If you could change one trait in your SO, what would it be?

[Nancy]

Hey, we're married to same person!!!
Drive me insane! When my DD was about 2, we had out-of-town friends staying with us. All of us were going out to meet up with some other friends for dinner. About an hour before we have to be there (it's a 20 minute drive), he decides he needs a hair cut. No kidding! My friend looked up at me as he was walking out the door and said, "He's not seriously doing that, is he?" Unfortunately, yes he was! Left me to get dressed, dress the baby, and still place hostess to our friends. Her husband ended up dressing all of the kids (mine and her two) while we got dressed and ready. And then they ended up having to leave before us to meet up with the other friends because DH wasn't back yet. I was sooooo mad!!

I'm just glad I'm not the only one he does it to. We have season tickets for football. Most games I don't go but his brother/mother/friend all go with him. He knows exactly what time they are all coming to the house to leave (we have had the tickets for over 20 years and game times are still the same) yet he will get into the shower 5 minutes before they are due to get here. Then he seems surprised that they are all waiting around for him to get downstairs.

 

[luvwinnie]

His inability to read my mind.

You wouldn't REALLY want that, would you?

 

[luvwinnie]

Not to be a downer but I would like to get my husband to stop drinking.

I'm sorry...just wanted to send you a hug. I know how horrible this can be.

 

[motherhen17404]

I have the most wonderful DH in the world. He respects me, supports me in every way, and we have great communication and a lot of fun. He is a great father who loves to spend time with our son.

Ok, now the trait I would change. I wish he was better at money management. He makes plenty, but we are always broke. But then again, I am not frugal either! Two people who love to spend money should never get married or at the least, hire a keeper!

 

[MamaLema]

The #1 thing that drives me batty is:

Whenever we will be away for a few hours, I get everything ready to go out. Let's say we're going to an amusement park for the day. I will pack snacks, drinks, sunscreen, diapers, change of clothes for our 3 kids, and a million other things. I will get all the kids ready. All the while DH is watching TV the whole time. The last thing I always do is go the washroom. As soon as I get out, I see DH already halfway out the door telling ME to hurry up!

Hello?!? If you could help me out, we could leave a lot sooner.

BTW, I have asked for help in the past but DH claims he doesn't know what to pack, or if I ask him to pack something, he doesn't know where it's located in the house or what brand, or how many

This has been going on for years

 

[DVC Sadie]

The one trait I would change in regards to my dh would be to enjoy changes instead of wanting things to stay the same. He does not enjoy going on vacations because he doesn't like change. Once we are on vacation he really enjoys himself and has a good time. Heck he still has the same pick up truck he bought new in 1985. I would love to have a house up north to spend 6 months a year but I think changing locations twice a year might send him over the edge. The best thing about dh not liking change is he hasn't felt the need to trade me in. So when it comes right down to it maybe I really don't want to change this trait. Oh well.

 

[Crankyshank]

Well, when I'm talking to him and he doesn't respond and I ask him if he heard me and he then says, "does everything you say need a response?"--I'd like to change that. Especially since sometimes I'm thinking out loud and he feels compelled to comment on that, for some reason. So that's the serious, lack of respect issue.
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My husband does the same thing. It drives me nuts!
I'm not sure what I would change - it's a toss up between his apparent fear of the clothes hamper or his procrastination. Probably his procrastination. I hate having to nag him to get him to do stuff but seriously it's the only way to get things done. If I left it to him things would never get done unless I did it or it did itself.

 

[HoneyPooh]

My DH has a habit of starting a story and then getting distracted and fading out in the middle of it. He then dropes it for a good 20 minutes then picks it back up again right where he left off. We are constantly following him around waiting for the rest of the story. Our sons get a kick out of it but it drives me batty. I don't want to be rude but I can't wait around forever for you to finish what you were saying!

 

[lyeag]

His spending habits. I swear, I cannot get through to him the difference between wants and needs. His nickname is Instant Gratification Man. No joke, I call him that to his face. I love him to death, but somewhere his parents taught him that if he feels he deserves something, he should get it. Scary. We have many "discussions" about money.

 

[Mkaz]

The one thing that I would change about DH is that he takes on way too much. He spends many many hours working because of it. I appreciate everything that he does for me and our children. He does everything out of love for his family, but it makes me sad that he doesn't make time to enjoy things. I can count one hand the amount of times that he took time out for himself in the past year (if you count going to happy hour time out for himself). Two!

