If you were having a procedure done (cosmetic surgery)

[Hillbeans]

Would you tell your friends and family ahead of time that you were having plastic surgery? Tell friends or family after a procedure what you had done or keep it completely to yourself?

Would it depend on the procedure?

 

[Jennasis]

Absolutely. If it were the kind of thing I was too ashamed to admit, I wouldn't do it in the first place.

 

[Jennasis]

Absolutely. If it were the kind of thing I was too ashamed to admit, I wouldn't do it in the first place.

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

Absolutely. If it were the kind of thing I was too ashamed to admit, I wouldn't do it in the first place.

I don't see it as much about "shame" as I do about privacy. Everybody doesn't have to know what's going on in my life. There are lots of things that I do that are private, but not the least bit shameful.

I've learned not to share dieting information with people, or at least with certain people, because they stick their noses in with advice, disapproval, sabotage. Doesn't mean I'm ashamed of dieting, or what diet I choose...just that it's none of anyone else's business.

 

[Judy Judy Judy]

Yes I would. I had a co-worker that took a month off from work for "vacation." She never came back to work we found out later that she had a weight loss surgery that turned bad and had a blood clot that killed her.
She didn't tell not one person she was having surgery but her sister who was with her on the day. The feeling I felt clearing her desk at work was incredible. I would have at least like to have been able to say a prayer for her instead of " have a good time in Vegas". Heartbreaking!

 

[MickeySP]

I am having PS and yep everyone knows.

I can't wait to show the new improved me. I had weight loss surgery now having a little clean-up of excess skin. I may even have a thing or 2 brightened LOL!!

 

[Katy Belle]

I don't know what I would do I probably wouldn't want it to be public knowledge...my In Laws live in a VERY small community and things spread like wild fire...I'd rather have them wonder, rather than KNOW and be waiting and watching for the new improved me.

On the other hand...I've had 3 friends have b**b jobs , all traveled in the same circle... One was very vocal and told everyone. The other 2 didn't tell. Well, one of them told me, but I was to keep it a secret. It was pretty awkward for me... because it was OBVIOUS she had something done, as it should be with b**b jobs! But she still wouldn't tell people and when people would ask me I would basically have to lie or say "ask her." Finally people decided she had and a few nights when she was drunk she would tell people and then it got a bit more comfortable.

The third kind of told once it was finished. She didn't try to keep it secret, but didn't really advertise it. Hers was much more subtle and she didn't change from wearing modest clothes to flaunting her cleavage.

Its kind of funny...people have plastic surgery to improve their looks, they want people to notice, but not know that they did something

 

[Aisling]

I'd have it and wouldn't tell a soul. I'd swear up and down that it happened naturally!

 

[luvmy3]

I don't see the point in keeping it private. If I'm doing something to change my appearance, my family and friends are going to know I did something.

 

[Aisling]

I don't see the point in keeping it private. If I'm doing something to change my appearance, my family and friends are going to know I did something.

Ok, I'd tell my husband and kids. Everyone else will just have to believe I'm aging very very nicely. (I'm vain like that. )

 

[Frye7127]

I didn't tell people, i was a very personal thing for me and i was doing it soley for me and only me. My husband (of course) knew. My parents knew, but not to the extent of what I was having done until afterwards when the surgeon came out to speak to my DH, dad, and sister, my sister in law knew because she was the surgical tech - I didn't tell her, my name was on the schedule and she called to talk to me about it, my in-laws, and my sister. My next door neighbor knew in case something happened to me, she could testify on my behalf in regards to my son, in case there was a fight. I didn't feel the need to advertise it and I am private anyway so that was that.

If anyone complimented afterwards, I graciously thanked them, but didn't spill my story. BTW, it wasn't nose or ****s.

 

[bdcp]

I don't understand the whole keep it quiet thing either. If you're unhappy with your appearance or need surgery to tighten or repair, you really think no one will notice? Then there will be whispering, gossip, etc. I think being upfront about PS is the best way to keep the gossip down, unless it's something that won't be obvious. B**b jobs to me are the last thing someone can keep secret. I mean, really, come on, everyone can tell. Same with nose jobs for purely cosmetic reasons.

Of course, I will never get plastic surgery. For that matter I would never get any unnecessary surgery. I fully understand women who have had multiples and need to repair their abdominal muscles and tighten the skin to help with back problems and women who have breast reduction surgery for the same reasons. But, eventually life will catch up with you or you'll end up looking like Joan Rivers.

 

[sunnyday123]

I'd tell. Heck, if it turned out really well, I'd even show 'em! ( if the surgery was somewhere covered by clothing)


However, I don't like people fussing over me at all, so I probably wouldn't tell anyone except for a select few when it was.

 

[luvmy3]

Ok, I'd tell my husband and kids. Everyone else will just have to believe I'm aging very very nicely. (I'm vain like that. )

Oh I agree, I'd only tell my close family and friends. I'd just let everyone wonder

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I didn't give too many family a heads up about knee surgery. So I'm not sure I would give too many a heads up about a procedure. If it came up--maybe.

It isn't anything having to do with shame--but that sometimes, I don't care to hear a negative opinion. I have an extremely judgemental extended family. (I was the pretty bride because the bride in the adjacent room was...overweight. But that isn't the words that were used. They would have a field day with a simple lipo, I am sure.)

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I don't see it as much about "shame" as I do about privacy. Everybody doesn't have to know what's going on in my life. There are lots of things that I do that are private, but not the least bit shameful.

I've learned not to share dieting information with people, or at least with certain people, because they stick their noses in with advice, disapproval, sabotage. Doesn't mean I'm ashamed of dieting, or what diet I choose...just that it's none of anyone else's business.

I have had people who take innocent comments I make when they ASK and turn it into a judgement on them. I didn't start the conversation, but they led the conversation and then they got upset when I commented that I was doing weight watchers or something. What I do with and for my body has nothing to do with any judgement of other people.

 

[mhsjax]

I don't see it as much about "shame" as I do about privacy. Everybody doesn't have to know what's going on in my life. There are lots of things that I do that are private, but not the least bit shameful.

I've learned not to share dieting information with people, or at least with certain people, because they stick their noses in with advice, disapproval, sabotage. Doesn't mean I'm ashamed of dieting, or what diet I choose...just that it's none of anyone else's business.

Exactly, and I have just been through this myself. I did tell certain people, but not everyone. Not everyone needs to know my business.

 

[MrsJackSparrow4Life]

If I could get plastic surgery done I would probably be so excited I would tell anyone who would listen

I can understand the people who don't want to go around telling everyone about it but I have never understood the people who flat out lie about it when questioned. It just makes them look stupid whenever they get caught.

 

[mhsjax]

If I could get plastic surgery done I would probably be so excited I would tell anyone who would listen

I can understand the people who don't want to go around telling everyone about it but I have never understood the people who flat out lie about it when questioned. It just makes them look stupid whenever they get caught.

AFter reading the whole thread and thinking about it and more specifically, reading your answer I will expand on what I said earlier, because yes they do look stupid when they are in denial.

I did have something minor done, I told a few people because I pretty much had to, there was a conflict and a party I couldn't go to and they kept asking why. But, I would never, lie about it. I had every intention of telling people after it was done, and I have done that. I just don't want to explain everything before hand and I don't want any negative comments, although all I got was a good for you.

 

[SpecialK]

I'd have it and wouldn't tell a soul. I'd swear up and down that it happened naturally!

I have a friend ho had a "lifestyle lift" type of facelift. She didn't tell anyone and was really disappointed when nobody noticed, so she kept asking everyone "Notice anything different about me?" None of us did!