Is it tacky?

[Wish on a Star]

My DF and I are having a really hard time registering. We both lived separately before getting engaged and we have everything anyone could possibly want- most things we have two of. (Two crockpots, two toasters, two microwaves, two of everything!) I have even jokingly suggested giving our extra appliances away as favors.

But on a more serious note- at a wedding expo we came across travel registries and it seemed like a great idea! (We have two trips we really want to take before having children). I came home and googled it and found out some people find it tacky. Is it tacky to have a travel agency registry? Has anyone ever done? Or do you have any other suggestions about what to give a couple who has two of everything!

 

[ariel2007]

I am not sure about in the USA so much but over here in the UK its becoming quite a common thing. More and more couples are already living together and already have most of the things they want and need, so registering for trips, specifically your honeymoon is becoming more popular. You will always find people who think its a bad idea or tacky, but then people have very varied ideas on whether a gift list should be sent out at all, and whether this is tacky. Personally if this is what you would really like, and you don't need anything else, then I would definitely say go for it. You could even send some nice pictures of the two of you out to the guests that contribute, maybe with your thank you notes (if you use it for your honeymoon). One I site I know a lot of people rate is senduspacking which offer this kind of thing and has lots of good reviews.

Hope this helps.

 

[Ann117]

I do not think its tacky at all and if someone does not like the idea they can always get you something else. I am going to do this as well I think its a great idea.

 

[gemmybear83]

I agree in the U.K its very common and I think guests find it much easier as they just make a donation (if they want!). I don't think its tacky at all - personally I would rather give a gift that a couple need/want rather than just for the sake of it .

 

[Pinkerbell1983]

I think a that is a really good idea, we were going to dothis, but now we are just getting money.

 

[KSchwagg86]

ehhh...it seems kind of tacky--is it the norm for your friends/family? i think it will be better received if a lot of people have done it

 

[msteddom]

I think it's a bit tacky.

Melissa

 

[lurkyloo]

Sorry if I'm stating the obvious, but have you checked out the Disney Honeymoon Registry? Most guests seem to find it a lot more palatable than a traditional travel registry because it allows them to buy you things and experiences (merchandise, tours, recreation, dinners out, etc.) instead of just contributing cash. And couples love it because all the money that guests spend on those "things" comes to them in the form of a Disney gift card with which they can either buy the things their guests intended or spend the money on something else at Disney.

http://honeymoonregistry.disney.go....n_US/modules/render/homePage/hpHomePageRender

We didn't think many people would be interested in our Disney Honeymoon Registry, but it turned out that they loved it. We got a card or a message on our registry site telling us the thing they bought for us, and then, as much as we could, we made sure to do that thing on the honeymoon and pay for it with the registry funds. Then we could tell Aunt So-and-So with a clean conscience that we enjoyed the parasailing she bought us, or whatever.

 

[Ember]

So long as no mention is made of the registry in the invitations, and the information is given out only when asked, it is not tacky.

What IS tacky is couples who invite gifts to their wedding, rather than people.

 

[ariel2007]

Personally I don't see why it would seem any tackier than a more traditional gift list. If you have everything you need, and people want to get you something, then why shouldn't it be something you really want rather than a list you have made just for the sake of it. I would much rather get someone something they really want and something you can remember forever rather than a set of glasses that will get broken, or something that will just end up in the back of a cupboard. With sites like senduspacking people can contribute to the price of the holiday, or to excursions and extras for you, like the Disney honeymoon registery.

 

[**tinkerbell**]

I was hoping to do this too - I dont think its tacky, and I think people will love hearing / seeing pictures of the trips you have been on with the gift they gave you x x

 

[Petals & Pixie Dust]

We are planning on doing this. We've lived together for 8 years. We only needed a new set of silverware which DF bought last week. (all by himself I might add-I'm so proud! )
My mom thinks it looks tacky b/c we are asking for gifts. My reply to this was "isn't that was a registry does anyway? So, whether I'm asking for a disney registry or new dishes doesn't really matter does it?" She agreed.
If it's tacky...then tack away I guess.

 

[kafitty]

i don't think it's tacky, and i think that if most people know you two and your situation, then they likely won't either.

 

[tinks_1989]

Like most people we are hoping to do this choosing one travel agent and asking for gift vouchers as people can spend what they want registering for gifts aways worries me as i dont want to register expensive things and people think im being cheeky lol

 

[**tinkerbell**]

Like most people we are hoping to do this choosing one travel agent and asking for gift vouchers as people can spend what they want registering for gifts aways worries me as i dont want to register expensive things and people think im being cheeky lol

can I ask which travel agents you have seen that do this?

 

[KSchwagg86]

Sorry if I'm stating the obvious, but have you checked out the Disney Honeymoon Registry? Most guests seem to find it a lot more palatable than a traditional travel registry because it allows them to buy you things and experiences (merchandise, tours, recreation, dinners out, etc.) instead of just contributing cash. And couples love it because all the money that guests spend on those "things" comes to them in the form of a Disney gift card with which they can either buy the things their guests intended or spend the money on something else at Disney.

http://honeymoonregistry.disney.go....n_US/modules/render/homePage/hpHomePageRender

I think that is another thing that doesn't sit well with me. The fact that your guests think they are buying one thing, but you just get the money and are able to spend it. But maybe I'm being too sensitive...

 

[acwinsett]

Can't be any worse than regular gift-giving scenarios . . . the first time I got married, we received 4 toaster ovens. 3 of them got traded in for store credit at Wal-Mart.

 

[Angela0917]

I think honeymoon registries are ok, they've become pretty common, but in my opinion, registering for multiple trips is a little tacky. DF and I lived together before we were engaged and had almost everything we needed, but there's always something you can upgrade.

 

[lurkyloo]

I think that is another thing that doesn't sit well with me. The fact that your guests think they are buying one thing, but you just get the money and are able to spend it. But maybe I'm being too sensitive...

I see where you're coming from. I just think that, as acwinsett pointed out, if the guests gave the couple, say, a crock pot and they didn't want it, they'd exchange it for something else or (at Bed, Bath & Beyond) turn it into cold hard cash anyway!

But I'm not one to talk - I like to give unique gifts that aren't on the registry, which I'm sure frustrates the heck out of the recipients!

 

[DisneyBrideToni]

I don't think this is bad at all. Today many couples live together before they are married and already have their house stocked up. A travel registry is a great alternative. Is there anything else that you would love to have for your house that you would never get for yourself? Maybe you can just register for a few household items for those that can't get past the travel registry.

The Disney registry is also great to have!!