

 

[ebtbmom]

Yes, Mexican culture is rich with historical examples of parents ignoring their ill behaved offspring. Pottery has been discovered in Mayan ruins that depict parents hanging out enjoying maize while the kids are running around desecrating a pyramid temple.

 

[krcit]

Crappy lazy parenting? Ok Ms Judgment.. Everyone but you is probably a bad parent. Thanks for pointing it out!

You're quite welcome!!!!



Explain to me how allowing children to run around the church during a Mass is not bad parenting?? I really would like to hear your thoughts on that. If saying that a parent not doing anything about their kids running around like that is lazy parenting makes me Ms Judgement, well then I guess I am. I never claimed to be a perfect parent but I can guarantee that my kids always behaved in those type of situations or I removed them from it. Not dair to disturb everyone else because kids are not behaving. Family celebration or not....they can run around at the party after the Communion not during the Mass. That also goes for restaurants, school events, weddings etc.

 

[krcit]

I don't think she was saying that at all.

Thanks for getting what I meant

 

[Eliza32]

Ya know, this is one of the reasons I'm getting real sick of these boards. The OP askes a genuine question, to understand whether something about this behaviour is a cultural thing, and y'all jump on her back? Couldn't someone have just answered 'No it is not' and left it at that???

 

[EMom]

Maybe I need to add that these families are rather new here. A Hispanic mom who has been here for at least 15yrs gets on these new ones and tells them that you have to watch them and that you cant leave them (1yr and under) home while you go 10 miles to pick up your older kid. tells them that this is not Mexico. and that they need to be more American.

So that is why I asked, I wondered if it was normal for Mexican families to do this.

I am going to say what will be flamed. But it is the truth where I live. We have been swamped with families fleeing Mexico for the past several years, most of them wealthy, upper class Mexicans. In large percentage, they let their kids run wild and are oblivious to what they do. In school, at restaurants, in the neighborhood......it doesn't matter.

I can only speak to the upper class families, but they were used to nannies taking care of the kids and trying to rein them in. They move here without their nannies and no one (mom or dad) takes up the slack. The boys often have a real problem respecting authority figures, because back in Mexico, they were the cream of the crop, the top of the heap. The girls tend to adapt better from what I have seen. Here, these formerly upper class kids are treated like everyone else by their upper middle class American peers and it is a culture shock for them.

So I may offend the devil out of a lot of people in this board, but I have lived it firsthand and it is not pretty. That is not to say "none of them" behave. As they stay here longer, it tends to get better.

BTW, "Mexican" is not a race.

 

[kwelch10377]

It's first communion and your complaining about babies? Get over it! It's a day where families come together and celebrate. Im sure you could of attended another mass.

There is a time and a place to let kids run around and Mass is not one of them. First Communion isn't a "hey let's run around and play celebration", it is a serious religious celebration where people need to be respectful and make sure their children are respectful. If a child can't be quiet and respectful then the parent should take them outside or in may churches there are rooms that they can take them to.

 

[ebtbmom]

Ya know, this is one of the reasons I'm getting real sick of these boards. The OP askes a genuine question, to understand whether something about this behaviour is a cultural thing, and y'all jump on her back? Couldn't someone have just answered 'No it is not' and left it at that???

Some things just shouldn't be asked! I don't think this OP is being serious, probably a troll post in honor of Cinco de Mayo.

 

[almburr]

Ya know, this is one of the reasons I'm getting real sick of these boards. The OP askes a genuine question, to understand whether something about this behaviour is a cultural thing, and y'all jump on her back? Couldn't someone have just answered 'No it is not' and left it at that???

thank you!

 

[Art 1]

At mass this morning we were having 1st communion celebration. My family was sitting in front of us ant the next 3 pews in front of us were Mexican families. They had toddlers. As father was speaking, the toddlers got up and wondered around. Left their pews and proceeded to run around father. The parents did nothing, did not look at the spouse or even try to corral them. One altar server who is Mexican glared at the mothers, with a look that indicated get up and get YOUR kids. One dad did finally get up and try to get his. When father saw what was going on behind him, he stopped talking and turned to the three families. Spoke to them in Spanish telling them that they needed to take them out of church if they could not control them in the pew, and that there were toys in the church hall.

Then communion time came and father stepped forward to give communion the little kids were at it again, they ran around the altar, grabbed a hold of one of the big candles. The one Altar server got up grabbed one of them and gave her back to her parents.

I've noticed this a lot amongst this culture. When we have home basketball games. the parents sit in the top bleacher and never watch their kids. Our court is very small. so you time you walk along the sides with which way the teams are running. These little kids are sitting on the restraining lines, wondering on and off the court, throwing toys out there. Many times they have tripped at ref who was back peddling. ball players have jumped over them. Again the parents do nothing. it takes another person like the principle, other teachers and fans. to grab them from being trampled and hand them back to their parents. This also happens at school concerts and programs. on all the programs in both English and Spanish it states the all children must remain seated during the game unless with an adult, no running. My kids wait for time out to head to the bathroom or concession stand.

Is this normal for the Mexican culture? Not sure if I should say Hispanic because they refer to themselves as Mexican.

That is normal for the Mexican culture and some other Spanish speaking countries. Mexican's also bottle feed much longer than Anglos.

 

[almburr]

Some things just shouldn't be asked! I don't think this OP is being serious, probably a troll post in honor of Cinco de Mayo.

SO why shouldn't questions be asked? I am serious about this post. It was also May crowing, not just Cinco de Mayo.

If I was a troll I would have used a new account name, and would not have come back to the post.

 

[pigletgirl]

You're quite welcome!!!!

Explain to me how allowing children to run around the church during a Mass is not bad parenting?? I really would like to hear your thoughts on that. If saying that a parent not doing anything about their kids running around like that is lazy parenting makes me Ms Judgement, well then I guess I am. I never claimed to be a perfect parent but I can guarantee that my kids always behaved in those type of situations or I removed them from it. Not dair to disturb everyone else because kids are not behaving. Family celebration or not....they can run around at the party after the Communion not during the Mass. That also goes for restaurants, school events, weddings etc.

Different cultures raise their children differently and sometimes it's not under what our expectations may be. Yeah, the parent should of done something, but we are in no room to judge. Sometimes when there is more stink about it, the worse it gets. Thats why people post on here things like, " woman at supermarket reprimanded my kid".

 

[moon]

That is normal for the Mexican culture and some other Spanish speaking countries. Mexican's also bottle feed much longer than Anglos.

Then those unruly, obnoxious children on the wedding thread must be Mexican. I didn't realize that!

And like a PP said those Mexicans and their culture are the reason children don't get invited to weddings...

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

Then those unruly, obnoxious children on the wedding thread must be Mexican. I didn't realize that!

And like a PP said those Mexicans and their culture are the reason children don't get invited to weddings...

*snort

 

[krcit]

Different cultures raise their children differently and sometimes it's not under what our expectations may be. Yeah, the parent should of done something, but we are in no room to judge. Sometimes when there is more stink about it, the worse it gets. Thats why people post on here things like, " woman at supermarket reprimanded my kid".

I guess only you can judge?? You told the OP to 'get over it' because she questioned the kids running around a Mass. A Mass during which her son was receiving a very special sacrament. And nationality or culture has nothing to do with it. I've seen plenty of American born parents allowing that type of behavior and it stinks.