Is it just me?

[Fantastic4]

Is anyone else surprised at some of the people who claim to be disney fans on here but continually make rude/snippy/uncalled for comments? I wouldn't let my kids talk to people the way some adults do on here. Whether I'm home watching a disney movie or playing at the world I'm happy and carefree. Sad that a message board that should help add a little extra magic in such a sad world is a place where some feel the need to be ugly. Hope some pixie dust finds its way to those that are so negative.

Just had to get that out...

 

[Heluvsme]

I know what you mean. When I first joined it bothered me a lot, and over the years I've learned which threads to NOT open, the blatantly anger-inducing threads, or the obviously negative ones, or the controversial topics, I just stay away. Thankfully I can pick and choose what to read and participate in here.

There are some rude, insensitive people here, but there really are MORE nice, kind, caring, and helpful people here! I promise! Just keep looking and reading and you'll find them!

 

[mm1971]

It's kind of the way most things are now. You don't hear much from the silent majority. It's always the few that are not happy with themselves and need to try to make others feel as bad as they do. There are a lot of great people on these boards, I have found a lot of good information and made some good friends here.

 

[mrsp1030]

I agree and have found many other travel related boards to be worse though. The whole purpose of these boards IMO is to help answer the unanswered questions and offer advice on a variety of topics. People can offer their opinion but do not need to come across as being judgmental or rude. I've found many wonderful people on here

 

[maddiebee]

I think that the internet and whatever anonymity that comes with it, in general, makes it a lot easier for people to be mean or rude, regardless of what their interests are.

 

[cdndisneymum]

I have not encountered such behaviour (I am sure I will eventually-hopefully not), I am sorry you have.
It is best to close the window and move on to happier posts.

Have a magical day

 

[smiths02]

Some people are just honest, and it is mistaken as snippy. Some people don't like hearing the truth or the rules. If someone is outright mean, report the post.

 

[Gumbo4x4]

Some people are just honest, and it is mistaken as snippy. Some people don't like hearing the truth or the rules. If someone is outright mean, report the post.

This, plus you have to remember you're not hearing "tone of voice" when you read something on a message board. It's real easy to take things the wrong way.

 

[brymolmom]

This, plus you have to remember you're not hearing "tone of voice" when you read something on a message board. It's real easy to take things the wrong way.

While I will admit that I'm sure a very small percent of the comments are INTENDED to be rude/snippy...I'm more apt to believe the above for most of the cases. People interpret the written word...The exact SAME written words...in completely different ways.

 

[Fantastic4]

Oh I definitely agree that we can interpret things wrong when you're not actually speaking to each other. There's a few on here that comment a lot and always seems to come across like they don't want to be here or really want to help. Just seems odd. I also agree there's more good people.

 

[flutterby3744]

I think that the internet and whatever anonymity that comes with it, in general, makes it a lot easier for people to be mean or rude, regardless of what their interests are.

This exactly. People on the internet are far more rude than they are in "real" life.

This, plus you have to remember you're not hearing "tone of voice" when you read something on a message board. It's real easy to take things the wrong way.

I think this is one of the biggest problems online. I have experienced it on this very board. On one of the controversial threads, for whatever reason, my comments were not taken as I intended them too. After trying to explain my position and I in no way meant any offense or judgement, it still wasn't taken how I meant it so I politely (I think ) excused myself from the conversation!

 

[minnie1012]

I agree! People ask a simple question and people jump down their throats. In some cases I guess it can be mistaken as to the tone but in other instances I think people are just being mean. For example in this thread someone was just asking about the kids menu at BOG. She was accused of not searching for her answer and made to feel bad for saying the menu wasn't "kid friendly" I just don't understand! Why can't people say, yes you can get kid friendly food or just skip the thread!

http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=3257807

 

[SweetMissy]

I agree to a point....some posters ask a question who might have never been to disney before and knows nothing and some can get pretty rude. However, EVERYONE has a bad day at some point...you just have to let the bad comments go in one eye and out the other.

