Insp. by Serena...What Was Your DH/SO's Reaction

[Princess_Aurora]

What was your DH/SO's reaction when he found out you were pregnant?

With DD I called my boyfriend (JERK) and he didn't say a word...he just hung up on me.

About five years latter (after I met my REAL Prince Charming and got married) I found out I was pregnant again. I called DH to see if he was working late. I didn't intend to tell him over the phone, but when he asked why I wanted to know if he was working late and I told him because I had something to tell him, he INSISTED that I tell him right then and there. So I say, "I'm pregnant" and he says, "Okay." Just like that...no emotion or anything. Don't get me wrong, he was happy and all, DH just is one of those guys that doesn't show emotion. We kept it to ourselves for a few weeks until I went to the dr and it was officially confirmed by sonogram that I was pregnant. Then we took our moms out for dinner and DH asked them if they wanted to see something cool. He then takes the sonogram picture out of his pocket and showed it to them. That was the first time I saw the proud daddy look on his face

 

[snoopy]

DH knew before me both times. I made him go look at the stick and tell me if it were positive or negative.

 

[CamColt]

DS#1, I gave him a bib that said I love my Daddy. he laughed and said arent you pushing it(he knew I could have been, but not that I took a test). I said no, and he got up fromt he table and gave me a hug...which is so unlike him.

DS#2, he called at from work to see how the test came out. I didnt want to tell him over the phone, but I was so excited I had to. His reaction? "Oh thank god I dont have to go for that test Friday!!!".

 

[nativetxn]

My dh started giggling. I don't know why, I guess because he was just so happy

 

[cgcw]

With our DS8, DH was on the other phone as we heard the news from the doctors office. After the nurse instructed me to sit down because my legs started shaking, DH came hooting and hollering and running down the hall, screaming his head off. He was so excited. Then he gave me 2 carnations he bought on the way home -- one pink and one blue.

With DS3, he wasn't as excited He knew, before I did, that it was going to be hard going back to "babyville". I guess he was also a bit scared because I had miscarriage the summer before.

 

[Serena]

Hey, I'm an inspiration. cool. For the record, he was happy about both.

 

[Dan Murphy]

Very neat reading these.

 

[Saphire]

I have enjoyed reading everyone's stories on this topic, brings back really nice memories. After surprising my husband on Christmas morning with the news of my unplanned third pregnancy, I would catch him looking at me from across the room filled with family and holiday spirit. This is the stuff dreams are made of. Gives me goosebumps just thinking about it....

 

[Fire14]

I wouldn't know haven't gone down that road yet.

 

[KimRaye]

With DS (and EXdh), he got all excited. Bought me 6 blue and 6 pink carnations, made a big deal. I, however, was more of a realist and, worried, worried and, worried some more.

With DD (and current dh), he didn't say a word and, didn't speak to me all day.

Both are proud fathers, tho.

 

[Gail T AGAIN]

I'll never forget those moments. my sons father had no reaction but after my divorce my guy friend ( he was a tough cop) had the look of fear in his eyes. needless to say he ran for the hills and I never saw him again. Don't stone me but right away I did what was right for me, I didn't keep the baby and I live with that pain and regret for the rest of my life.

 

[kdibattista]

Hasn't happened yet but next year DH and I are going to try and start a family. He CANNOT wait to be a father. He cried when his BF asked him to be godfather of their daughter. I know he's going to be extremely emotional but this has something I have been thinking about "How would I tell him". I know this is gonna sound crazy but I am thinking I would plan a weekend getaway at Disney and have the gifts of a lifetime people help me out with some sort of scavenger hunt to let him know. I just don't know if I would be able to hold it that long

 

[wdwnutze]

Gail T- Hugs to you. You are a selfless and loving person.

My dh was very excited about #1. Equally as excited about #2 but since there would be a 9yr difference between the kids he was a little nervous about doing "the baby thing" again. He knew right away that I was pregnant with #3. She was our big surprise!! Our oldest son would be 15 when she was born and #2dd would be 6. We had to start over again! She is our little sweetheart though.

 

[Sonya]

I made DH go look at the stick. He had a very amazed look on his face and told me to make an appt. at the Drs!

