Is it mean to go without our kiddos???

[Dostert9]

It's hard not to feel guilty but I think you should go and have fun. It's nice to shake it up a bit and Disneyland will be waiting for you again when you go with your little ones next time.

I am going with my best friend to watch our daughters march in the parade in a couple weeks and I do feel guilty but I know that it's ok for me and dh when he gets to go somewhere just by himself or with us together. I think it makes us better parents and better people to have some alone time and regroup.
Go have fun and your little ones will be waiting for you with open arms when you get back!

 

[DevilDuckie]

Wow another person from the area. What a small world. "It's a Small world after all. It's a Small World after all." This is really neat and funny.

Michele

I'm out in Dublin- a little bit of a trek, but not too far!

 

[kaoden39]

I'm out in Dublin- a little bit of a trek, but not too far!

Actually I think Dublin is about the same distance as Sacramento from Fairfield. So Hi Neighbor !

Michele

 

[DevilDuckie]

I brought this up to my parents and my Dad laughed and said "I hope they know that one day those same children will be picking out their Rest Home.....Remember that time Mom & Dad went to Disney without us! It's pay back time!!"

Wow. My son is a much better human being than that. He is certainly not so selfish and spiteful that he'd hurt us later in life because we had a vacation without him. I guess God just blessed us with a son whose love of us is greater than his love of Disneyland. Lucky us.

Our family goes and enjoys the parks in all sorts of different combinations and nobody ever feels a need to be ugly about it. I rather like to think THAT is what Walt wanted- to create a source of JOY.

 

[DevilDuckie]

Actually I think Dublin is about the same distance as Sacramento from Fairfield. So Hi Neighbor !

Michele

Maybe we need a neighbor thread.

 

[kaoden39]

Wow. My son is a much better human being than that. He is certainly not so selfish and spiteful that he'd hurt us later in life because we had a vacation without him. I guess God just blessed us with a son whose love of us is greater than his love of Disneyland. Lucky us.


Our family goes and enjoys the parks in all sorts of different combinations and nobody ever feels a need to be ugly about it. I rather like to think THAT is what Walt wanted- to create a source of JOY.

That's my thought. My youngest who wil be 12 shortly is thrilled he figures he will get better souviners this way!

Maybe we need a neighbor thread.

Maybe. How about it our newfound neighbors?

Michele

 

[pixiewings71]

Wow. My son is a much better human being than that. He is certainly not so selfish and spiteful that he'd hurt us later in life because we had a vacation without him. I guess God just blessed us with a son whose love of us is greater than his love of Disneyland. Lucky us.

Our family goes and enjoys the parks in all sorts of different combinations and nobody ever feels a need to be ugly about it. I rather like to think THAT is what Walt wanted- to create a source of JOY.

Howdy neighbor!!!! LOL And my kids like yours! We are lucky aren't we?? I have the most amazing kids!! I am so lucky!!!

 

[DevilDuckie]

I have made a thread over in "California and the West" for Fairfield-region folks to chatter at each other.

 

[kaoden39]

I have made a thread over in "California and the West" for Fairfield-region folks to chatter at each other.

Yay for California and the west!

Michele

 

[wiskband]

I just could not imagine going without the kids! Really I have to disagree strongly. Please dont get me wrong, I can;t wait for the day they are old enough that perhapa they no longer want to come with us or can pay for themselves but at a young age anywhere between 3-17, how can you not take them? My kids would be boggled! Also, I can't help but think once you get there and see familes with kids you may regret it. I do however dream about someday going without them just not yet. Along with that I dream of days when I can take my kids as adults with there kids. Why not just pick another destination they may not be interrested in going. Or go somwhere near and just go for a day or sneak away I should say. Sorry just my 2 cents.

 

[DevilDuckie]

Also, I can't help but think once you get there and see familes with kids you may regret it.

Nope. Not for one minute on my week long honeymoon did I regret that our son was at home with his biological father. We had a marvelous time- just like we did the following summer when he was with us and the trip when my parents joined the three of us and the adults-only NYE trip with friends and every other trip we've taken. This child gets lots of Disney and has been to Club 33 twice already (by age 10) with promises of more in the future and is under no circumstances being deprived. Grown Up Disney is a different experience than Family Disney and both are awesome and guilt-free! I imagine he enjoyed his trip last summer with an adult friend WITHOUT me or my husband just as much and I would hate to think he wasted one minute on guilt.

We do not feel obliged to never have fun without him. My observance is that the healthiest marriages are the ones where couple time is valued and special and a healthy marriage is the best gift we can give our children. We go out to dinner alone sometimes- even to restaurants he likes. We've been known to catch a movie when he's out of town. We love and cherish him and are better able to devote our time and attention to him if we get a break sometimes. Those breaks are about *us* as a couple or as individuals (Gasp! I even go on vacation without my husband! ) and the kiddo doesn't get to be the determining factor in how we spend our grownup time.

I'm puzzled by the idea that "sneaking away" would be better than simply going. How does lying help the guilt factor? Is it easier to enjoy time without the kids if you are dishonest with them? I'd feel much guiltier about lying to my son than going to Disneyland without him.

 

[mommaU4]

We do not feel obliged to never have fun without him. My observance is that the healthiest marriages are the ones where couple time is valued and special and a healthy marriage is the best gift we can give our children. We go out to dinner alone sometimes- even to restaurants he likes. We've been known to catch a movie when he's out of town. We love and cherish him and are better able to devote our time and attention to him if we get a break sometimes. Those breaks are about *us* as a couple or as individuals (Gasp! I even go on vacation without my husband! ) and the kiddo doesn't get to be the determining factor in how we spend our grownup time.

Very well said! And I 100% agree.

 

[pixiewings71]

Nope. Not for one minute on my week long honeymoon did I regret that our son was at home with his biological father. We had a marvelous time- just like we did the following summer when he was with us and the trip when my parents joined the three of us and the adults-only NYE trip with friends and every other trip we've taken. This child gets lots of Disney and has been to Club 33 twice already (by age 10) with promises of more in the future and is under no circumstances being deprived. Grown Up Disney is a different experience than Family Disney and both are awesome and guilt-free! I imagine he enjoyed his trip last summer with an adult friend WITHOUT me or my husband just as much and I would hate to think he wasted one minute on guilt.

We do not feel obliged to never have fun without him. My observance is that the healthiest marriages are the ones where couple time is valued and special and a healthy marriage is the best gift we can give our children. We go out to dinner alone sometimes- even to restaurants he likes. We've been known to catch a movie when he's out of town. We love and cherish him and are better able to devote our time and attention to him if we get a break sometimes. Those breaks are about *us* as a couple or as individuals (Gasp! I even go on vacation without my husband! ) and the kiddo doesn't get to be the determining factor in how we spend our grownup time.

I'm puzzled by the idea that "sneaking away" would be better than simply going. How does lying help the guilt factor? Is it easier to enjoy time without the kids if you are dishonest with them? I'd feel much guiltier about lying to my son than going to Disneyland without him.

Amen to this whole post!! I was trying to figure out how to word that last night but my tired brain wasn't working well. LOL You said it perfectly.
And seriously, when we went in January the kids were very excited for us, they wanted us to go and they were looking forward to staying with their sister for the weekend (I have a 20 y.o. as well as the 2 younger ones) so there was no sneaking and no guilt involved! There were a couple times the first day that I looked for them but then remembered they weren't there but that was it. I don't need my girls around to have fun, and they don't need me either. At least not to have fun.