I wouldn't go back to high school for anything!

[Mermaid02]

My dd went to the midnite show of POTC II last night and it didn't go well for her. A little history. She introduced a friend of hers from volunteering at the hospital to one of her school friends last week. They were all going to this movie together. The friend from out of town (B) went to the intown friends house (I) before hand because Meg had to work until 9:30. B was supposed to spend the night here after the movie. Oh, and Megan went and got tickets for her and "B" yesterday afternoon.

They get to the movie and there are a couple of boys from school there. Neither really likes my dd. That's okay with me because they are delinquents. Anyhoo- "I" says "Let's sit with them!" Everyone sits down but when my dd tries to sit, one boy says, "sorry, those seats are saved" So she goes and sits ALONE. Neither of her "friends" goes and sits with her. Another girls Mom who was there apparently went and said something to her daughter and "B" and another boy who was there found dd a seat. (I might be getting parts of this wrong- I heard it at 3 a.m.) "I" was "mad at Meg for causing a scene"

So after the movie they get to "I's" house and "B" acts like she was supposed to stay there for the night. Says she "misunderstood". Her parents don't know these people at all- I hope it was okay that she stayed there, but I wasn't going to go chase her down in the middle of the night. Anyway, my dd was really hurt. "I" and "B" only met once last week and now they are best buddies leaving my dd out in the cold.

I told her I would avoid both girls. They wanted a ride from me tonight and guess what? I don't think so. Unless dd really wants me to give them a ride- which I doubt because she is so upset.

High School is crappy.

 

[MushyMushy]

I hate the girl drama!

OMG, don't you wish we could just lock them up in a big bubble and protect them from that kind of nastiness? My DD is only 10, but I hear things like this all the time and it's driving me nuts.

to her.

 

[ILUVMYBRIT]

Give her a big . And I am with you...you couldnt pay me enough to go through high school again.

 

[Tazicket]

How awful!!! You couldn't pay me enough to go back to high school and endure that kind of junk again.
for you and your dd.

 

[Cindy B]

I hate to say this, this starts in elementary/middle school. My poor son has been ostracized tons and he hasn't even started MIDDLE SCHOOL.

I sub in all grades, and I actually enjoy teaching high school. (Special ed high school at that!)

The drama is pretty rough. I've seen it with boys and GIRLS as well. I see a lot of posturing and acting cool, when they really aren't.

And good for your daughter to not want to hang with the delinquents. We have delinquents in my neighborhood as well.

 

[BeNJeNWaFFLe]

Aww poor dd! High school is really rough. Middle school isn't much better. Good for your dd for being upset, those girls were nasty. I don't blame you for not wanting to drive them home either.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Sorry your dd got crapped on. I hope she works it all out.

 

[ChristmasElf]

It's amazing how many high school (girls especially) suddenly start getting "home schooled" here in Orlando just because of this problem.
Girls can be so catty and nasty to each other. I wouldn't drive anyone toight either!

 

[Buckalew11]

I know when it comes to girlfriends at that age, 3 is a crowd. I never let DD go for extended periods of time when there is only 3 girls together. They always seem to gang up on one or leave one out. Just not nice. (I think I am like this because I am one of 3 dds myself! I know the scene too well.)

 

[ForTheLoveofDisney]

I know when it comes to girlfriends at that age, 3 is a crowd. I never let DD go for extended periods of time when there is only 3 girls together. They always seem to gang up on one or leave one out. Just not nice. (I think I am like this because I am one of 3 dds myself! I know the scene too well.)

Excellent words of wisdom! I do not have any children but I do know all too well about the 3's a crowd mentallity. Both because I've had it happen to me when I was school age (mostly middle school) and also because I am also the oldest of 3 dds myself as well.

Mermaid02, I am very sorry your daughter had to endure this!

 

[Maleficent13]

to Megan...girls are evil.

When I read this post I realized I hadn't seen her around much on the CB lately...did we scare her away?

 

[CathrynRose]

Me either!

Kids suck.

 

[alliecats]

I hate to say this, this starts in elementary/middle school. My poor son has been ostracized tons and he hasn't even started MIDDLE SCHOOL.

I sub in all grades, and I actually enjoy teaching high school. (Special ed high school at that!)

The drama is pretty rough. I've seen it with boys and GIRLS as well. I see a lot of posturing and acting cool, when they really aren't.

And good for your daughter to not want to hang with the delinquents. We have delinquents in my neighborhood as well.

I agree. The "cutting people out" started for me in 4th grade. Lots of this all the way through high school, but I saw it more in elementary and middle. If I ever have kids, I am going to try to raise them knowing that this kind of stuff is not cool.

 

[DznyFan]

As the parent of a teen girl, I really understand. Girls that age are really awful to one another. It started in middle school for us - and her counselor even mentioned that in her time as a counselor, she's seen them getting meaner and meaner, and that the particular grade my girl was in was the worst she'd seen yet. As my daughter has gotten older, she tries to stay away from the 'drama' crowds, because she just hates mean people. She's gotten to the point of just simply not associating with those types - and there's a LOT of them. So sorry your girl had a lousy night.

 

[crazee4mickey]

to your dd----to be young again would be great but not if you have to go through all the petty drama that unfolds again!
I always tell my boys that girls are just plain mean...they can be so sweet one minute and turn on you the next!
My dd always ends this with "yup, its true!"

 

[pansmermaidzlagoon]

I agree - wouldn't go back for anything. I learned early on how catty and all girls can be - from middle school on most of my friends were boys (even in college). That way you came to school knowing who your friends were and left at the end of the day the same way - and with so much less drama. My DD8 seems to be learning the same thing - it started in K for her....she couldn't take all the games and the "today you are in, tomorrow you are out" stuff. She plays with the boys most of the time now and has much more fun.

Three seems to be a problem at this age - no matter what the gender make-up - all the parents have commented on that. DD will have one friend over at a time - they are fine - add one more to the mix and trouble begins.....

can't wait for the teenage years.... for both of you!!!!

 

[AC7179]

That is really stinky.
I wouldn't go back for anything, either.
Hope your daughter is feeling better this morning.

 

[mckryan]

High school girl drama is the worst. I will be soo glad when high school is over for mine.

 

[KimR]

My high school years were horrible so I can relate. My DD starts high school in August and I am dreading it. Thankfully, DD is extremely self-assured and self-confident and avoids girls like that so I'm hoping it stays that way. Thus far, we've had no problems and I really like her friends - they are all wonderful girls. This high school thing has me really freaked though, just because I don't want her to go through what I did.

 

[robinb]

The "cutting people out" started for me in 4th grade. Lots of this all the way through high school, but I saw it more in elementary and middle.

They waited that long? It started for my DD in first grade. There was a Queen Bee girl who dictated who was in her group and who was not. My DD was not in for most of the school year and one of her best buds was in. The best bud stopped playing with my DD . All of the parents talked to the girls individually about the problem and we ended up enrolling the Queen Bee and my DD in gymnastics together without any of the other group. Once there were doing things one-on-one together they got a lot better at school.