cheerdancer11 said:
Wow, I'm sad about going 40 minutes away to college- let alone to another country :O. It's gonna be hard since I have such a great high school that I really fit well in. I'm gonna be so sad on graduation
Oh, Cheerdancer11, Being "sad" on graduation day is a very normal and expected emotion. You are leaving behind a comfortable, relaxing and more carefree time in your life...to take on more "adult" responsibilities.

You'll make it through all of this, and look back with wonder and a sense of sentimental fondness. It warms my heart to read your post, and of your affectionate attachment to your HS experience. The staff there must be wonderful, having created an environment you are reluctant to leave.

We certainly need more schools like this in our country.
College is a new and exciting challenge, another chapter in your book of life. Like the time you left Jr. High for HS, it's just another transition. I'm sure you will acclimate and make wonderful new friends, many of whom you will KEEP for life.

Remember, they too...are also "away from home and family" many from different parts of the country/world, (therefore, you are all in the same boat). You will find you have much in common, and spend hours telling stories and laughing about your high school charades.
Yet...even though you dismiss the mere factor of 40 minutes as being insignificant, I consider the fact you ARE going away from home for College. Forty minutes, or 4,000 miles (or more...as in the case of my DD), it's all the SAME. YOU are NOT AT HOME! To us parents, we do not differentiate. If you are not in your bed at night...you are AWAY FROM HOME!!
This is how I'm able to "cope" with DD being SO FAR AWAY. She's our only child, which could explain the extra angst we're experiencing (compared with friends whom still have school-aged children). I simply figure, "she's only a plane-ride away" and smile at that thought. It wouldn't matter if she were in another state, or across the country. I'd still have to FLY to reach her, and vice-versa.

Therefore, the "plane" image/icon has become my talisman.

I even purchased the
Virgin Atlantic "fleet" (limited edition miniature metal planes) during my last flight with DD, and have them all sitting atop a shelf here in my office. I know in advance the carrier she is returning on in December, and it sits to the forefront of the others. I just glance at them when needed, and envision her returning home (every 7 weeks, three times per year). Already, it has quelled some fears and sadness. With "light" at the end of the tunnel, positively projecting to the future, I am able cope. I'm sure this will alleviate a LOT of anxiety, and help me through the roughest times in the beginning. Just the sound of airplanes overhead proves comforting, as I envision the separation. DD finds it silly, and laughs in a light-hearted manner when I point out the plane, etc. Yet, I know she too is feeling stress about the impending changes.
Therefore,
cheerdancer11 you are to be personally recognized and congratulated on your incredible achievement and success!

I wish you the BEST time in College, and a lifetime of adventure and joy resulting from this monumental choice. Your family must be very proud of you too. Be sure to ENJOY all the FUN activities and celebrations associated with this ritual, and try to remain centered and "present" (in the moment), making the most of everything as it occurs!

HAVE FUN!!!!
TTFN....DF99
