Is having grandkids stranger than having kids?

[florida-again]

I don't have my own children yet, but I was wondering if it's a more surreal but wonderful thing to have a child of your own....

or for the child you've had to then have one of their own...

Which seems more incredible or unbelievable?

just something I was pondering....

 

[gr8tpanther]

I don't WANT grandkids... why? Because I have this HORRIBLE vision that I will be the one to raise them! And, once I am done with my own, I don't want anymore! And with DD being Bi-Polar I don't even want to THINK about HER having kids! One is plenty!

 

[bsnyder]

I'm not in any rush for my kids to become parents but I think when the time arrives it will be wonderful.

My mom always said being a grandparent was one of the few things in her life that was underrated, as an experience. She loved being a grandmother, and she was awesome to my children.

 

[mrsgus06]

My dad always tell me that if he knew grandkids were so much fun, he would have had them first!

 

[Deb in IA]

Although I don't anticipate being a grandparent for quite some time, I am looking forward to the opportunity, when the time comes, especially since I grew up essentially without grandparents of my own. That was always a huge void in my life, and I am very grateful that my own children have 4 wonderful, loving grandparents that have close relationships with them.

 

[mrsheppo]

To me it's strange to fathom that my DD is a mother herself. It still seems that she is still a young girl and it amazes me to see her with a child of her own.

She is a wonderful mother to her baby. It is such a pleasure to have the opportunity to be a younger grandmother and have the time to enjoy my granddaughter. I can't wait for the next one. DD is expecting number 2 in late spring.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

According to my parents--I think the grandkids is more surreal. Kind of the offical physical sign that their "baby" really isn't a baby anymore.

They also think grandkids are much more fun.

 

[marlasmom]

It's a constant thrill to see how wonderful my own children are to their children. Who would have expected that my naughty boy son would be such a dedicated, loving father or that my daughters would be such patient, nuturing mothers. The grandkids are wonderful. I could just watch them 224 hours a day.

 

[Marseeya]

I don't WANT grandkids... why? Because I have this HORRIBLE vision that I will be the one to raise them! And, once I am done with my own, I don't want anymore! And with DD being Bi-Polar I don't even want to THINK about HER having kids! One is plenty!

Same with my DS! However, in the back of my mind I do hope he has a child whose behavior is just like his -- payback.

My DD, on the other hand, I can't wait until she has kids.

 

[Nite0wl71]

I am not sure if it feels surreal, but my DD was what you would call a wild child. Now she has 2 little girls and she is so wonderful with them. I love spending time with them and can't wait until they are a little older. Right now they are 22 months and almost 3 months

It feels strange when someone calls me grandma but my DD12 loves being called Aunt.

 

[Microcell]

I think the grandkids would be great! Wonderful baby smell and tons of kisses, all with no diapers to change!!!

I would be able to give them gifts galore but not go broke feeding and clothing them!

When they start fighting grandma takes it as her cue to leave.

Man, I can't wait!

Seriously, I have no grandkids yet, but I have to think it will be more surreal because you are smack dab in the middle of raising your kids so there is no time to think too hard about it. The proof will be in the pudding when they have their own kids and I can see how well (or god forbid not) I raised them.

 

[Sleepy]

My mother told me many times that when she was little, she alwasy said she wanted to be a grandma because her grandparents died before she was born and she did not want to miss out on a grandparent relationship. Needless to say, she is a wonderful grandmother. Says she enjoys it much more than being a mother.

 

[SeaShelley]

My dad always tell me that if he knew grandkids were so much fun, he would have had them first!

My Mom says the same thing!!!

 

[Blondiex46]

Good question and my answer would be not sure. I have 3 grandchildren and 1 one the way and only see my 2 grandaughters every once in a while and my grandson I don't see cause my daughter is mad at me cause she doesn't like how I raised her (more then that to it I am sure)My youngest daughter is preg. and due in May and I know I will have a relationship with that one. What goes around comes around that is for sure and my son who had major ADHD still has issues and my oldest grandaughter has been diagnosed with it but my son doesn't believe. She doesn't like with him the one that does he definately favors her. Actually my oldest grandaughter doesn't even want to go with him every other weekend for various reasons.

When I am with them (took them to a park the other day (2 girls), it is awesome. I am adopted and to be around people that are REALLY my family is wonderful.

 

[bubbleprincessmom]

Well as someone who is staring into the eyes of her first grandchild even now (he's here for a week while mom/dad remodel the house they just bought) and as a grandma who was blessed to be in the delivery room when he was born one year ago, all I can say is its wow!! I still have two of my own at home (10 and 15) but Jordan is such a thrill to have around. Esp. now that he "knows" who I am when I come into the room. Watching my son the night his son was born was transforming for me, he went from being a wild child to a man wildly in love with this new little creation. Its amazing to me how one heart can hold so much love for so many different wee ones.

 

[malibuconlee]

Well, I don't have kids, but in the case of my in-laws and their grandkids, they have lost their mind.

DH says there is no way he would have gotten away with half of the things they let the grandkids do. They seem to think the boys are good as gold when in truth they're terrors.

Gee, I wonder why I don't have any kids?

Don't get me wrong. I really like kids. I taught 3 year olds Bible School this summer and had a blast. But those kids know how to behave. They didn't hit and cuss, they didn't have melt-downs when I told them no, and they didn't give me dirty looks. These are the things I deal with when I'm around my own nephews. I know enough to blame the parents, but that doesn't make me like the kids any more.