Ideas for First Visit?

CMLion

Earning My Ears
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Later this month my husband and I will be making a trek to Disneyland. I've been many times (I'm a CA native), but he has just moved to the U.S. from Paris. He's been to Disneyland Paris and wasn't a fan. (I know. I know.) In fact, in all my visits to Paris, I never went. (Hey, it's Paris, there's a lot to do!)

We'll be there for four days, so we have plenty of time. I'm curious if anyone has any ideas for a jaded Frenchman. He does have a tendency to act blasé (typical French). I want to have a good time, but I'm worried I'll be brought down by his not being "up".

I haven't been for ten years (I used to be an annual pass member!), so I know what I want to see, but I'm hoping someone can give me an idea through fresh eyes.

Thanks so much!
 
Make sure he understands that DL is Walt's original park (don't take that for granted -- not everyone knows this, and it can affect one's perception of the park). Tell him to come in with a totally blank slate; don't compare DLRP to DL. Instead. he should see where Walt's dream started and how it grew into all the other Disney parks. Maybe do the Walk in Walt's Footsteps tour? That tour covers the history of DL and Walt's vision for the park. Take the time to see and enjoy all the details (and there are lots!) everywhere you look, all the music (live and taped), all the smells and tastes. DLR is an experience of all your senses (including your sense of humor!). Make some magic for other guests and CMs while you are there. When our oldest was in his worst teen cynical/blase mood, we would focus on doing something nice for someone else (e.g helping other guests in lines, complimenting CMs, sharing the joy with little kids, etc.). That got him into the magic better than anything else. Make sure to plan for the evening parades and shows. Try to see the fireworks early in your visit. That way if they get cancelled, you can try again. Maybe try the WOC Dessert Party? See the original MSEP on the original Main Street. F! probably won't be back by your trip dates, but you never know. Pixie dust and fingers crossed. Don't be nervous and let your joy in the magic flow. It will be infectious! Have a great trip!
 
Get that man some Mickey ears and a Mickey ice cream bar and dare him not to be happy. :earboy2:

But seriously, what converted my husband into a Disney lover was focusing the things he already likes... for him it was the thrill rides, trains, good food, and fun cocktails. I just made sure his first visit was full of his favorite things and it wasn't long before he was a Disney park lover like me.
 
Squeezle has some good tips, something I always have to consider when I'm going to the park with non-regulars is that not everyone is as obsessed with Disney as I am. If Donald walks by and waves at me I wave back, whereas another grown-up might say "that's just a man wearing a suit.." Make sure your husband knows you're going there to HAVE FUN! If he goes into it thinking it's going to be boring it's probably going to be boring. I'm sure he will want to please his loving partner so make sure he's in the Disney spirit haha!
 

....so I am going to take the role the nay-sayer .....and it is going to be a downer........but Disneyland can be infectious... so we need a hook......what does he watch on the screen(Tv, computer, phone, movies, etc)? What are his interests ? where else have you visited in the US and what was his respone to the visits
 
.....explore cultural imperialism and the Paris park .....then share with him that Walt had a great admiration for French culture and created an entire area around the traditions.....that there are no other areas in Disneyland that have a direct link to a culture. Even the US culture has been erased within Disneyland, the burning cabin, fort wilderness, why the very book that every american child has touched has been erased from Disneyland...but the French Quarter still stands, be it New Orleans, Walt wanted to bring the world, Matterhorn, castle, canal boat ride.....foriegn nursery stories, to California, to see the world the way a child would see the world.
 
I took a good family friend to Disneyland for the first time back in 2012. She is German, has no kids or nieces/nephews (although she is like an Aunt to my kids) and saw Disney as a sugar coated, Americanized version of the classic European fairy tails she grew up on. She's also a natural cynic and hates crowds.

She ended up having an amazing time and was caught up in the detail and story telling of Disneyland and loved seeing my young kids and the joy Disney brought them. While she didn't end up a full blown Disney addict, she has been back once after that and now has a much more positive outlook on Disney and Disneyland in particular.
 
If your budget allows it, consider doing a dinner at Napa Rose or a dining package at Carthay Circle. Both restaurants are headed by the same executive chef...same guy who's executive chef at Club 33.

Were there certain aspects of DLP that your DH did not care for?
What does he like to do in his spare time?
What does his ideal vacation look like?

If he's not a big Disney fan, then I would say do not do something like the "Walk in Walt's Footsteps" tour.

So let's say, for example, that your DH really enjoys dining in a relaxed environment, drinking coffee outside in a lovely setting, stuff like that... then make sure that you make time each day to do something like that. Here are some options that come to mind in both parks:
  • About 30 min before sunset (check the time on a weather app on your phone, for example), grab a snack in Carsland and sit at one of the outside tables in front of Flo's V-8 Cafe. Watch all of the other park guests walk by and take in the scenery while you wait for the neon lights to turn on at dusk. We did this last week and it was really nice. Carsland is one of my favorite spots in DCA.
  • Get a snack or treat at the bakery on Main Street and eat it outside at one of the tables near Coke Corner. Usually there is a ragtime piano player there.
  • Do the above, but go around 3-3:30 pm-ish (ask at Coke Corner for the exact time) and watch Alice & the Mad Hatter play musical chairs while you unwind.
  • Have a mint julep and eat some beignets outside at the French Market in the evening when the jazz band is playing.
  • Grab a Starbucks on Buena Vista Street and sit on one of the benches on Buena Vista Street and watch the world go by. If you're lucky, one of the Buena Vista Street residents will come up and say hello (Officer Blue, Molly Messenger, and there's also Fifi the Photographer). They're very entertaining.
  • If the Rivers of America is open by the time you're at DL and if they've taken down all of the scrims at the Hungry Bear, sit at the Hungry Bear closest to the water's edge and listen to the sounds of the river front.
If this will be your DH's first visit to DL in Anaheim, get him a "First Visit" button at City Hall or the DCA Chamber of Commerce.

