Is my DD2 weird?

Mrs. Charming

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OK... I'm just starting to worry now. Is my kid weird because she doesn't stay fixated on a dress, a movie, or going to WDW? I mean sure she likes dresses, movies, and WDW.. but there's no fixation on anything. No paci, no blankies, stuffed animals, nothing. I *thought* she was happy and well adjusted but now I'm like... crap... is she weird?
 
I don't think that is weird at all. Some kids just don't have lovies, and she just sounds happy, easygoing and well adjusted. I would not worry. If you pediatrician was worried, they would have you see someone. That is why they ask all of those screening questions. I would not worry.
 
Thanks :goodvibes It's just so hard NOT to worry because she isn't the biggest talker ever so I worry about everything!
 
As a mom of 6 happy and well adjusted children, I say don't worry. They all have their personalities. I had some that loved their blankets, some that didn't. None needed a pacifier, all loved their bottles. One that wore a Cinderella dress for about 6 months straight until I convinced her that riding her big wheel and wearing it was a mistake. I had one that was a drama queen and everything was the end of the world. I had one that was so laid back I worried that he wouldn't ever be assertive enough to make it the real world.

All kids are different. Each is an individual. That is what makes each of us special..we are our 'own' self!

Kelly
 

I would assume that you are great mother and her fixation is on you, so she does not need to hold on to something material to feel secure! :goodvibes
 
Both my kids (4 and 2) never took pacifiers, they hated them. Neither kid had/has a favorite blanky or anything else (was worried about that because I know I had a blanket I carried everywhere as a kid and my sister had a doll). They have no fixation on anything.
They are very normal and active kids. My dd (4) is a major drama queen and my ds (2) had a temper but is usually very easy going about everything.

They are very special, loving and unique individuals.
 
Dd13 was only fixated on the paci because I forced it on her, got her addicted, and then she only got it for the crib. When you say she's not a big talker, does that mean no language? Only taking in one word sentences? Dd6 had very little language at 18 months, was evaluated by EI, got ST, and the language came very quickly. It was awesome! :cool1:
 
My DD (now 6) would NOT take a pacifier, she never dragged around a blankie, and never really seemed interested in stuffed animals.

Now that she is older, she does have a "favorite of the moment" toy / doll / stuffed animal... the love affair lasts for a few days to a few weeks, and then she moves onto something new. She's a very well adjusted happy little girl.

I wouldn't worry about it at all!
 
I would assume that you are great mother and her fixation is on you, so she does not need to hold on to something material to feel secure! :goodvibes

That.


Most of my friends had kids with "lovies"...blankets or stuffed animals, etc...and when DS didn't get attached to anything like that, I wondered about it. But realized that ALL of those friends were out of the home for much of the day most of the week. Whereas I was at home, all the time, in his face...I was his lovie. Especially since I nursed exclusively for over 11 months, and he nursed for a nicely extended period of time... So he had no need for one, and also had no WANT for one.

Talking...DS didn't talk much until he was about 2. Either right before or right after, I can't recall. I wasn't one for routine baby checkups so I had no one bugging me about it, and he *communicated* just fine! My brother did that too. We always knew what he wanted, even if he wasn't speaking. And just before the time I might have started to think about possibly wondering if I should raise my eyebrow at it, we started watching Blue's Clues, and whammo, language explosion. He'd learn words each time he watched it...words I don't use. It *seemed* that having a *male* talking "in" the house during the daytime was what did it for him. I talked ALL the time to him, but he ended up responding much more to Steve or Joe than to me, in terms of learning. About a year later I ran into a second cousin who had a son just coming up on 2, and her doc was talking about starting to think about maybe doing something like speech therapy...I mentioned the Blues Clues thing with my guy, she started watching it too with her son, and whammo, language explosion.

So I highly recommend Blues Clues! :)

As for yearning for WDW...DS had been twice to DLR before he was 2.5, but he didn't really have urges to go. Didn't even talk about it. Then suddenly, a few months after he was 2.5, out of the blue he just started tlaking and talking about our trip! We hadn't talked about the trip since we got home (we got home to FIL being gravely ill and then dying almost 2 months later, actually on DS's 2.5 y.o. day) and I hadn't printed any pictures to look through, so it was really just out of the blue. He suddenly got the language he needed to talk about it, and talk about it he did! It was VERY surprising!


Then after he was 3 DH let him watch POTC 1, and then the obsessions began. He wouldn't go on the ride because he was scared of it for that entire year, but he sure enjoyed BEING Jack Sparrow and watching the movie (gah!)!

So the obsessions will come. :goodvibes
 
When I first read your post I wasn't sure if you were serious? Of course your child is not weird b/c she doesn't have a fixation!!!!!!!! Every child is different, all in good ways!!
 
OH MY GOD get that child to some sort of mental health worker now!!!! She is weird and obviously not as well adjusted as you thought!! You are a terrible parent, she doesn't fixate or obsess about anything??? Does she sob uncontrollably when you tell her every day she can't go to Disney today?? Wait, she doesn't ask? Oh, you're in trouble now. She is going to end up being a sniper on a grassy knoll for sure.
:rotfl2:

DISCLAIMER: HA HA just joking. She sounds like a very well-adjusted normal 2 year old. Be thankful you don't have to watch Elmo learning to count 75 times in one day.
 
neither of my kids had lovies either.. i really wanted them to. i bought cool blankets, little stuffed animals, you name it. and it never worked, then i realized i was lucky, we had nothing to lose, forget, break, or for the dog to eat!!!
 
What? No Disney fixation? ;)

Seriously, she sounds just fine to me.
 


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