I was so very tired yesterday, (unwanted guest vent)

[Disney1fan2002]

On Tuesday I worked a 2:30pm-7:30PM shift. I got home around 8:30pm. I was scheduled to work 5am-1:30pm Wednesday. It takes me 45 minutes to get to work, so I leave my house at 4:15am for a 5am shift. I get up at 3:30am.

Tuesday night I should have gone right to bed after getting home, but noooooo, I had to stay up and watch Lost. It was 10:30pm when I was finally in bed. Alarm went off at 3:30am.

I didn't really "feel" it until I ate my lunch. You know when you finally slow down, you realize how tired you are. After my lunch break, I only had 30 minutes and then I could leave. I was telling my co-workers how my pillows were calling me home. I was so looking forward to a nap before the kids got home from school.

I am 5 minutes from my house, when DH calls and tells me him mother want to come over with my SIL and her kids. Ummmm, ok I guess. But, my house is a mess. So I come home and immediately start cleaning. DS got home from school and I put him to work, much to his dismay. MIL and SIL show up around 3PM...which was fine, I am still thinking I'll give them a cup of tea and they'll be off. DS asked to bake brownies, so they were waiting for them to come out of the oven.

It was 6:30pm when they left. UGH. I usually don't mind having guests, but I was so tired. I felt bad because when I talk a lot and I'm tired, I yawn. So every other word was followed by a yawn.

Ever have someone invite themselves over at an inconvenient time?

 

[gator75]

my inlaws are the same way they never call just come it has finally stopped after i blew my top one day and told my bil to leave he came over uninvited because he wanted to take my son to his house. what he didnt know was because he diidnt was that i was trying to get my son ready to go stay with some other relatives. needless to say they have stopped comming unannounced all together

 

[RadioNate]

Why not say no? When your DH called to tell you they wanted to come over, why not say no? Why not tell them that you are tired and not feeling well so they need to pick a different day.

 

[Bren's Mom]

I am 5 minutes from my house, when DH calls and tells me him mother want to come over with my SIL and her kids. Ummmm, ok I guess.

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Ever have someone invite themselves over at an inconvenient time?

While I sympathize...you can't really blame your in-laws for this one. You said yes! What you should have done was say to dh that you were really tired and that you'd appreciate it if he'd tell his mom that today wasn't good, or ask him to take the kids and meet your mom and SIL somewhere to play so you could rest. They didn't just show up after all, they DID call and YOU told dh it was ok. Next time...don't!

 

[dawn1620]

Your husband should have checked with you first..I'm sure he told them it was ok before he called his wife so I fault him for some of it.

My MIL is the only one that did the show up at the most inconvenient time..it's like she could sense it.

After one too many episodes of this I finally blew my top and DH told her to call before heading over. I have no problem telling her no now...once when we were moving she was going to babysit DD while we did the moving. I told her we would be at her house at 9am to drop DD off which she agreed to - we had to get the truck at 9:30. I show up at 9 and have to ring the doorbell three times before she will answer. She was still asleep and then had the nerve to tell me I should have called first before coming over. She is also notorious of completely ignoring anyone else's schedule when it comes to her own. If we told her to have DD home by a certain time we always have to call after the 30 minute late mark to see where they are at - this also ended after several blowups.

I don't show up unannounced and I don't like it when I receive drop in guests.

 

[jen0610]

On Tuesday I worked a 2:30pm-7:30PM shift. I got home around 8:30pm. I was scheduled to work 5am-1:30pm Wednesday. It takes me 45 minutes to get to work, so I leave my house at 4:15am for a 5am shift. I get up at 3:30am.

Tuesday night I should have gone right to bed after getting home, but noooooo, I had to stay up and watch Lost. It was 10:30pm when I was finally in bed. Alarm went off at 3:30am.

I didn't really "feel" it until I ate my lunch. You know when you finally slow down, you realize how tired you are. After my lunch break, I only had 30 minutes and then I could leave. I was telling my co-workers how my pillows were calling me home. I was so looking forward to a nap before the kids got home from school.

I am 5 minutes from my house, when DH calls and tells me him mother want to come over with my SIL and her kids. Ummmm, ok I guess. But, my house is a mess. So I come home and immediately start cleaning. DS got home from school and I put him to work, much to his dismay. MIL and SIL show up around 3PM...which was fine, I am still thinking I'll give them a cup of tea and they'll be off. DS asked to bake brownies, so they were waiting for them to come out of the oven.

It was 6:30pm when they left. UGH. I usually don't mind having guests, but I was so tired. I felt bad because when I talk a lot and I'm tired, I yawn. So every other word was followed by a yawn.

Ever have someone invite themselves over at an inconvenient time?

Why not say no? When your DH called to tell you they wanted to come over, why not say no? Why not tell them that you are tired and not feeling well so they need to pick a different day.

It would have played out like this in my house.

Me: Honey, do you remember my work schedule from the last 2 days?
DH: Yes (and if the answer was no, I would remind him of it.)
ME: Do you really thing today is a good day for a visit?

If he says yes, he would be told he can make sure the house is straightened up and entertain them, because I AM going to bed. And if during their visit I am woken up, it would be the last time they just invite themselves over at the last minute.

If he says no, I would tell him to let them know that X day would be better for us.

 

[ols386]

It depends on who it is, but if it IS an inconvenient time for someone to visit, and if I feel comfortable with politely telling that person that now is not a good time, then that's what I tell them.

But there are some people who I think would be offended for me to say that, so I probably wouldn't. That's why I say, it depends on who it is.