Aaah, the fun of the holidays. DH's parents passed away at an early age, so here are our holiday options:
His cousin's house. Two years ago, she hosted Thanksgiving. We all brought in food. Ten minutes before we were to eat, she realized she didn't have enough dishes and utensils for the 11 of us! I had to try to eat turkey on a paper plate with a plastic knife.
His BIL's house: SIL and BIL will always get into a fight while preparing food. SIL has ADD and will forget the food in the oven. Last year, BIL made fried squash with a mix that made the house full of fumes. The cousin above had an asthma attack and had to go outside. All the rest of us were coughing. Then, as we were cleaning up, SIL screeched to all of us "Don't stack the dishes...that way I only have to wash the front of the plate, not the back." I laughed until I watched and realized she did exactly that.
His cousin/aunt's nursing home: We "celebrated" Christmas at the nursing home last year. Aunt isn't housebound at all, but wanted us to eat there. She paid $45 per plate for unsalted pork, undercooked sweet potatoes, and spinach souffle.
Our house: We've hosted it fairly often. The only problem is we live 1 1/2 from the others, and they can't be on time to save their lives, so either dinner is overcooked or we have to wait for it. One Christmas, I was planning on serving dinner at 7. DH"S cousin came in and announced that "we're leaving at 7, so let's get this show on the road."