On the upside we are taking our first vacation in (get this) nine years. Does that give you an indication of how hard this man works?

 

[Jeafl]

This is an easy one. My husband needs to realize that the kids' sports are not the most important thing in the world. We have to keep rescheduling our vacations because God forbid one of the kids misses a hockey or softball game, or track meet.

 

[andromedaslove]

ok, my DH is actually a really great guy, and although he has a few annoying habits, there really is only one thing I would change.

He gets into a conversation about cars (mainly mustangs) while we are out to dinner with his parents. Him and his Dad will be talking about cars, after a while we (the females) will get bored with the conversation and change the subject. After we discuss the new subject for just a few moments he will automatically start back in on cars right where he left off. That man doesn't miss a beat. Thankfully, he is starting to get better. Now when he does it I interrupt him and start talking about Disney!! See Mustangs are his addiction and Disney is mine, so it's my way of showing him what it feels like!!

 

[LindsayDunn228]

ok, my DH is actually a really great guy, and although he has a few annoying habits, there really is only one thing I would change.

He gets into a conversation about cars (mainly mustangs) while we are out to dinner with his parents. Him and his Dad will be talking about cars, after a while we (the females) will get bored with the conversation and change the subject. After we discuss the new subject for just a few moments he will automatically start back in on cars right where he left off. That man doesn't miss a beat. Thankfully, he is starting to get better. Now when he does it I interrupt him and start talking about Disney!! See Mustangs are his addiction and Disney is mine, so it's my way of showing him what it feels like!!

I totally know how you feel. My husband, his bro, best friend, and dad are all computer geeky and Stark Trek fanatics. I've learned to just tune them out.

 

[liamsaunt]

I would like it if DH helped me clean the house more often. He does help with laundry, dishes, stuff like that, but I usually do all the other cleaning. When he does scrub the bathroom once in a blue moon, I am very grateful.

 

[LindsayDunn228]

I would like it if DH helped me clean the house more often. He does help with laundry, dishes, stuff like that, but I usually do all the other cleaning. When he does scrub the bathroom once in a blue moon, I am very grateful.

Now see, I am the total opposite. My husband would love to help me clean, but I feel like I have to clean up behind him because he misses so many things that are obvious. I would just rather do them right the first time myself.

I know that sounds catty, but I don't talk to my husband that way. I just do these things myself and give a sweet, "No thanks, Pooh. I got it covered." He's happy, I'm happy

 

[liamandcaili]

, I have asked for help in the past but DH claims he doesn't know what to pack, or if I ask him to pack something, he doesn't know where it's located in the house or what brand, or how many

This has been going on for years

I feel your pain. DH can not find anything. If it is under or in something, including closets, he can't find it. Unfortunately, I have noticed a similar trait in DS(7). I am trying to break him of the habit now!

As for brands, if DH goes out to the store for me, it is an absolute certainty that he will come home with the wrong brand, so I can't just write soap on the list, I have to write the brand...and often what color the box is.

 

[Marseeya]

Now see, I am the total opposite. My husband would love to help me clean, but I feel like I have to clean up behind him because he misses so many things that are obvious. I would just rather do them right the first time myself.

I know that sounds catty, but I don't talk to my husband that way. I just do these things myself and give a sweet, "No thanks, Pooh. I got it covered." He's happy, I'm happy

Pooh. You called him Pooh.

My DH would kill me, but I think it's adorable.

 

[LindsayDunn228]

Pooh. You called him Pooh.

My DH would kill me, but I think it's adorable.

I'm sure we are really annoying to be around. He's Pooh and I'm Kitty. I couldn't tell you the last time he called me Lindsay.

 

[Evil Genius]

I would put a volume/mute button on my dh. He talks ALOT and due to his hearing problems he talks loud and doesn't realize it. And if you tell to talk a little softer he gets offended. There have been times when I think I need earplugs. Oh!! And did I mention he talks in his sleep too!! I can't get a break

 

[pearlieq]

I wish he wasn't quite so much of an absent-minded professor. I'm constantly picking up things and dealing with things he forgot.

Honestly, though, if that's the best I can come up with, I'm doing pretty good!