Disney Dreams
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All right... It's long. But so is Harry Potter and that didn't stop you.....
We all have our strengths and weaknesses in VMK. Some are good at room building, some are good at ride building, some are good at pirates, other ghosts, some fireworks, and then there are those who have me in total "awe" with their ability to actually earn credits at any time of the day in Jungle Cruise.
One of the great things about the VMK friendships we form is that our friends have talents we lack and vice versa. When a friend comes and sits in your room for hours trying to help you build a ride or room that has you completely stumped, when friends who love catching ghosts play as many games as it takes for a friend to complete a quest, or when friends welcome you aboard their ship to help you win a pirate game... those are the truly magical moments of VMK friendships. Those are the times that we realize that it is not about just your own success, but your friends' successes as well. And you wait for your chance to pay if forward.
But what happens when you take the time and it is thrown in your face?
As many of you know, I LOVE playing pirates in VMK. For me, it's fun, it's enjoyable, it's a stress relief, and it's my primary source of credits. It's - imagine that - a game!
As much as I have made many close friends who share my passion for this game, friends who enjoy the challenge, watch awe at our friends' skills which differ from our own, and laugh at our losses (hopefully not too often, although some nights......
), I have also made friends who don't care for pirates.
These friends know they can jump on my boat anytime they want and fight right along with us - sink or swim - with no pressure to do anything other than try their best and have fun (win or lose).
Tonight, 2 friends and I played pirates literally for hours. We average around 350-400 credits a game and usually win about 7 or 8 out of 10 games. Around 9:45pm another friend approached us. He was sad that he had not made as much as he wanted today because he had not found a "friendly pirates group" to play with all evening.
I suggested a few joint friends that I knew were playing friendly all night and he commented that their game was "full." At this moment, he made a bold choice. He joined our game, against our team, and commented something like, "I'll let you all beat me." Respecting his willingness to play, I left my "team of 3" and joined him. I knew my other 2 friends would come at us full force. They knew I would want nothing less. If you know me, you know I don't EVER want you to let me win. Sink or swim. It's a game.
I knew we probably would lose. I knew my friends would take pleasure in sinking me. And I knew that we would get some credits and that I was helping a friend who clearly was feeling down about pirates (and possibly other vmk'ers). And this was my chance to pay forward a few of those dreaded ghost games I am sooo awful at.
Then the game starts.
Round 1 - My friends destroyed us. Fair enough. Outplayed.
Round 2 - Friend who joined our game was sunk and I was fighting for the victory for our team.
Before I had a chance to win or lose the round for us, he said, "I am going back to lobby." (Meaning, quitting the game.)
All of us tried to stop him from quitting. There was NO reason to leave. We were getting points. Not a lot, not yet, but we were getting points. AND - a friend (me) made the choice to pay 21 credits and play with him instead of my team. But, he quit. Leaving me with a PirateShip and no team. Needless to say, I lost. Not only that, but I received 3 credits (which really means, I paid 18). But who cares about that? I was betrayed by a friend who I just tried to help.
Is this how the way to thank a friend who makes a sacrifice to help you?
Am I the only one who thinks this is beyond rude?
Why quit?
Then, to add insult to injury, when I went to find this person after our game ended to ask him if he understood what I did to try to help him and how upset I was with him for quitting, he would not answer me and then ran off to "Not in any room."
I tried to help a friend tonight. I had the sand thrown right in my eyes. A fun night was ended for me on a very sour note. PLEASE - if someone out there tries to help you, don't smack them directly across the face. And if you just can't stop yourself, at least have the courage to explain why.
If a friend who has skills you are lacking steps up and tries to help you, at least stick around till the end. To do otherwise is just plain rude and, well, certainly not the actions of a friend.
What this person did tonight in response to my extended hand of friendship was truly pathetic. And as much as I hate to admit it, I am sure it will pop into my brain next time I think about helping someone.
I would love to know others' views on this. Am I alone in my belief that if you help someone, they should at least stick around until the game / project is complete?
I would also like to, once again, thank the sooo many of you who have carried me through many a ghost game, helped me through a difficult quest (anyone remember 2 hours with me in mansion for my oh so favorite "Rurple" hat?), sat with me while I built or re-built a room that I was struggling with, taught me how to build a ride, or took the time to teach me / help me / assist me with anything over the past year and a half. You made my hobby that much richer and I truly appreciate your time and kindness. Please know, every bit of it was and continues to be appreciated --- even moreso after what I experienced tonight.
- Dreams
P.S. I have tried 5x to shorten this, but somehow it all seems necessary to put it in perspective.