 

[mtemm]

I didn't expect to be pregnant...we weren't trying yet...and I bought a test w/o telling dh. Took it the next morning and it took about 10 seconds or less to show positive...I started shaking and couldn't wait for a cute way to tell him. I walked into the living room where he was and told him to go to the bathroom. Not sure if I even used words. He thought he was going to kill a bug.

I followed him and he saw the stick on the counter and looked so confused, then turned to me to ask what it meant. I told him. He was soooo happy...started tearing up, and just kept saying everything would be fine. But he didn't believe totally until we went to the dr. for a blood test.

As for telling our parents...he insisted we just be straightforward w/his mom and grandmother. Took them out to breakfast that sunday (father's day) and told them. For my parents I wanted to do something fun so I made them a card using software we have. It was an invitiation to a valentines party...when my son was due. It was pretty cute. Never forget having my mom open the card. She had just had a birthday so she was showing me all the cards she got...I told her there was one more. Took her a few minutes to understand the invitation (what: Valentine's Party, when: mid-feb, actual date TBA, where: Brigham & Women's, in honor of: baby "oops").

I think the funniest was when I told my neice. She had been asking me for a few years when I would have a baby in my tummy. I told her she would be the first to know. When we went up to my parents on father's day, before my folks got home from church, she was already there w/my sister. I went downstairs to the playroom and tried to tell this ever-so-eager 6 year old the secret. She couldn't have cared less...a powerpuff girl marathon was on and that was all she could see. LOL!

Fun memories!

M.

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[Keli]

When my dh came home to tell me (he ran the test himself at work) he just put his arms around me and held me very close for a long time. He was pretty nervous about it. He understood the awesome responsiblity of raising a child better than I did at the time. I guess we've done ok though, she's a wonderful young lady now.

 

[FOJMO]

...but I hope you'll let me share our moment when we found out our DD's picture was ready at the adoption agency! I got the call at work from our home study counselor and my DH and I met at the agency at lunchtime and saw her picture for the first time. Our first reaction was -- she's BALD! We adopted from South Korea, and everyone we knew that adopted from there had a baby picture with a full head of hair.

Two weeks later, got a call that DD was coming into JFK Airport in two days. We were (and still are, 17 years later) THRILLED!!!!!!!!!!1

 

[RUDisney]

We had one heck of a week when we found out we would be parents. Our home study had been completed and my DH took it to the adoption agency. He asked if any of the children who were in this country for the summer hadn't found the right families for them. Tatiana told him that there were 8 children for whom she was looking for parents. He asked to see pictures and she showed him one of Ivan and Kristina. Now, understand that we had seen their picture earlier in the year and my DH wanted them from the moment he saw that picture... he kept saying, "there's just something about that boy that I like."

Tatiana told him that they were with another family, but that family hadn't decided if things were working out or not yet. She'd let us know their final decision. Well, this family vascillated all week. Keep them, not keep them, UGH! Finally, they said they were going to keep them. We were heartbroken. On Saturday, that week, DH went to visit one of our friends. I got the call from Tatiana that there was no turning back for this family. They made a final decision to not keep the kids. The "mother" said that Kristina was not affectionate enough.

I called my DH at his friend's house and asked him if he wanted to be a Dad. He was shocked and thought I was teasing him. I told him that would be too mean to be a joke. He started to cry on the phone. His friend thought there was something wrong, but he got out the words, "I'm gonna be a Dad."

We picked up the kids the next day. (Kristina is the MOST affectionate child that I have ever met... I guess she knew that the last family wasn't worthy of her affection.)

 

[Steve H.]

Kind of like that!

The second thing I did was head out to the pharmacy for another three-pack of tests for DW (she's a cynic like me! )

 

[tc]

Due to an assault when I was 13, I was told I would never have a baby. Although extremely promiscious in high school (result of assault), I never got pregnant. Stephen and I decided we might adopt in a few years, but were happy with just us. Stephen had always wanted kids, but married me anyway despite my inability to conceive. About three months after we were married, I began to get concerned. No cycle for three months, could I be pregnant. Stephen bought a home pregnancy test and we did it early on a Saturday. Back then, it took 1/2 a day to get results. We went to the mall and came back to a positive result. We were both shocked (I was 18, he has just turned 19) but excited. I got pregnant with Kimmi while on birth control less than a year after Sarah was born. Excited and poor, we had our family.