im ugly

[life of the party]

if your trying to be funny its ****ing not.
i know you guys wont make fun of me cause if you do you most likeyly will get a few points.

if you were not trying to be mean
disregard what i just put

ETA: yeah i get made fun of on a daily basis. yeah it sucks. i ***** and moan and my self confidence gets lower. i HATE what the media does to women. EX Jessica Simpson. she is pretty even if she DID gain a few pounds. she doesnt need to loose weight to be beautiful .

i meant it as a joke.
cause everyone is so nice on the SYF and make you feel great
sorry?

 

[jobrosx0disney]

i feel like sucha hipocrite right now. but i hate when ppl say it. but i will say im fat.. but for me when i say things its more of insecurities and im trying to let it out but by no means am i looking for compliments.
i hav a friend.. who is seriously like the size of my pinky.. and she says shes fat and like shouldnt eat like junk food.. and me and my friends r just like who r u to say ur fat? and then ill say like no r u kidding? im fat. but not like just randomly say im fat. but when people know that theyre thin.. and they say theyre fat.. that really bothers me.

 

[DramaQueen]

I generally have pretty high self confidence, but it's not always easy to be confident. I definitely have days where I feel ugly, or fat, but we all have days like that.

I get annoyed sometimes at when people say things like that and it's obvious that they're fishing for compliments. I have a friend who is cooooonstantly like that and its just like SHUT UP!!!!!!!

But I understand that sometimes people are genuine about it, and of course we all feel much better when we're complimented.
And I just think we need to find things we love about ourselves and embrace them.
I don't LOVE my body, I know I'm pretty chunky, but I've decided instead of getting upset over it, I just say I love my 'curves' aha.

 

[chisnpeke]

I HATE that too. In high school so many girls would say "I'm fat" when they CLEARLY were not fat. It was so annoying.

 

[imabrat]

I generally have pretty high self confidence, but it's not always easy to be confident. I definitely have days where I feel ugly, or fat, but we all have days like that.

I get annoyed sometimes at when people say things like that and it's obvious that they're fishing for compliments. I have a friend who is cooooonstantly like that and its just like SHUT UP!!!!!!!

But I understand that sometimes people are genuine about it, and of course we all feel much better when we're complimented.
And I just think we need to find things we love about ourselves and embrace them.
I don't LOVE my body, I know I'm pretty chunky, but I've decided instead of getting upset over it, I just say I love my 'curves' aha.

I have pretty good self-confidence. I'm going to be conceited, but I think I have a GREAT face. Besides that it looks 12 years old, but I digress.
I definitely have those days. Yesterday was one. I'm sick, and I have, ahem, lady "problems" which doesn't help my predicament. I'm 127 and bloated - I felt like a cow. To some, it may not seem like a big deal. But for me, I don't like it. I'm not trying to be stick thin, but I have enough curves. 5 pounds on me makes a difference. Please don't take this as bragging cause I'm not.

Kels, who gives a crap what someone says? If you're overweight, say "YEAH I'm overweight! I love it and that's all that matters!". Same for a skinny person. If YOU are not comfortable that's one thing. Besides, aren't you on meds that increase your weight? (like steriods?) I'm not being rude, but I could've sworn you posted that before?

 

[BabyPiglet]

I completely agree.

I used to be honest whenever I posted a picture or whatever (like, 'Uh, this isn't the best picture.' or 'I look strange in this photo.') but I realized it sounded whiny and like fishing for compliments so I stopped.

Honestly, I try my hardest to keep my crazy inside, lol. If I ever say something bad about a picture I'm about to post, I'm sorry & I'm really not fishing.

I have so many friends that are twig-sized and they're constantly complaining, it makes me so sad.

I'm partly a hypocrite on this subject I guess.

 

[LittleMissMagic]

I don't think I've ever said i'm ugly.... I don't believe that. Sure, there are some features that I'm not crazy over... some things I wouldn't mind changing, but no reason to dwell.

I do think when people say things like that, they're fishing for compliments. "Oh, noooo..... you're soooo pretty!" I mean what else are they going to say? "Yeah, you're really ugly."

 

[questionmark]

No, because it would make me a hypocrite. I don't do it for the attention. I complain to my friends sometimes because it's how I truly feel.

I just don't market that fact.

you are beautiful

 

[HSMndLKfan92]

you are beautiful

thanks.

 

[bananda]

I have pretty good self-confidence. I'm going to be conceited, but I think I have a GREAT face. Besides that it looks 12 years old, but I digress.
I definitely have those days. Yesterday was one. I'm sick, and I have, ahem, lady "problems" which doesn't help my predicament. I'm 127 and bloated - I felt like a cow. To some, it may not seem like a big deal. But for me, I don't like it. I'm not trying to be stick thin, but I have enough curves. 5 pounds on me makes a difference. Please don't take this as bragging cause I'm not.

