Im so fat and unhappy....I know I should change.

[Eyore4Ever149]

I feel like I just clicked this button I really didnt want to click when I clicked the "new thread" button.

I was on WW before my wedding, which was Aug 23, I lost 12 lbs, but put 7 back on at WDW (so dehydrated and ate lots) Little secret- I hated my trip to WDW- it was the worst honeymoon I could have ever imagined, when I came home, after all that walking and saw I had put weight on, I gave up.

Then this winter I got hit with severe asthma (spelling?) I had just started WW again, but that was put on hold because of the high doses of meds that made me hungry. I never lost the urge to eat. Its been over a month now and I am 5'5" and I am at 170lbs, 40% body fat. Ugh! My waist is thick, by new Eyore watch is on the last hole, I have at least 8 pairs of jeans I cant wear in my closet. I dont want to be fat anymore.

My husband finally fixed our treadmill, which I got on tonight, but the asthma really held me back , I managed 20 min and 1 mile and then went upstairs to get my inhaler. I did feel better, but then DH forced me to eat pancakes for dinner. Back to being fat again. Im very discouraged lately. I feel hungry so often. I try bringing lots of fruit to work (I sit in front of a computer all day) but it doesnt matter, Im still hungry and cant turn down things I know darn well I should.

I know I am getting depressed and edgy and I know if I could lose some weight and gain some energy I would be a nicer person.

I guess Ill try WW, but afraid I will be hungry on it. Having my breathing problems be so bad when just doing a good fast walk was so disheartening.

Sorry for the really down post. Maybe I am not ready for this section of the DIS boards yet.

 

[Disfan1]

You've come to the right place for support. Have you told your husband that you want to lose weight? I have heard that WW is VERY flexible so your DH won't feel deprived. Good luck!

 

[Eyore4Ever149]

Yeah, he knows. He had already made the batter and knew I was too tired to cook anything else.
No way will he eat anything on WW. He hates all vegetables, he adheres to a pseudo Adkins diet- hotdogs, hamburger, whole milk, real butter, ice cream, he eats all this stuff, and has gained some. but overall hes still only 24% body fat. Lots of protien bars and shakes. Our eating habits are incompatible. If I want WW, I have to cook for myself every night.
He loves me the way I am, which is great, and he is typcially very supportive of whatever I want. If I want cookies he nads me the bag, if I want healthy he says go for it.

 

[lmhall2000]

Okay sweetie....I'm right there with you but if it's any encouragment I'm about 180 and 5'8...so we probably look about the same...and I'm down 55 pounds so I'm thinking that's good! But I doooo want to get to goal. My goal is 145...what's yours?

I've been slacking through the winter months...lots of stress/injuries going on but I'm taking control...ya wanna join me? Let's vow to be 2 pounds less by next week. How can we do it? Let's ONLY drink water this entire week. I don't care what you eat but if you start to reach for a no-no get a big glass of water...try to replace those 3 muchie times with glasses of water and I double dog dare you not to lose 2 pounds! And try and keep up just a mile at a leisurely pace...even a walk on a lunch break--just get moving for 15 minutes.

Some easy snack foods, mozzarella sticks, 1/2 an apple, grapes, celery, carrot, yogurt, oh and avoid juices...skim milk is fine but avoid sugar in your coffee/tea and cream. Just making these changes will make you feel in control. If you just have to have a brownie- then make it a small one. I find using a salad plate instead of a dinner plate helps keep my portion down...I fill it up then leave the table when I'm done...don't eat past 6:30 pm at night...get that water! I betcha the scales will go down! I'm committed...wanna try it?
Tara

 

[anniet]

Eyore, I just came back from getting married in Florida on January 30th. I had a great time down there, but when I got back I had gained and my diet mentality was shot. I was so depressed and could not bear the thought of beginning WW or another diet again.

Then I remembered that shortly before I moved in with my now dh, I had bought Dr. Phil's book, but never got a chance to get past the first chapter because I was moving and planning a wedding in Florida. Disgusted with myself I went and found the book and I have to say it has totally turned me around.

