Is it ok for a girl to ask a boy to marry her?

[Emma1987]

...pretty much as the title says..

 

[joolz1910]

100% yes. And I wouldn't wait for another Leap Year either.

 

[EpicKevin]

Bloke's opinion... It could well be slightly emasculating. Depends on the guy.

But if he's planning on asking you and you spring that on him....?

I'm not saying no, but think how he would react - there are no rules!

All the best!

 

[Emma1987]

I'm just a little confused I suppose. I'd really like to get engaged and he has said he wants to marry me, but I suppose I'm a little impatient lol.

I have no intentions of getting married for a couple of years at least, but I suppose the girlie girl inside me would like the idea of being able to plan the rest of our lives.

Do I sound silly?

 

[Tinkerbell1989]

I'm just a little confused I suppose. I'd really like to get engaged and he has said he wants to marry me, but I suppose I'm a little impatient lol.

I have no intentions of getting married for a couple of years at least, but I suppose the girlie girl inside me would like the idea of being able to plan the rest of our lives.

Do I sound silly?

I'm in the exact some position, and the planner in me wants to be able to get started

I've been told to be patient, it will happen, it's just when. But like previous posters have already said, it totally depends on the man! If you think he'll appreciate the surprise, DO IT!

Steffi xx

 

[queendisney]

its 2012, of course its ok to ask. I asked my DH back in 1993 after just 6 weeks of knowing each other. Luckily he said yes and here we are years later

 

[Emma1987]

I'm in the exact some position, and the planner in me wants to be able to get started

I've been told to be patient, it will happen, it's just when. But like previous posters have already said, it totally depends on the man! If you think he'll appreciate the surprise, DO IT!

Steffi xx

Hi Steffi,

The funny thing is, I'm not even up for a huge wedding. Lol. I don't want a big to-do! Ever! Just seems like so much effort and waste of money. I'd rather bring close family away somewhere nice and do it there. So there's not too much planning to be done when the time comes...lol I hope.

its 2012, of course its ok to ask. I asked my DH back in 1993 after just 6 weeks of knowing each other. Luckily he said yes and here we are years later

Aww!!

 

[joolz1910]

I could never be with someone who would be emasculated by a proposal from a woman. Just my opinion....

I discussed our 'future plans' with my boyfriend and we both agreed to a long engagement and a small wedding. We have been together 23 years, have 3 beautiful daughters and still enjoy (rather than endure) each other's company.

It's not about who does the asking, it's about both of you agreeing/compromising and making each other happy.

 

[Emma1987]

I could never be with someone who would be emasculated by a proposal from a woman. Just my opinion....

I discussed our 'future plans' with my boyfriend and we both agreed to a long engagement and a small wedding. We have been together 23 years, have 3 beautiful daughters and still enjoy (rather than endure) each other's company.

It's not about who does the asking, it's about both of you agreeing/compromising and making each other happy.

I agree with you on every level!

 

[joolz1910]

I agree with you on every level!

Go for it, life is too short.

 

[Tinkerbell1989]

Go for it, life is too short.

Agree

Let us know you're decision! Unless, he's on here, then maybe don't!!
xxx

 

[kayrosek]

My aunt proposed to her husband. I think it's fine for a girl to propose; however if the reason he hasn't proposed to you is that he isn't ready to get married (or something a long those lines) you aren't likely to get a different response simply by proposing to him. In my aunts case her husband had made it perfectly clear he wanted to be married and my aunt wasn't ready as soon as he was. When she was ready she wanted him to know it and didn't want to wait for him to ask her so she asked him.

 

[queendisney]

Hi Steffi,

The funny thing is, I'm not even up for a huge wedding. Lol. I don't want a big to-do! Ever! Just seems like so much effort and waste of money. I'd rather bring close family away somewhere nice and do it there. So there's not too much planning to be done when the time comes...lol I hope.


Aww!!

This is me exactly...we had a small wedding, twelve in total (that was prob about 6 too many) in a registry office then went for a really nice meal afterwards..It was excellent. I don't do what people expect me to do I do what I want to do! Just call me a rebel
Some people want tobe traditional with their other half proposing and then the dress, the wedding, the massive do afterwards etc...that sort of horrified me and my husband but I do understand why people do want this

 

[joolz1910]

This is me exactly...we had a small wedding, twelve in total (that was prob about 6 too many) in a registry office then went for a really nice meal afterwards..It was excellent. I don't do what people expect me to do I do what I want to do! Just call me a rebel
Some people want tobe traditional with their other half proposing and then the dress, the wedding, the massive do afterwards etc...that sort of horrified me and my husband but I do understand why people do want this

Are you my twin? That is exactly what we did. 12 people at the registry office, sit down meal and then a big disco in the evening. We had a great time and did it on a budget, which meant that we could afford to go to the Maldives for our honeymoon. We had our priorities right!

 

[EpicKevin]

I have no intentions of getting married for a couple of years at least, but I suppose the girlie girl inside me would like the idea of being able to plan the rest of our lives.

Do I sound silly?

That bit doesn't. It's understandable. But let's not forget... if he's said he wants to marry you - maybe he's doing some of his own planning!?

Don't forget, men get romantic about getting married too! Speaking from personal experience I just wanted to make sure I did it right, so it was a little longer than I wanted.

I'm just a little confused I suppose. I'd really like to get engaged and he has said he wants to marry me, but I suppose I'm a little impatient lol.

^ This bit sounds silly to me... Sorry.

So if it's just about being patient... have some bloomin' patience!

Ask yourself... can you wait a bit for the good stuff? If he's shown no signs in a couple of months and you still can't wait. Go for it.

Hope that's given the "devil's advocate" POV... given all the women here seem to be saying "GO FOR IT"!

Either way - all the best.

 

[joolz1910]

So if it's just about being patient... have some bloomin' patience!

Ask yourself... can you wait a bit for the good stuff? If he's shown no signs in a couple of months and you still can't wait. Go for it.

Hope that's given the "devil's advocate" POV... given all the women here seem to be saying "GO FOR IT"!

Either way - all the best.

Why wait?
I'm a planner and DH is sooooo laid back, he's horizontal. Sometimes the planner needs to take the lead.
EpicKevin, is your real name Kevin? That's also my DH's name...

 

[wayneg]

If Karen had waited for me to ask she would still be waiting now instead of being married 23 years.

 

[EvoldicA]

I agree with the majority here.. Go for it.. Any male who is intimidated by that is probably not worthy.

~Bill

 

[jjk]

of course it is, I asked Hubby and we have been married 13 years

 

[Emma1987]

That bit doesn't. It's understandable. But let's not forget... if he's said he wants to marry you - maybe he's doing some of his own planning!?

Don't forget, men get romantic about getting married too! Speaking from personal experience I just wanted to make sure I did it right, so it was a little longer than I wanted.

Never thought of that! lol