Inspired by, well me....lol

[wvjules]

On another thread about who inspires you, I posted that my DD inspires me to be a better person and that got me thinking.

My DD is an only child. As much as I love her, I can't imagine that I'd have enough love for another child. I know if it ever happens again, I will love that child too. But another part of me is scared to death that my DD has my heart and there won't be room for anyone else. How can you love more than one person THAT much? There's only so much, isn't there?

I'm sure other parents have worried about this (or maybe I'm just nuts).

 

[Jeafl]

Sorry, you're nuts.

I have three kids and I love each and every one of them equally and totally.

 

[wvjules]

Originally posted by Jeafl
Sorry, you're nuts.

I have three kids and I love each and every one of them equally and totally.

Well I know I'm nuts, not for just that reason.

I know if the time ever comes for another child I'll love them both equally, but for now I can't even imagine loving another person as much as I love her.

 

[Kitty 34]

As MUCH as you love that child just multiply that love to as many more children you might have....not divide.

 

[yourtravelpro]

I have 2 children and I love both of them with all my heart.

That thought never crossed my mind that it would be any other way.

 

[HollyJoy]

I think everyone thinks that before having another child, but it's so not true! I have two wonderful daughters, and they are both loved tremendously! If I were to ever have another child, there is no doubt in my mind now, that I would be short on love.

 

[EdiePA]

I loved DS#1 so much, that I couldn't imagine having anymore room in my heart for another child. But, when DS#2 was born, it was like this space in my heart, that I didn't even know was there, opened up. I couldn't imagine my life now without both of my boys.

Edie

 

[meeshi]

Originally posted by Kitty 34
As MUCH as you love that child just multiply that love to as many more children you might have....not divide.

Kitty, I was going to say the same thing.

 

[birdiesunshine]

Originally posted by wvjules
On another thread about who inspires you, I posted that my DD inspires me to be a better person and that got me thinking.

My DD is an only child. As much as I love her, I can't imagine that I'd have enough love for another child. I know if it ever happens again, I will love that child too. But another part of me is scared to death that my DD has my heart and there won't be room for anyone else. How can you love more than one person THAT much? There's only so much, isn't there?

I'm sure other parents have worried about this (or maybe I'm just nuts).

I feel the same exact way as you do. DD is almost two and I couldn't imagine loving anyone like I love her. People will flame us but who cares. When the time is right we will either have more children or we won't. It's only for us to decide!!! Enjoy every minute with your child.

 

[Beth76]

I used to totally think the same thing. Especially because it always seemed to me that my parents favored my (older) sister over me. Then I had my second baby and he's an absolute angel!!!! Meanwhile my older son is 3 and is very challenging right now. My husband has to keep reminding me that I once thought Sebastian was an angel too. My baby is so much easier for me to deal with right now than my 3yo. I find myself yelling and getting aggravated a whole lot with my older son. My younger son just fills me with joy. I know that it won't always be this way though.

 

[SnowAngel]

Like I tell my dd7 that the more you love the more you love.

I love all three of my dds. I love them in different ways but each are as precious as the next.

 

[DD2Disney]

I know exactly how you feel. With a second child I would Never get the chance for all this alone time, that I have had with DS for 3 years.

Tricia

 

[kejoda]

You most def. will love a second child just as much. With more kids not only do you love them as much but you get to watch them love each other.


Love grows bigger, not smaller.

 

[catsrule]

I just saw the SIMBA FOR PRESIDENT, Beccy.

 

[raysnkaysmom]

I have 2 girls, and totally know how you feel. When I came close to delivering my 2nd daughter, my oldest was 4 1/2. I called my mom crying hysterically because I just 'knew' there was NOooo way that I could love another child the way I loved Rayden. I was so sad how unfair it was for this other baby to come into that type of 'competition' and that I couldn't love her the way I did Rayden..just wasn't gonna happen.
Then, yanno what... the SECOND she was born, it was there! (great, now I'm cryin again..lol, big baby!) I love them both equally, but for different reasons, in different ways. Each of them has a seperate bond with me, but I do NOT love one more than the other. It's amazing the amount of love your heart can give!

 

[aprincessmom]

My DD is an only child. As much as I love her, I can't imagine that I'd have enough love for another child. I know if it ever happens again, I will love that child too. But another part of me is scared to death that my DD has my heart and there won't be room for anyone else. How can you love more than one person THAT much? There's only so much, isn't there?

I totally understand, jules. My DD is 8 and an only and I have felt those same feelings you express. I know that I would love another child as much but then she does something and my heart is just about to explode with the love I feel and I think "Man, how much room is left there for anyone else?"

I don't think your a nut. Although...that could mean that we're both nuts and just don't know it

 

[stacilee]

there are 6 years between our 1st DS and the second one. I totally understand how you feel.
Even throughout the second pregnancy I kept thinking "i know I CARE about this baby, but will I LOVE him as COMPLETELY as I do the 1st?"

The moment he was born I fell completely and totally in LOVE with him.

Later God blessed us with TWO MORE children (2 DD's) !

I can honestly say that my grandmother was right.

BABIES DO BRING THEIR LOVE WITH THEM!

Love is not something that has a finite quantity- nor can it's potential ever be measured, it grows exponentially.

 

[leahannpen]

Originally posted by wvjules
I'm sure other parents have worried about this (or maybe I'm just nuts).

It's funny you said that, because I've thought the same thing. You love your one child so much you just can't imagine anyone else getting the same amount. I'm sure it's just because we haven't experiance it yet that we feel that way. And once we'd experiance another child, we'd think, wow... I have THAT much MORE love in me? Amazing! LOL! I hope I can find out soon!

 

[Kimnicki]

My DD was 2 when I was pregnant with my DS and I can remember crying to my husband about how worried I was that I'd be "shorting" my DD on love when the baby was born....Boy was I wrong!! My love doubled for each of them and never once have I regreted having another child . So, you are NOT nuts to be having those thoughts....it's very natural to feel that way.




Kim