We all have our strengths and weaknesses in VMK. Some are good at room building, some are good at ride building, some are good at pirates, other ghosts, some fireworks, and then there are those who have me in total "awe" with their ability to actually earn credits at any time of the day in Jungle Cruise.
One of the great things about the VMK friendships we form is that our friends have talents we lack and vice versa. When a friend comes and sits in your room for hours trying to help you build a ride or room that has you completely stumped, when friends who love catching ghosts play as many games as it takes for a friend to complete a quest, or when friends welcome you aboard their ship to help you win a pirate game... those are the truly magical moments of VMK friendships. Those are the times that we realize that it is not about just your own success, but your friends' successes as well. And you wait for your chance to pay if forward.
But what happens when you take the time and it is thrown in your face?
As many of you know, I LOVE playing pirates in VMK. For me, it's fun, it's enjoyable, it's a stress relief, and it's my primary source of credits. It's - imagine that - a game!
As much as I have made many close friends who share my passion for this game, friends who enjoy the challenge, watch awe at our friends' skills which differ from our own, and laugh at our losses (hopefully not too often, although some nights......
), I have also made friends who don't care for pirates.These friends know they can jump on my boat anytime they want and fight right along with us - sink or swim - with no pressure to do anything other than try their best and have fun (win or lose).
Tonight, 2 friends and I played pirates literally for hours. We average around 350-400 credits a game and usually win about 7 or 8 out of 10 games. Around 9:45pm another friend approached us. He was sad that he had not made as much as he wanted today because he had not found a "friendly pirates group" to play with all evening.
I suggested a few joint friends that I knew were playing friendly all night and he commented that their game was "full." At this moment, he made a bold choice. He joined our game, against our team, and commented something like, "I'll let you all beat me." Respecting his willingness to play, I left my "team of 3" and joined him. I knew my other 2 friends would come at us full force. They knew I would want nothing less. If you know me, you know I don't EVER want you to let me win. Sink or swim. It's a game.
I knew we probably would lose. I knew my friends would take pleasure in sinking me. And I knew that we would get some credits and that I was helping a friend who clearly was feeling down about pirates (and possibly other vmk'ers). And this was my chance to pay forward a few of those dreaded ghost games I am sooo awful at.
Then the game starts.
Round 1 - My friends destroyed us. Fair enough. Outplayed.
Round 2 - Friend who joined our game was sunk and I was fighting for the victory for our team.
Before I had a chance to win or lose the round for us, he said, "I am going back to lobby." (Meaning, quitting the game.)
All of us tried to stop him from quitting. There was NO reason to leave. We were getting points. Not a lot, not yet, but we were getting points. AND - a friend (me) made the choice to pay 21 credits and play with him instead of my team. But, he quit. Leaving me with a PirateShip and no team. Needless to say, I lost. Not only that, but I received 3 credits (which really means, I paid 18). But who cares about that? I was betrayed by a friend who I just tried to help.
Is this how the way to thank a friend who makes a sacrifice to help you?
Am I the only one who thinks this is beyond rude?
Why quit?
Then, to add insult to injury, when I went to find this person after our game ended to ask him if he understood what I did to try to help him and how upset I was with him for quitting, he would not answer me and then ran off to "Not in any room."
I tried to help a friend tonight. I had the sand thrown right in my eyes. A fun night was ended for me on a very sour note. PLEASE - if someone out there tries to help you, don't smack them directly across the face. And if you just can't stop yourself, at least have the courage to explain why.
If a friend who has skills you are lacking steps up and tries to help you, at least stick around till the end. To do otherwise is just plain rude and, well, certainly not the actions of a friend.
What this person did tonight in response to my extended hand of friendship was truly pathetic. And as much as I hate to admit it, I am sure it will pop into my brain next time I think about helping someone.
I would love to know others' views on this. Am I alone in my belief that if you help someone, they should at least stick around until the game / project is complete?
I would also like to, once again, thank the sooo many of you who have carried me through many a ghost game, helped me through a difficult quest (anyone remember 2 hours with me in mansion for my oh so favorite "Rurple" hat?), sat with me while I built or re-built a room that I was struggling with, taught me how to build a ride, or took the time to teach me / help me / assist me with anything over the past year and a half. You made my hobby that much richer and I truly appreciate your time and kindness. Please know, every bit of it was and continues to be appreciated --- even moreso after what I experienced tonight.
- Dreams
P.S. I have tried 5x to shorten this, but somehow it all seems necessary to put it in perspective.
