Is this bad ? LOL .. (about DH and I )

[bookooz2002]

Are we bad ? LOL .. okay I was thinking along the lines of "family vacation" .. when I talked w/ Dh a few mins ago about a cruise.. He was like .. well why not just us ? It just kind of blew me out of the water I guess (no pun intended) I have never thought about it ..
We never had a honeymoon , nor have we ever been on a vacation together..( seperate trips for seperate things regarding family )...
It just kind of hit me.. wow .. that would be great. if we can secure the kids w/ grandparents for a 7 day cruise.... I couldnt even begin to imagine LOL..
Is this bad ??? now Im switching into 2 person mode ? instead of "family " ????
LOL he was telling me that we can always take the kids when they get older ( like 2007)
I just was like screaming inside YES YES I wanna go I wanna go LOL Just making sure IM not being selfish by thinking about taking DH and I.. ONLY!
Just had to get that out..
*sigh* off to edit all my saved info NOW lol ..
gotta backtrack !
kat

 

[lsutigger2]

I think it is a great idea! Go for it before either one of you changes their mind!!

 

[sherry]

Hi, I don't think you're "bad". I think all couples need together time. If the grandparents are ok with watching your children, I think that is valuable time for them with their grandchildren. Just be prepared to think about them at least 90% of the time. We just took a 7 day without our children who are 17 and 21. First time we left them in the house that long, but their grandmother lives right next door. We had a wonderful time, especially knowing for Christmas we gave them a 4 day cruise, so we can all experience the "Wonder" for the first time together. Have a great trip.

 

[jwann]

Go for it!
My sister and I are talking about taking a Disney cruise without our families - how "bad" is that!

 

[kajohn]

If that is bad then I am horrible! My husband and I have taken two cruises without the kids with the 3rd one in a month. We finally took them on their first cruise last year, and have now promised them that they could go every other cruise. While I enjoyed the cruise with the kids, I still prefer cruising as an adult activity.

I also believe that to have a strong family it is important for the husband and wife to have a strong marriage, and going off on trips alone is a big part of that in my household. My parents live in another state, so they have the kids come spend a week with them in the summer, and now they are coming to our home in February to watch the kids so we can go on our cruise.

We don't have any extended family where we live, and babysitters are hard to come by and expensive, so that week alone is very important to us!

Go on the cruise as a couple and ENJOY!!!

 

[Rob1559]

We have done 4 with the kids. Our fifith we be just the wife and I for our 20th anniversary. Do we feel guilty?


NO WAY!

 

[WDWLVR]

Well we don't have kids so we have always sailed without them but I totally agree that a cruise is a wonderful adults only vacation.

I think you will enjoy it so much that you'll be looking at booking another - maybe that one you can plan to take the kids (and maybe the grandparents too) on.

 

[Favorite Auntie]

How old are the kids? I have cruise both ways...with a 5 year old and with only adults. There are good things and bad thing about both. When I was with adults only I was constantly thinking of how much fun it would be to watch the kids have fun. As adults I got to actually relax and not panic when I heard anyones "beeper" from the clubs go off. With a child I was in the room by 9 every night, missed a lot of activities, but caught up on a ton of sleep. Also took a lot of naps with a child.

I have booked again for next year and I am going with my sister and 3 neices, one of which will be my charge ( that sister is not coming, just her 3 year old ~ how do you think I stay FAVORITE AUNTIE?!?!?!) I am looking forward to this cruise even though there will be 3 little girls! (3, 4 and 6)

 

[Buckleybunch]

Heck NO- this isn't bad or selfish. I have 4 kids- and some times I wished DH and I would take trips with out the kids more often.
We have our weekly or almost weekly night out.. But when we went to WDW is AUgust with out the kids it was so difference. DH made me shut my cell phone off, so the kids wouldn't call for dumb things.. how late can I stay up, do I have to take a bath tomorrow.. My parents live with so they were in a normal every day routine.

I would book it- and not think twice about enjoying the time with just your husband. If you get a little gulilty do just the 4 day cruise.

Have fun, and enjoy your planning.

 

[takemeaway]

I wish we had someone to take our kids for a week. You are very lucky to have that option. I would not hesitate to go on a cruise without my children. When you return from the cruise after some quiet time alone you will have a more solid marriage and be a more relaxed parent.

If it isn't too much trouble, could we drop our kids off too?

 

[jlp651]

One thing BF and I have talked about in the past about having kids is making sure we DATE!!! ok so yours would be a 7 day date...but worth every second to be alone for a bit...
I say start planning!

 

[bookooz2002]

LOL takemeaway!
our parents (both sets) live 2 hour drive away .. we are thinking about having my MIL and her husband coming up here to keep the kids for a week as the particular week we are looking at is while they are in school...
Depends on where we are by then LOL (we will be moving in may)

they will live farther away then but I think it will be worth it.
When we started REALLY talkin gabout it my DH was like well would they be old enough ??
to get thru a week w/ out us KWIM ?
kat

 

[BibbidyBobbidyBoo]

I don't think it is bad to want some alone time as parents. We're parents- but we're also people! And sometimes a relationship is stronger if you have a little "alone" time.
We went to cancun (also a late late honeymoon- years after getting married LOL) when our oldest was about a year old. She doesn't even know we did that (she stayed with family members- my sisters & father one of the days- all at our home).

We now have 3 children and with the way our family is (either disabled or living way too far away) we have no grandparents for our children to spend time with. If we did, we'd probably be thinking about doing what you are thinking about doing! That's part of why DCL appeals to us so much... it's a way for us to have both worlds... a family vacation but also hopefully a cruise where we have some time alone but the kids having a blast at the same time (assuming they like the clubs/labs as we anticipate they will- knowing them & their personalities/etc.). ]

When I was younger we spent a LOT of time at our grandparents home- even if our parents weren't going on vacation! And every summer we'd spend a week here or there with other various relatives (like aunts- our mom was the youngest in the family so all our aunts were much older than her). I see nothing wrong with spending time with extended family also- regardless of whether the parents are going on vacation or not.