I'd tell her she has no business trying to control who I do or don't speak to and she shouldn't put me in the middle of her disagreements. If I think its appropriate to talk to her son, I will. If I judge its best not to, I won't.
(If the kid is moving down the addiction path and is at the lying and stealing to feed his habit stage, I would judge its best not to talk to him. If his mom doesn't like his girlfriend or wants him to be a Doctor while he wants to major in Dance - then I'd continue whatever relationship I had with him prior to his mother acting like a six year old.)[/QUOTE]
I think the disagreement has something to do with more like this type of situation.