It's when and where it's being asked mostly. A lot of people here are feeling this viscerally. There a ton of comments about feeling physically ill about this. Lots of people have said they can't even imagine what the family is going thru but I suspect it's really that it hits hard because people can imagine and do have a small inkling of what the family might be feeling. And that is terrifying and upsetting and scary. And it happened in a place people here love. People are feeling very close to this. I can't read any of the threads not related to this right now because they feel very unimportant in the scheme of things right now. Not everyone has to feel that way, of course, but some people do. So while you probably don't mean it this way, to some it sounds like, "When will your tragedy stop inconveniencing me."