Kels, who gives a crap what someone says? If you're overweight, say "YEAH I'm overweight! I love it and that's all that matters!". Same for a skinny person. If YOU are not comfortable that's one thing. Besides, aren't you on meds that increase your weight? (like steriods?) I'm not being rude, but I could've sworn you posted that before?

think how good you'll look at 50

i know people who are always saying how fat/ugly they are and it drives me insane, coz they aren't. fair enough if you have genuine insecurities but as loong as you're not expressing them every second of every day its ok

 

[ohdisco]

This is a disgusting thread.
So, basically anyone you feel doesn't fit into that stereotypical "ugly" physique is just fishing for compliments? Sorry to break it to some of you, but sly narcissism isn't the only reason people put themselves down. Events in people's lives effect their self-esteem. I know that after I was sexually abused I thought I was hideous and dirty, and nobody seemed to be able to break through my opinion of myself. Now, I don't find myself unattractive anymore, but I didn't look much different then. I'm skinny, but curvaceous in the right places. I have a really nice face and my hair can be good when I want it to be. I still thought nobody would want me after that. I cried to my friends, begging them to see what I was feeling, but they all just gave exasperated sighs towards my inability to see their side. Let me tell you...didn't help my resolve one bit. Just made me feel like I had one more flaw.

I learned never to get upset from stuff like that because I know it's psychological. Most of the time it doesn't make sense. Most of the time the people who criticize themselves in that way are beautiful people. Why should I judge them though for feeling low about themselves?

 

[MuskratSusie]

Agreed.

 

[imabrat]

This is a disgusting thread.
So, basically anyone you feel doesn't fit into that stereotypical "ugly" physique is just fishing for compliments? Sorry to break it to some of you, but sly narcissism isn't the only reason people put themselves down. Events in people's lives effect their self-esteem. I know that after I was sexually abused I thought I was hideous and dirty, and nobody seemed to be able to break through my opinion of myself. Now, I don't find myself unattractive anymore, but I didn't look much different then. I'm skinny, but curvaceous in the right places. I have a really nice face and my hair can be good when I want it to be. I still thought nobody would want me after that. I cried to my friends, begging them to see what I was feeling, but they all just gave exasperated sighs towards my inability to see their side. Let me tell you...didn't help my resolve one bit. Just made me feel like I had one more flaw.

I learned never to get upset from stuff like that because I know it's psychological. Most of the time it doesn't make sense. Most of the time the people who criticize themselves in that way are beautiful people. Why should I judge them though for feeling low about themselves?

Firstly, I'm sorry that you were sexually abused. I hope you're okay now.
However, there's a difference between generally low self-esteem comments and fishing.

Fishing = "Oh I am soooooooo fat! I really want to lose 10 pounds. Guys, don't I look gross? Blah Blah Blah"
Low self-esteem = "I know I don't look too great here, but I thought I'd share anyway. I don't feel too confident about my hair/eyes/face/whatever".

 

[PrincessEeyore]

beautiful is beautiful, no matter the size.

Aww, I love that. And it couldn't be more true.

 

[ohdisco]

Firstly, I'm sorry that you were sexually abused. I hope you're okay now.
However, there's a difference between generally low self-esteem comments and fishing.

Fishing = "Oh I am soooooooo fat! I really want to lose 10 pounds. Guys, don't I look gross? Blah Blah Blah"
Low self-esteem = "I know I don't look too great here, but I thought I'd share anyway. I don't feel too confident about my hair/eyes/face/whatever".

I just don't see fishing as narcissism (which is how everyone is playing it). I think people who fish have the same insecurities as someone who has general low self-esteem, they just aren't able to portray them in the same light.

 

[HouseMD1120]

Firstly, I'm sorry that you were sexually abused. I hope you're okay now.
However, there's a difference between generally low self-esteem comments and fishing.

Fishing = "Oh I am soooooooo fat! I really want to lose 10 pounds. Guys, don't I look gross? Blah Blah Blah"
Low self-esteem = "I know I don't look too great here, but I thought I'd share anyway. I don't feel too confident about my hair/eyes/face/whatever".

 

[Cinderelli16]

This is a disgusting thread.
So, basically anyone you feel doesn't fit into that stereotypical "ugly" physique is just fishing for compliments? Sorry to break it to some of you, but sly narcissism isn't the only reason people put themselves down. Events in people's lives effect their self-esteem. I know that after I was sexually abused I thought I was hideous and dirty, and nobody seemed to be able to break through my opinion of myself. Now, I don't find myself unattractive anymore, but I didn't look much different then. I'm skinny, but curvaceous in the right places. I have a really nice face and my hair can be good when I want it to be. I still thought nobody would want me after that. I cried to my friends, begging them to see what I was feeling, but they all just gave exasperated sighs towards my inability to see their side. Let me tell you...didn't help my resolve one bit. Just made me feel like I had one more flaw.