We all eat for different reasons. He helps you discover why you turn to food, why you behave the way you do and what to do about it. Now, I know lots of people here watch his show and think he's a bully, but if you read the book you can tell it is written with care and with kindness and by someone who wants people to succeed with their weight loss efforts.

I found that most of my eating habits come from things that are internal for me, like emotions and stress and I have also learned coping habits so that I am now beginning to use OTHER things to comfort myself besides food. He also addresses external issues (like a dh who cooks pancakes for you) but I am fortunate in that I don't have that problem.

I really recommend the book.

Good luck to you and please let us know how you are doing.

 

[DoeWDW]

I have asthma also, though I must admit I haven't had an attack since starting to eat low-carb.

However, from personal experience and from my doctor's recommendation, I think you should consider using your inhaler (I'm assuming you have Albuterol) 10 minutes BEFORE you get on the treadmill. This will prevent that exercise-induced tightness in your chest from starting and you'll be able to do some moderate exercise without having an asthma attack.

I also want to caution you that eating fruit by itself as a snack may make you hungrier. If you eat something with a little protein, you should not have that problem. Try an apple or banana or celery with a little peanut butter. If you like veggies, dip them in hummus or a sour cream based dip that has some protein and/or fat in it. Eat a few nuts with your snack, or sunflower seeds.

You're in the right place. Most of us have been where you are. There are lots of people with good ideas and helpful tips and we all support and encourage each other. Hopefully you'll learn some things here that will help you feel better.

Welcome to WISH!

 

[Nancy]

I am the same height at you but weigh more then you do so I know where you are coming from. Right now I would LOVE to be your weight. I am on WW and most days I really don't feel hungry anymore..I found out I was eating more out of boredom then actual hunger. My husband also will not eat "diet" foods, so there are many nights when I fix a meal for the family and I also eat it, just smaller portions..I"ll add a salad with lots of 0 points things added to it and my fat free dressing to help fill me up. There are also nights where I have made my "diet" foods for dinner and he has no clue that he is eating them. What I mean is I make the same foods I have just modified the recipes to be lower in points.
I don't have a set goal in mind, I set lots of mini goals for myself that way it doesn't seem like such an impossible thing to do.
As for exercise, maybe you need to do something not as strenuous as a treadmill. As dumb as they sound I like the Sweating To The Oldies tapes by Richard Simmons...you can make them easier by just toning the dance moves down a bit...or rev them up by putting lots of ummmpf into them. I just bought the Walk away the Pounds tape and that also is good and a bit less strenuous the a treadmill...but still a good workout!

Good luck...you came to the right place!

 

[Eyore4Ever149]

Okay Tara. 2 pounds by when?

I already drink about 132 FL OZ per day- a boredom breaker. I do drink D Coke, but it has 0 points.

Im gonna try using the inhaler (yup Albuterol) before my exercise tonight and see if that helps.
Please understand, my husband is actually very supportive, he wouldn't normally do the pancake thing, but he already had the batter going when I pulled in the driveway (we'd been talking about it for 2 days), I told him he could eat, but I was getting on the treadmill, he joined me and did weights. I had hoped he would want something else when we finished, but no such luck. Tonight will be better. I have yellow squash and chicken at home.
I LOVE the salad plate idea!!

My goal? About 25lbs- sounds like a lot. But I know when I was at 145 before I was a size 8. I really want to be that again.

Okay, well...deep breath, we'll see how today goes. Thanks for the supportive emails
DoeWDW,Anniet,Imhall2000,Disfan
Im gonna try to be good all day today!!!
Maybe I can do a quick walk at lunch- its still pretty windy and cold where I work, our office is right on the harbor in CT, we face Long Island.
So my commitment today is A. Dont eat sweets. B. Exercise tonight - minimum of 1 mile, no matter what speed I have to go at to get there. C. A short walk at lunch if its not too cold. D. I parked on the Plaze level so I can take the stairs instead of the elevator to my car when I leave.
Lets hope I make it- its just not my personality to eat like I have this last month. I MUST lose weight!!!!