 

[MandiC]

Wow that BOG thread was snippy :-/ I have to agree with the OP, my kids didn't care for the food. When we have talked about going back they say they want to go in Beasts castle but not eat there again. They would have much preferred the adult menu, I thought it very odd that adult entrees came with regular french fries and a cupcake whereas kids only came with veggies/mashed sweet potatoes.

Anyways, I am sure some of it is tone. I know I have been taken wrong on a thread or two. I am honest and try to point out everything I would have wanted to know in advance.

 

[mukorasirish]

LOL. I was just replying on another thread and complaining that rather than answer the question asked the posters decided to critique the OP's decision on what to celebrate while at Disney. I don't get why anyone would waste time being critical - have we become that miserable and mean as a society or are they just bored?

Seems to be a hypocritical attitude for those who supposedly love Disney.

 

[sunkissed4]

There's a few people on here who know everything about Disney, are the best parents in the world, and anyone who disagrees with them is wrong.

The BOG one is the epitome of Mommy wars to me. Being rude with someone who asks a simple question related to Disney on a Disney message board because they don't eat the same foods as your own children is just childish.

I try to avoid these threads and move on to happier ones! The resorts board is my happy place most of the time!

 

[Zeebs]

I quite often start a reply to a post and in the end delete it because even though I don't mean it to sound snippy I can't seem to write it so it doesn't. (or the other way I mean to tell the person what I really think but don't because that is just rude so I delete it)

People also read things in a different way or not completely. I have recently been part of a thread where posters are thinking I was trying to be dodgy and avoid charges. If they just read all the thread thoroughly they would have found this wasn't the case.

Kirsten

 

[disneyisawesome07]

I agree with OP. I actually had another account on here, in 2009/2010, and I just wanted to simply bring up that I'm a fan of Selena Gomez (I know she's mainly for tweens, but I love what she does to help other people and think she has a genuine personality) and some users were saying I was 12 or that I was trolling... So that made me feel bad, yet I don't want to stop liking Selena, why can't I like both classic disney and her? Anyway, sorry to bother you all with this :/ I hate that some people are just so quick to judge.

 

[klitteral2009]

It's hard to have discussions. Whenever a negative opinion is voiced, no matter how nicely or PC, it's met with venom, nastiness and bullying. I agree with a lot
Of things I read and post
On but sometimes I don't. Or would like to see all sides of a discussion. Always seems there's either people attacking your opinion or telling you this is a place for discussion when you defend yourself. It's almost not worth it anymore

 

[puffkin]

I have been here a LONG time. In general, I find many helpful, caring people. Sometimes I roll my eyes at seeing the same question asked for the billionith time (like can I just use an extra day instead of adding park hopping type question) but I just skip that or realize that the person is probably new and it wasn't such a stupid question when I was new. Here are my top 10 observations from 13 years here:

1. The VAST majority of people are extremely nice/helpful
2. People do not know how to read or just have selective reading skills
3. Tone is seriously underrated
4. There is a very VOCAL but very small minority
5. There are certain boards/threads I just avoid completely
6. Everyone is a perfect parent with no debt
7. The elitist tone on these boards has increased tremendously over the past 3 or 4 years
8. The vast majority of people who visit Disney have ZERO idea about these boards or strategies or anything like that. So popular opinions/strategies/beliefs in DIS world in reality may only be known by a very small percentage of people.
9. If you watch reality tv, do not read reality TV threads. Someone almost always spoils the outcome
10. It is very hard for the vast majority of people to see all sides of an issue and articulate their stance while also understanding why someone else may feel differently. The FP+ haters/lovers is a great example. I think it will benefit my family but I can see why some people would hate it but yet I get attacked (even though I clearly state this) so I just avoid posting in those threads now

ETA: Bonus 11. Most people tend to forget that Disney is a multi billion dollar profit driven BUSINESS. Enough said.