I learned never to get upset from stuff like that because I know it's psychological. Most of the time it doesn't make sense. Most of the time the people who criticize themselves in that way are beautiful people. Why should I judge them though for feeling low about themselves?

I know EXACTLY how you feel!
Believe me I really honestly do. I've gone through the same thing as you, it really does lower your self esteem, but you did nothing wrong. I for the longest time thought that I was disgusting, and dirty, but I finally came to realize that I did nothing wrong and that I can find myself somewhat attractive.

 

[BabyPiglet]

This is a disgusting thread.
So, basically anyone you feel doesn't fit into that stereotypical "ugly" physique is just fishing for compliments? Sorry to break it to some of you, but sly narcissism isn't the only reason people put themselves down. Events in people's lives effect their self-esteem. I know that after I was sexually abused I thought I was hideous and dirty, and nobody seemed to be able to break through my opinion of myself. Now, I don't find myself unattractive anymore, but I didn't look much different then. I'm skinny, but curvaceous in the right places. I have a really nice face and my hair can be good when I want it to be. I still thought nobody would want me after that. I cried to my friends, begging them to see what I was feeling, but they all just gave exasperated sighs towards my inability to see their side. Let me tell you...didn't help my resolve one bit. Just made me feel like I had one more flaw.

I learned never to get upset from stuff like that because I know it's psychological. Most of the time it doesn't make sense. Most of the time the people who criticize themselves in that way are beautiful people. Why should I judge them though for feeling low about themselves?

I'm sorry you went through that.

Firstly, I'm sorry that you were sexually abused. I hope you're okay now.
However, there's a difference between generally low self-esteem comments and fishing.

Fishing = "Oh I am soooooooo fat! I really want to lose 10 pounds. Guys, don't I look gross? Blah Blah Blah"
Low self-esteem = "I know I don't look too great here, but I thought I'd share anyway. I don't feel too confident about my hair/eyes/face/whatever".

I agree. You can usually tell the difference.

I honestly try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt & I'm ALWAYS there & supportive of people no matter what. My problem is I just have...trust issues with people. I'm always hesitant to 100% believe whatever someone says.

Even if a friend comes to me saying 'Ahh, I'm sooooo fat and disgusting today. My thighs looks like tree trunks & I should probably lose 10 pounds.' and it sounds sort of superficial, I sit her down anyway and put my serious face on and tell her how beautiful she is.

I know low self esteem can lead to disasterous things, especially if your friends don't believe you.

 

[life of the party]

This is a disgusting thread.
So, basically anyone you feel doesn't fit into that stereotypical "ugly" physique is just fishing for compliments? Sorry to break it to some of you, but sly narcissism isn't the only reason people put themselves down. Events in people's lives effect their self-esteem. I know that after I was sexually abused I thought I was hideous and dirty, and nobody seemed to be able to break through my opinion of myself. Now, I don't find myself unattractive anymore, but I didn't look much different then. I'm skinny, but curvaceous in the right places. I have a really nice face and my hair can be good when I want it to be. I still thought nobody would want me after that. I cried to my friends, begging them to see what I was feeling, but they all just gave exasperated sighs towards my inability to see their side. Let me tell you...didn't help my resolve one bit. Just made me feel like I had one more flaw.

I learned never to get upset from stuff like that because I know it's psychological. Most of the time it doesn't make sense. Most of the time the people who criticize themselves in that way are beautiful people. Why should I judge them though for feeling low about themselves?

In my original post, i said there is a difference between genuine insecurities & fishing for compliments.

and secondly

 

[Disney Dork]

I don't really like it either.

I mean, I understand not liking the way you look all the time. I don't either. Every aspect of my appearance has been torn down by somebody at one point or another. Eventually it was getting so bad (it got REALLY bad in middle school) that I had to learn to shut down and not let what people said bother me any more. Really it was like...accepting what people said and moving on with my day.

Think I'm ugly? AWESOME! Fat? YES! Don't like the clothes I'm wearing? WOOT!!!!

Now it's honestly probably easier for me to deal with the insults than the compliments, because it's easier for me to believe the insults than the compliments.

Now that I'm older tho, I'm really trying to kind of....break myself of that. I don't expect anyone to compliment me though. And I definately don't go around fishing for them. I mean, dang. I almost completely fell over myself the other day, because I was walking into school and this dude that walked by me said "Hey, beautiful". It took me about 5 seconds to realize he was talking to me and then I was just kind of...lost and didn't know what to say.

Really, though? No one should go around and beg for compliments all the time. And it's one thing to internally think that you don't look great, but a completely different one to walk around and be all "Ohhhhhhhh, I'm so ugly! Look at my hair! It's a mess! URGLES! I NEED TO LOSE WEIGHT!"

Yeah. That can get a bit annoying.