ideas to convert unhappy DW--please!

[sydsdad]

Hello fellow Magic lovers-

Need HELP!!!
unlike myself and DD (6 1/2yrs old) my DW is NOT a believer
this will be our 5th Thanksgiving @WDW and i must
find some ways of converting DW or it might be our last
she doesn't find it "interesting" more often hanging with mother-in-law anywhere but the parks

none of us are real thrill seekers so i need other ways to
tweak her interest
we stay at the beachclub and i'm hoping a little pixie dust
from my fellow DIS fans will help lead the way
ALL HELP VERY MUCH APPRECIATED

 

[DawnAK]

Sorry your wife doesn't feel the magic that most of us do! What would she enjoy doing? Could you book her a spa treatment at the Grand Floridian? Or would she enjoy the afternoon tea at the Grand Floridian? Or how about an illuminations cruise or behind the scenes tour? Does she enjoy good food? How about dining at the California Grill or V & A's? Be sure to catch the fireworks shows, those must impress her. They certainly make me get goose bumps! Good luck. Dawn

 

[Deb & Bill]

Print out Delwife's trip reports (she's up to 44 parts now) and have her read them. She'll either identify with Delswife or evil SIL. You'll know where to go from there.

LY, MI.

Seriously, you might try other times of the year than just Thanksgiving. We change times or places to stay every time we go. But we always return to our DVC resorts for our home base.

I agree that spa treatments are great. Kelly does a wonderful Stress Reliever treatment at the GF spa. 50 minute massage. 35 minute hydrotherapy.

Maybe a little less commando trip for you and daughter to include wifey more in the trip.

 

[SnackyStacky]

Just as an outsider, if you've tried 4 other times, and she still doesn't like it, it sounds like she's been more than a fair sport. I think perhaps next vacation, go where she'd like to go.

However, I think your timing might be an issue. I've heard about the throngs of people that descend on the parks around Thanksgiving. I love Disney World, but I haven't experienced the crowds that come with peak times. I really might re-evaluate my position if I had to deal with tons of people.

Perhaps, since this is your 5th time, don't go to the parks as much. Spend lots of time at the pool. Check out DisneyQuest, resort hop, go parasailing, book an illuminations cruise, go to different restaurants....spend as much time out of the parks as you can.

 

[aesalsa]

I agree with Snackystacky. My DH (fiance at the time) dreaded going to WDW on our first WDW trip together in 1998 because he'd been there when the parks are at capacity. HE HATES CROWDS! We went in early Jan. 1998 and Dec.1-13 2002 for our honeymoon when crowds are almost non-existent, and he loved it! DH and I would NEVER go during the holidays or the summer; we just can't enjoy ourselves. Maybe your wife would "feel the magic" more if she didn't have to wait in long lines crushed among hoards of people . Or maybe she just isn't a Disney person . If she is willing to do another WDW vacation in the future, try to plan it for an off-peak time; I think everyone would enjoy that.

Either way, I hope that you all have a great time TOGETHER as a family.

 

[NLK]

Hey, Sydsdad, I'm a Sydsmom and I'm right across the GWB in NJ. I also have the same problem. We are going to WDW in Dec. with my in-laws and my SIL. My SIL has already said that she has been to WDW so much when she was little that she just hates it. But, she is planning on coming with us so she can be with my DD. My MIL doesn't like the whole idea of a theme park and is really not in the best of health so she doesn't want to spend to much time in them. I want them to enjoy the trip and understand why we like Disney so much. I love all of the tips that were mentioned above please keep them coming. I could use all the help I can get. I hope you guys have a great time. Write and let us know how it went.

 

[scrump]

It does sound like DW has given it a fair chance; it might be a good idea to have her choose a locale for the next time. Personally, I am not one to take it well when I am grudgingly made to go places I don't want to go to, but I also understand the hope that people close to you will "catch" the Disney magic... so I can sympathize with your agenda, but also empathize with her feelings.

My boyfriend is not really into Disney, and though I wish we could take a trip out there one day, I really don't want to push it until he wants to go of his own accord. Maybe when you go during less crowded times, and she sees how your DD loves Disney, she'll change her mind!

But vacations are always better when everybody has somewhat of a vested interest in where they are. Good luck!

 

[Geri]

Let your DD spend some time in one of the Disney babysitting centers & plan a very romantic evening with DW. Your daughter will enjoy herself & probably won't even miss you & you'll be able to spend some quality time will DW.

Good luck & have a wonderful time!
Geri

 

[sydsdad]

Just wanted to thank you guys for your input
It really helped getting other perspectives-

I'm listening to all of you and trying not to push--
DD and I are letting DW have as much input as possible and we're
mixing up our usual routines

Hopefully the Magic comes

She deserve it!!

Doing the single digit dance and
I'll report the results--
A VERY NICE HOLIDAY TO ALL!!!!

sydsdad

 

[Efastpitch]

Their are so many other things to do at WDW that I am sure you can find something she would like to do. Maybe a spa visit, a special dinner for the two of you. Your DD could stay at one of the cub house or day care facilities for a few hours. I do not think she will ever find the magic that the rest of use feel, but who knows?

 

[MELSMICE]

My DH loves going to WDW, but isn't much for going in the parks. He would rather sit by the pool or golf. So I MADE him get the DVC AP for golf.

On our trip a few weeks ago I took my 3 DD's into the parks & he went golfing a few times. On our last day he suggested we go to the MK together & enjoy ourselves. It was a less stressful trip for us because he didn't feel like he was being "dragged" through the parks seeing the same things again & I didn't feel like I had to rush through the parks with my DD's. We had some great pool days together & enjoyed all the other time together, but those 2 days while he golfed & we did parks were less stressful than they normally would have been. We'll do it again that way in April.

Maybe she just needs to be able to do her thing with her mother while you take your DD to the parks. No one says because your in Disney you have to do a theme park!

Have fun while you're there.

 

[rodriged]

Would someone please be willing to tell us where or how to find "Delswife" postings. Tried a search without success.
Thanks.

 

[Brikate]

Originally posted by rodriged
Would someone please be willing to tell us where or how to find "Delswife" postings. Tried a search without success.
Thanks.

It's a long (47 segments!), but VERY amusing, sad and informative report. Enjoy !!!

Mouseterpiece Theater

 

[sydsdad]

I just wanted to take the time to send a very heartfelt THANK YOU
to my fellow DIS'ers

IT WORKED!!!!!

While I'm not exactly sure if she caught a full dose of the MAGIC--
my DH actually, truly, really had a good time!!!!

I took your advice--I underplanned!!---no need to smother her with Disney 24/7-
I let the Magic come to her, at her pace--


A little park, a little rest, a little shopping--whatever meant
"Vacation" to HER!!!

DD and I did our thing- didn't take anything personally and BINGO! it all fit together--A good time was had by all


Proof?--DW actually bought a mickey hat own her own

DW gave the thumbs up for THANKSGIVING 2004!!!

Thanks Again one and all--I knew the power of DIS'ers positive thinking and perspective would point me in the right direction