Buckalew11 said:
I don't know why this type of thread/topic bothers me so much. I totally agree with P&W's thoughts on this topic. And it is the kids who suffer because their parents are too lazy to help them through the problems or they have some colored aura themselves that makes them think they could not have normal children who need extra attention and not extra coddling.
Look at Mermaid's post. She is facing the music that her DS is a hard to deal with child who she has to stay on top of to help him through life. Thankfully she isn't telling him he is King Henry VIII.
Why, oh, why would parents do such a disservice to their children???
I completely agree with you. I do think there is a good side to some of these traits, but just the same, if there are no limits put on them, then these same things can become bad. THAT is where the parent needs to be in all of this, tempering these traits. This is how I see it:
They come into the world with a feeling of royalty (and often act like it).
High self-esteem and self-confidence is a good thing. But when it oversteps to arrogance, that is when it is bad.
They have a feeling of "deserving to be here," and are surprised when others don't share that.
IMO, we should all feel we deserve to be here. It's when we feel that we deserve to be here more than everyone else that it is a problem.
Self-worth is not a big issue. They often tell the parents "who they are."
Good self-worth is something to strive for. It is also good to know "who you are." But the way this sounds, it sounds like the children are using it as a way to justify not listening to their parents, which is not so good.
They have difficulty with absolute authority (authority without explanation or choice).
IMO, it is good to have a little bit of questioning, as opposed to blindly following, authority. But you still need to RESPECT authority, especially as a child.
They simply will not do certain things; for example, waiting in line is difficult for them.
Waiting in line is not fun for anyone. This goes back to feeling like they deserve to be here more than others.
They get frustrated with systems that are ritually oriented and don't require creative thought.
This could actually lead to good changes in society if their creativity is used productively, and not just as a way to rebel against authority.
They often see better ways of doing things, both at home and in school, which makes them seem like "system busters" (nonconforming to any system).
Nothing wrong with being a non-conformist, but you still have to follow societies rules.
They seem antisocial unless they are with their own kind. If there are no others of like consciousness around them, they often turn inward, feeling like no other human understands them. School is often extremely difficult for them socially. They will not respond to "guilt" discipline ("Wait till your father gets home and finds out what you did").
Just about everyone has some trait that others don't understand. But if you have the attitude that no one else can understand you, no one will. You have to help people to understand you, and you have to be willing to change if those traits are NOT healthy.
They are not shy in letting you know what they need
Nothing wrong with letting others know what you need. However, expecting everyone else to meet your needs is unreasonable.
) probably you could throw some brat in there too. He is very bright (IQ tested at 136) and he doesn't do well in school because he doesn't care. 
Sorry...off my soapbox!