 

[Nancy]

I truely believe that you have to be in the right mind set to lose weight. I've been overweight..(ok obese) for years...but it wasn't until this past April that I felt ready to unleash the "real" me once I decided that it has been fairly easy. There are many days when i just want to say forget it...especially when the scale hasn't moved downward in weeks, but I kick myself in the butt and get right back to it. The first few days are always the hardest...at least your husband is supportive, mine wasn't at first...he thought I was stupid to pay someone to tell me how to eat. Once he saw that it worked he was better about it. He still doesn't understand why I need the support of the meetings, but he doesn't comment on them anymore...in fact he now asks me if I went and what the scale said.

 

[Eyore4Ever149]

Yeah, Im just gonna do the diet, not go to meetings, Ive already sunk too much money into WW. And we are now saving for a possible trip to WDW in Nov, so I dont want to waste it on something like that, the meetings never helped me. They are too big and not personal and many times the speakers are awful.

But I do know that others like to go. So I dont mean to knock them for those who really enjoy them.

This weight just crept up on me. Basically 2 1/2 years ago I moved from a position in my co that was outside to a inside position where i sitt all day. Thats when I gained the weight. Gradually, I did stay on WW for a month in July-Aug and did okay on it, I didn't lose fast after the 1st week, but I did lose. My seamstress told me I couldnt keep losing cause it required too much alternations to my dress. That made me feel good.

Now we have bought a house, my commute is an hour and half each way, so I dont get home til about 7 and I go to bed by 10-10:30, not much time for anything and if I am gonna walk or do treadmill, dinner is at 8. But this is all new, as the days lengthen we'll see how that helps me.

 

[summersfam4]

First of all . You've come to the right place! Let me assure you, you did want to click that button! It's the first step (besides getting on the treadmill like you did), in the RIGHT direction so "Cheers" here's to a already healthier you who's heading in the right direction! You clicking that button was your brain telling you that it's time, time to jump back on that wagon to better health! I'm sorry that you are having a hard time with the asthma, but hopefully DoeWDW's advice will help you out there. After that start taking baby steps. Once your body got used to eating more food, now you have to teach it that it can also feel full with less, just slowly start to reduce your portions if you do it slowly but surely while drinking all of that water that you love, you body will stop expecting so much, make sure what you are eating is something that will help you to feel full for a longer peroid of time, not a quick fix. Also try (I know that this is hard) to occupy your thoughts with other things. Gum chewing works great for me as it keeps that "I've got something in my mouth" feeling while I am chewing the lowest calorie gum I can find, I also blow bubbles during the times when I can, eat carrots and apples for snacks, and down water, water, water. Getting that good old exercise in anywhere you can is great! I love that you are trying to walk on days when you can during lunch! Remember, even while it's cold that walks are still good, weather permitting, because it will encourage you to walk at a good pace to get your body warm, while burning off those calories! Challenge yourself, take it one day at a time, and believe in yourself, you can do it!! When you need support, motivation, or just someone to talk to make sure you click that new thread button again! Don't be a stranger!

Kelly
YOU can do it, you can do it, you can do it!!! Do something great for yourself today, after all you should never put off untill tomorrow what you can do today!!

 

[Liz]

I can relate to exactly how you are feeling. It may seem hopeless but you CAN do it. I have been where you are now (and still get discouraged sometimes even now). Just before I joined WW this last time I gave away all my "small" clothes because I gave up and knew I'd never be small again. (Now I wish I had them!)

Honestly on WW, I am hungry sometimes. I know that's not so much a problem with Atkins. But I just tell myself its worth it and its mainly just if I'm sitting home with nothing to do that I get hungry. If I stay busy I don't.

If you are on Prednisone for your asthma, I know that can make you very hungry and put on weight. My DD has taken that and her doctor said if she wants to eat all the time its because the meds make her genuinely hungry.

I love WW and it has worked very well for me. I need the support because I am the only one in my house that needs to lose weight.

