I'm coordinating a reunion,one person hasn't replied...

[Disneyland1084]

the one I REALLY want to see again. I'm coordinating a reunion with an old close knit neighborhood I use to live in many, many years ago. One neighbor, who I absolutley adored and is a few years older than me, never replied to my email. I think I know why. 6 months ago her sister told me she's on welfare and lives in a crappy apt with 3 kids. I never heard from the rest of her family. I don't really care because she was the only one I ever really bonded with. Her wall posts on FB strongly imply she's just not happy with her life. She only lives 10 minutes away from where the reunion will be. It's 2 weeks away. A lot of the neighborhood kids turned out really successful, and I'm afraid the reason she hasn't responded is because she thinks she'll feel like a loser. I was wondering, would it be intrusive if I emailed her again or posted on her wall that I miss her and really want to see her again?What would you do?

P.S. I'm NOT going to let her know what I was told about her.

 

[disneymarie]

Do you have her phone number to talk with her and let her know how much you would like to see her?
A friendly hello from someone that genuine misses you may be what she needs to get happy to go.
Are you the same size or know a person with something she can wear?
That was always a tough one for me as a single Mom when reunions or other occasions came around. I would need for the kids and not get something for myself.
Maybe meet her to find shoes someplace,

Most importantly, whether she goes to the reunion or not RECONNECT. Stay in touch to let her know someone really likes her for her.
di

 

[OceanAnnie]

There are different ways you can broach it. Maybe it would be nice to have a reunion for 2. Maybe e-mail her, tell her you were looking forward to seeing her again. Tell her you felt like you bonded with her best out of the neighborhood kids. Ask her if she can make it to the reunion and if not, maybe meet you for coffee or lunch?

Having a reunion of 2 would take off the pressure she may be feeling when thinking of a large reunion.

HTH.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I would get together with her seperately and not even mention the reunion.

 

[ajk912]

I see nothing wrong with writing on her wall:

I hope you can make the reunion! It's been so long since we have gotten together!

And then, if she doesn't plan on making the reunion (I wouldn't pressure her) maybe the "we need to get together" part would open up the opprotunity for coffee plans or something.

 

[Disneyland1084]

Thanks to all of you who replied. I agree with everything you said, but unfortunately I live a four hour drive away. I'm only going to be in my old town for two days. I'm just going to write on her FB wall.

 

[jaycat]

Well is there time to have coffee in those two days if she doesn't want to come to the reunion? You should ask she might want to reconnect too.