In laws on trip...

[Tricia's mom]

There should be a separate area for this type of thread.

Anyway. DMIL @ DFIL will be visiting Fla when we will be vacationing @ WDW. They said they will be using a timeshare in Orlando for the last part of our trip. We will be staying at POP for 9 days. DD will turn 3 our last day and grandma and grandpa want to see her on her birthday.
OK fine. I love my in-laws BUT they expect us to leave our resort to dine with them or use there "lovely" pool etc...

How do I say NO Thank you.. I'm on Vacation and don't want to leave the world ??? I have made several ADR's knowing they will be local and are more than happy for them to join us. I just don't want to leave the comforts of the world not to mention the "magic" thats why i'm there.
They are not Disney people and think its alot of work and planning. They are non believers ( BOO HISS)

Any Thoughts ? I quess I should just be lucky I love my In laws right?

 

[disykat]

Since it's your last day and dd's birthday, tell them you had already promised your dd she would spend her birthday at DisneyWorld. Go on and on about how excited she is, how cute the pictures will be, how cool it would be to have them with you at WDW with you for her special day, etc.

I think it would be worth compromising and going over there for dinner and/ or swimming one time if they will join you at WDW on her birthday. Two visits, one their way and one your way seems reasonable to me since you are both on vacation and they only overlap a few days.

 

[happymommy]

I would just matter-of-fact say that you've made reservations at "x" restaurant for your daughter for the birthday dinner, and you'd love for them to come join you if they can. If they say they want you to come there, say you've already made your plans. I wouldn't want to leave WDW either, and really it's not their birthday, it's your daughter's. If they push, I'd say, we really have already decided to have dinner at this place, but you are so welcome to join us. I can't imagine them pushing beyond that!

Good luck!

 

[MSSANDRA]

I agree with lettting your child pick her b-day place and then being firm on the location and asking them to join you. I would however go to their place one afternoon or evening another day and let them enjoy thier grandchild. Assuming however you have a car and can get there with out too much trouble.

 

[taitai]

If you are there for 9 days, surely you can find one afternoon to go swimming at the grandparent's place. That does not seem like it would be so very hard to pull off. Nothing to battle over. In terms of her birthday, just do whatever you were planning and ask them to join you. That also doesn't seem so hard.

I never understand these in-law threads. I have wonderful in-laws. We vacation with them all the time. I love it. It is great for my kids to get to spend time with their grandparents and I love the help with the boys. It is all good.

No need for confrontation. Just compromise. That is what being part of a family is all about.

 

[puffkin]

I agree with a PP. Since you are there for 9 days, I would plan one afternoon to go visit and swim at their resort. I preface this by saying I only stay onsite and LOVE Disney. But, honestly, the Pop, especially the pool area, really isn't that great (other than being right on Disney property) than a lot of the offsite resorts. I bet DD will enjoy a new pool to explore!

As for DD's actual birthday, I would do whatever you have planned originally and invite them to join you.