You will get a ton of support here on WISH. Please stay and become a part of our group!! Good luck!!!

 

[Eyore4Ever149]

OH MY GOSH You have lost 75lbs!!! You are my idol!

Well, I wen to the store for lunch just now and had a chic salad sandwich on wheat. I know those are high in points, but its my first protien today. NO cookies!!!!

And I dont feel hungry. -me on the treadmill later

 

[r3ngels]

Hey guys, Can I be in for the 2lbs in 1 week thing...?!?
I weigh in tomorrow at WW and believe I have had a terrible week! But overall I have had really good success with it but I need to get some motivation. I can feel the motivation slipping and I really don't want to gain anything back.

By the way, WW has a good website with great recipes that are free. I don't think your DH will think they are "diet" food... mine doesn't.

We can do it!!!

 

[Eyore4Ever149]

I think it was 2 pounds in 2 weeks, but I could be wrong.

Am I am member now? How does one get the "member" sig?

Oh yeah. I had a WW meal for dinner and went to bed- worked late and got home at 8 last night, too late for treadmill, but I didn't over eat or eat anything bad for me.....

 

[r3ngels]

Eyore, 2lbs in 2 weeks is good... since I only lost 1/2 last week and I am going to WW in a minute and I know I gained. I just became a WISH member. On the first page of thread there is a post that says take the wish callenge. It will link you to how to get the clippie... I am a computer moran so it took me a couple trys to cut and paste... isn't that sad
Here's to a good day!!!

 

[Eyore4Ever149]

Okay, Im back.
My asthma put me back in the Dr's office for a few days. Turns out I had bronchitis on top of still severe asthma. They changed my medicine at the beginning of this week (last Tuesday)

I got on the treadmill twice yesterday and have been trying to eat reasonably for several days now. I got on the scale this morning and it read 167.4, Thats like 5lbs. Now, Im gonna keep going!!!!!! I gotta keep it off and lose more

DH let me add an extra day to our trip and I want to be in shape for all that walking!!

I plan to get on the treadmill 2 more times today. It feels great to be able to breath!!!!!! Course I was having a bit of a problem after my second go round last night.

Well, Im off to put a dress on for church!!!

Reading your emails and just knowing I had a DIS support group has helped- thanks girls- your the best!

On a side note, how does the tag fairy work? Do I have to say something that strikes them as funny and they add it to my name? Or is it really all stuff created my people themselves?

WDW is my goal - I've got 44 days left, how much weight can I lose in that amount of time?

 

[mum4jenn]

You can do this!!! It is hard at times but I think you have seen some positive results and that will give you the motivation to keep things going. There is wonderful support here. I never would have made it as far as I have if it were not for the wonderful people here on these boards.

I have been struggling since November but I am basically maintaining my weight right now. I have good days and bad days but they have been balalncing my weight. I still need to lose 30 pounds and I have to keep my butt in gear to reach my goal.

Congratulations for coming here and your successes so far!!

 

[ohMom]

eyore -- i haven't been on boards much lately, but i wanted send some (((HUGS))) and PD to you! looks like our WISH family has already sent much good suggestion and inspiration to you and I'm so proud of you for being open minded and willing to make changes for your new healthier lifestyle. I know you will feel sooooo much better for your trip! 44 days -- um that's like 6 weeks right, i'm not sure but maybe 10 lbs? remember, the slower you lose, the less likely you are to gain it back! slower is better, more frustrating, but better

and, yes, the tag fairy will just surprise you with a tag when you least expect it. usually it's something that strikes the tag fairy as funny or something you may say often?

the only thing i wanted to add is try to focus on your mini-goals. sometimes the big picture is way to overwhelming, and you don't want to burn yourself out. baby steps, as you are ready, b/c this is a lifestyle change -- forever

i'm on WW too -- my DH is big meat and potatoes man. sometimes I indulge the fam in comfort foods and i have salad, other times i sneak them WW friendly dinner and they don't even know it. check out the healthy eating board at the top of WISH for great recipes