If the monorail is running when you're there, you can ask to ride in the front of the monorail car with the driver. That's pretty cool.

Something that's chock full of American culture and represents Walt Disney's love of the US - go to the Flag Retreat Ceremony at Town Square. Last week, they had it at 5:15 pm. One of the security guards is retired from the Marines and he works at DL now for many years. Often, the DL band and the Dapper Dans are there to play/sing patriotic songs while "Gunny" and other security guards take down the American flag, fold it up, and carry it away. Gunny usually asks any active or ex-military service men & women to come forward and he thanks them and honors them for their service. It's very moving.
 
To the OP: does your DH know and understand why DLR makes you happy? What it is about this place that brings you joy? Share that with him before your trip so that he can be happy with you and for you while you are there. It isn't about trying to convince him to like a place that he may or may not enjoy or about getting him to like DLR as much as you like it, but about sharing a vacation and an experience with you, his DW, that will make good memories for both of you. (And the memories will be great!)
For example, when we first married, my DH was not a Disney fan at all. (I had been a lifelong fan.) We never saw Disney movies and rarely visited the parks. DH liked the rides, but just didn't get the whole Disney vibe. But on one of our rare DL visits, DH said that he started watching me watch the parade. Instead of being bored out of his mind, he was moved to tears by seeing me smile and wave at the characters. Now we are both pass holders and visit the parks frequently. I'm still the bigger Disney fan. But he says that as long as Disney brings me joy, he'll keep taking me to my happy place.
Your DH will have a great time. He'll be with you, so how could he not? :)
 
If your budget allows it, consider doing a dinner at Napa Rose or a dining package at Carthay Circle. Both restaurants are headed by the same executive chef...same guy who's executive chef at Club 33.

Were there certain aspects of DLP that your DH did not care for?
What does he like to do in his spare time?
What does his ideal vacation look like?

If he's not a big Disney fan, then I would say do not do something like the "Walk in Walt's Footsteps" tour.

So let's say, for example, that your DH really enjoys dining in a relaxed environment, drinking coffee outside in a lovely setting, stuff like that... then make sure that you make time each day to do something like that. Here are some options that come to mind in both parks:
  • About 30 min before sunset (check the time on a weather app on your phone, for example), grab a snack in Carsland and sit at one of the outside tables in front of Flo's V-8 Cafe. Watch all of the other park guests walk by and take in the scenery while you wait for the neon lights to turn on at dusk. We did this last week and it was really nice. Carsland is one of my favorite spots in DCA.
  • Get a snack or treat at the bakery on Main Street and eat it outside at one of the tables near Coke Corner. Usually there is a ragtime piano player there.
  • Do the above, but go around 3-3:30 pm-ish (ask at Coke Corner for the exact time) and watch Alice & the Mad Hatter play musical chairs while you unwind.
  • Have a mint julep and eat some beignets outside at the French Market in the evening when the jazz band is playing.
  • Grab a Starbucks on Buena Vista Street and sit on one of the benches on Buena Vista Street and watch the world go by. If you're lucky, one of the Buena Vista Street residents will come up and say hello (Officer Blue, Molly Messenger, and there's also Fifi the Photographer). They're very entertaining.
  • If the Rivers of America is open by the time you're at DL and if they've taken down all of the scrims at the Hungry Bear, sit at the Hungry Bear closest to the water's edge and listen to the sounds of the river front.
If this will be your DH's first visit to DL in Anaheim, get him a "First Visit" button at City Hall or the DCA Chamber of Commerce.

If the monorail is running when you're there, you can ask to ride in the front of the monorail car with the driver. That's pretty cool.

Something that's chock full of American culture and represents Walt Disney's love of the US - go to the Flag Retreat Ceremony at Town Square. Last week, they had it at 5:15 pm. One of the security guards is retired from the Marines and he works at DL now for many years. Often, the DL band and the Dapper Dans are there to play/sing patriotic songs while "Gunny" and other security guards take down the American flag, fold it up, and carry it away. Gunny usually asks any active or ex-military service men & women to come forward and he thanks them and honors them for their service. It's very moving.
Thank you for the great suggestions. We already have reservations for Napa Rose the first night and Blue Bayou for lunch the next day! He's going to freak out with the first visit button--but I'm going to do it!
 
To the OP: does your DH know and understand why DLR makes you happy? What it is about this place that brings you joy? Share that with him before your trip so that he can be happy with you and for you while you are there. It isn't about trying to convince him to like a place that he may or may not enjoy or about getting him to like DLR as much as you like it, but about sharing a vacation and an experience with you, his DW, that will make good memories for both of you. (And the memories will be great!)
For example, when we first married, my DH was not a Disney fan at all. (I had been a lifelong fan.) We never saw Disney movies and rarely visited the parks. DH liked the rides, but just didn't get the whole Disney vibe. But on one of our rare DL visits, DH said that he started watching me watch the parade. Instead of being bored out of his mind, he was moved to tears by seeing me smile and wave at the characters. Now we are both pass holders and visit the parks frequently. I'm still the bigger Disney fan. But he says that as long as Disney brings me joy, he'll keep taking me to my happy place.
Your DH will have a great time. He'll be with you, so how could he not? :)

He's grown up on Disney movies (how can you escape that, even in France?). Beauty and the Beast is his favorite story (not just Disney, but going back to Cocteau's La Belle et la Bête), so anytime I can hone in on that... The more we've discussed it, the more I think he'll enjoy it. Or, at least, he can fake it! :-D
 














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