Inspired by DeterminedOne's thread: Would you do your wedding the same again?

[castleview]

I wouldn't have. My original guest list was nearly 300 people - many were my parent's guests. Fortunately, it was summer and at least 100 were unavailable. I didn't stress too much, because I let my parents handle all that junk - I could care less if there was a runner down the church aisle or "the perfect invitation" (my mom freaked out when I suggested doing the invitation addresses on the computer).

If I had to do it again. DH and I would have taken a dream vacation to Australia and gotten married there one night.

 

[monkeyboy]

things I didn;t do at the bachelor party.....I would do

 

[Mermaid02]

Nope. We would elope and take dd (who was 6 at the time) to WDW for 2 weeks instead. All that money wasted.... makes me sick.

 

[poohandwendy]

We had a very small church wedding and informal reception at my parents home. I would do it again the same way in a heart beat, it was absolutely wonderful and people still talk about how much fun it was.

The only thing I would change is that I would have had my hair professionally styled. I hate the way I had it...irks me every time I see a photo. (no, i am not posting one hereLOL)

 

[Disneynutbsv]

No. We had a wedding by the river, which was beautiful, but then we had a backyard reception Now, looking back, I'm disappointed that we didn't go all out at least for the reception...I would have had a big party for the reception where we would have had our first dance. Our reception was just a meal....

 

[Disneynutbsv]

things I didn;t do at the bachelor party.....I would do

 

[Evil Genius]

No we compromised our wedding to make my family happy. We would've had an outdoor wedding. Or if I knew then what I know now, Disney wedding.

 

[Beth76]

Absolutely not! My wedding was for my mother, not me or DH. DH and I wanted to get married on a beach somewhere. But since we were living together after college, my mom was pushing for a wedding. This was back when I was too stupid to realize I don't have to listen to my parents anymore. We seriously almost cancelled the wedding 2 weeks before (not to break up) but we knew we would have to pay back my parents money for deposits and such and we didn't have the money. We spent over $1000 (that we didn't have) on a huge wedding album that we never look at. I actually have to stop typing about this now because I'm getting upset just thinking about it.

 

[Pigeon]

My parents had 6 kids, and basically did the same for all 4 girls. We had a formal wedding with about 150 guests (mostly all family) and a nice reception at the country club. My mom mostly planned it as I was out of town.

If I had it to do over, I'd do something way simpler. Even though my parents cheerfully paid for all of it, I think it's way too much money to squander on one event.

 

[meeskamouska]

NO!!! I had a very small and intimate wedding in sunken garden in my home town. The reception was small and although not the most exciting thing it was special because we did it ourselves!!!!

 

[DisneyBlonde]

No, I wouldn't. My DH has never been married before and wanted a big wedding (it was my 2nd, the first wedding my parents were in control). I wanted small and intimate.

 

[Serena]

No. for one thing, it couldn't be the same. My wedding was more for my ex husband and his family than me and my family or friends.
You know, thinking back, that should have warned me for the times to come.

Anyway, I want the next one to be small and personal. Close family and friends for sure. I want a honeymoon this time.

 

[mrsltg]

I think I would have eloped so the wedding would have been just about my dh and I. The reception we had was fantastic and people still tell us they had a blast so I wouldn't change it.

One thing I would definitely change would be my dress shopping experience. I went with my mom, Nana, godmother, and best friend. That was four more opinions than I needed! I should have gone alone or with my dh (then df). Instead after about an hour of listening to the back and forth I literally bought the dress I was holding. It didn't matter which one it was - the shopping trip just had to end. Because of it I really hate my dress. When it's time for my girls to get married I will send them with my credit card and let them choose for themselves.

 

[maslex]

If I could do it all again, it would be totally different. We got married Oct 23. I would still keep it in Oct but would push the date to the 30th and have a total Halloween wedding. I'm serious. I saw it on a Extreme Wedding show on TV one day and it was awesome. I would still have me and DH dress in a tux & wedding gown (that would be our "costume") but everyone else would get to dress up as they wished. Atleast they wouldn't have to worry about what to wear, just dress in your costume. Then the reception would have creepy music playing, fog machine, pumpkin centerpieces with fall colored flowers in them, etc.

I would also have my hair and make up done professionally. I did my own make up and had someone else do my hair. It wasn't what I was envisioning at the time, but what can I do now.

I would also have a professional photographer. I know they're totally expensive (the reason why we didn't have one) but I really missed out on some great photos. I had someone take some pics, but they're not what I really wanted.

I'm thinking maybe for our 25th anniversary or so, we'll do a Halloween anniversary party. We'll see (only 12 more years)

 

[spazzyjazzy]

I would have done it the same way except that I would have had a different DJ. I loved my wedding.

 

[SDFgirl]

I would have done mine exactly the same. It was big, and it did cost a pretty penny, but...it was so wonderful!

It was a crystal clear cold December night...the music filling the church was so beautiful (we had "My Old Kentucky Home" play during the seating and "Joy To The World" for our recessional). Everyone was so giddy and happy and cheerful...I get tears in my eyes thinking of how lovely and meaningful it all was.

I loved sharing that special day with all the people we love...all 300 of them! It was the happiest day of my life.

Okay. I guess if I had to change one thing...it would be my hair-do!

 

[Toby'sFriend]

nah, I'd have a small Church ceremony in the Sanctuary with our immediate families and then we'd go somewhere with a warmy sandy white beach and plenty of fruity alcoholic drinks.

And I'd wear something --- attractive (ie not an interpretation of a virginal Scarlett O'Hara).

 

[Papa Deuce]

I wouldn't have done it the way we did if I could have prevented it. I begged for a smaller wedding. We had 225 people. Way too many. I think even my wife would agree in retrospect, but maybe not.

 

[lovmy2girls]

NNNOOOO!

We would do it so different.

NO Church
No Minister
No Sermon type thing
Lots of Liquor
On a Beach

Just to name a few things

 

[slk537]

Nope! I loved my big princess wedding and I loved planning it with my mom (who is now gone) and DH and I had a great WDW Disneymoon, but if I had to do it again it would be much smaller and we'd take the money for a down payment on a house like my dad offered.

My dad got remarried one month ago, 4 years after my mom's accident. Their wedding was PERFECT and exactly what I'd do. It was a mass in a tiny chapel in the High School (Catholic School) that all of their children went to - with just immediate family - no more than 50 people there (she has four kids who all have kids) and then a very nice dinner in a backroom of a very nice restaurant. It was small and intimate and casual and elegant and just perfect. That's what we'd do if we did it again. But the person I am now is much different than the one I was 9 years ago, so who knows?