Is dancing with someone numerous times considered cheating?

[Shere_Khan]

I don't think that is cheating at all. My mother and father go out to a bar once a week to hear a band that they like play. My dad doesn't really care for dancing and my mom gets asked to dance all the time, and she dances with others because she enjoys dancing. It's all fun, nothing inappropriate. She loves to dance and he doesn't. She tries to dance with only girlfriends if she can help it but she has danced with other men and I don't think there is anything wrong with it.

 

[Planogirl]

Dancing with someone means nothing except that you danced with someone IMO. It could go farther but then so could a lot of things.

 

[highland3]

No way... as long as all the dancing is vertical

Seriously, I know a spouse would not be overly impressed to learn their significant other is repeatedly danding with someone else... but a dance is just a dance.

 

[Stepharoonie!]

No, I don't consider it cheating unless there was some touching going on that was inappropriate.

At the parties I went to last night, there was a guy that I didn't know that joined our group...he REALLY wanted me to dance with him (don't know how, so I didn't), and ended up buying me a few drinks. He knew I was married, and I told my DH that he bought me drinks, and he was fine with it...he knows I wouldn't do anything "wrong" or "bad".

I think her husband really took it over the line....sheesh!

 

[Shere_Khan]

Hey if he wants to buy you drinks....let him! Lol.

 

[ChrisnSteph]

No, it isn't cheating. However I don't think I'd dance slow with someone more than once, because that could lead lead a guy to believe that I want his attention.

 

[Beth76]

Sounds like the guy was looking for a reason to kick her out. She's better off without him.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Yadda....yadda...yadda...He did her a favor by kicking her out. They are clearly not a match for each other.

As far as dancing as "cheating" depends on the person you are dancing with....now doesn't it.
If you are dancing with the guy you are sleeping with behind your husbands back then....yes you are cheating.

 

[Serena]

Sounds like she should be telling him "thank you" and getting out of there as quickly as she can.

 

[Anewman]

Cheating?? NO

But, IMO it is not an ideal situation if one spouse goes dancing to a bar without the other. And when it comes to lap dances, no not ideal either but I assure you a lap dance will not lead to anything other than loss of money while slow dancing at a bar can.

 

[Cantw8]

I don't think it's cheating but I do think that slow dancing is kind of intimate and personal, there is touching involved...fast dancing, heck yeah...go for it

 

[Amlee]

I have to agree there is MUCH more going on than just the dancing!

 

[Amlee]

OOPS Double post!

 

[Amlee]

if my DH goes out with the guys and slow dances with another woman I would be extremely angry w/him and would probably kick her fanny for slow dancing with a married man and trying to be a homewrecker.

Ok, I don't get it, when a women makes a comment like this. Why just HER? Why is SHE the homewrecker? It takes TWO!

 

[debbiedoo]

sounds like to me that there is more problems than what was aware of --

a number of thing could be going on

he is trying to shift the blame to hide other actions

if the relationship was strong it should be ok, but too many slow dances with one individual is asking for trouble

 

[poohandwendy]

No, dancing, in and of itself is not cheating. However, I wonder if there is more to the story? What time did she show up at home? Have there been other issues beyond this one night?

I dunno, both sound trashy to me. The husband for his reaction and the wife for putting herself in a position that could be construed as available. You should expect your spouse to handle themselves while out alone without inviting suspicion. Slow dancing multiple times with another person is just inviting trouble.

JMHO

 

[Tigger&Belle]

No, dancing, in and of itself is not cheating. However, I wonder if there is more to the story? What time did she show up at home? Have there been other issues beyond this one night?

I dunno, both sound trashy to me. The husband for his reaction and the wife for putting herself in a position that could be construed as available. You should expect your spouse to handle themselves while out alone without inviting suspicion. Slow dancing multiple times with another person is just inviting trouble.

JMHO

Yet again, I can just follow in your footsteps and quote your post...

 

[momrek06]

No, I dont think it is "cheating". That said, if my DH goes out with the guys and slow dances with another woman I would be extremely angry w/him and would probably kick her fanny for slow dancing with a married man and trying to be a homewrecker. I wonder if the guy knew she was married?

It takes TWO to "tango"

 

[Jenn Lynn]

I asked DH and he said "No, as long as there is no *** grabbing and humping."

 

[CEDmom]

I have a hard time believing this actually happened. However, in the event it's true she might be better off w/o him since he doesn't sound like the brightest bulb in the pack .

Oh, and no I don't think dancing with another man is cheating. Even a slow dance. Now if they were all over each other that's a different story.