I originally posted this in another thread

[SonjaB]

but it was suggested I should move it to a new one because it was on page 4 of the other thread.

I am starting to see the small beginnings of fraying at the edges of DIS relationships after the announcement of CC’s and Michelle’s departure. I just want to say that while I am hearing things that are disturbing to me and seeing things that are disturbing, I have no first-hand knowledge or evidence of any kind for or against either side. I’d wager none but those involved directly have that.

Furthermore, there are people on both sides that I like and have no desire to think badly of. I will not dig up old wounds or revisit old hurts to try and justify an unfounded rush to judgment. Past hurts involving parties on either side have nothing to do with the situation at hand.

At the same time, I feel a primal need to know the truth, as many of you do. I am confident, however, that at some point I will. The truth has a life of its’ own and doesn’t stay hidden forever. Until that day comes, I consider myself neutral and hope we all, as friends and fellow DISers, will remain neutral in the absence of real, solid proof or evidence against either side. Even in the face of proof, I hope we will exercise calm, rational evaluation and not fracture off into His Camp/Her Camp. We can still like people that have done wrong, or at least respect others that like them.

This terrible time can either unite and solidify this group or divide and potentially destroy it. We can stand together refusing to listen to hearsay (I’m guilty, too), or we can believe what suits us and do more damage to our friendships and the DIS in general. There’s enough of that going on outside, can we shut the door on it here?

What do you say?

 

[DoeWDW]

Sonja, well said! I have no intentions of letting any of this (whatever "this" may be) take away from all the good stuff here on the DIS.

The parties involved are adults and don't need our meddling or speculating to work things out between themselves, and I'm hoping things do get worked out to the benefit of all involved.

I'm not trying to minimize or discount anyone else's hurt feelings but it's business as usual for me on the DIS.

 

[RitaZ.]

Sonja, well said.

There is always two sides to every story and it's really not our place to decide who is right or wrong in this situation. I really do hope that everything can be resolved for all those involved.

 

[Pooh93]

I'm not trying to minimize or discount anyone else's hurt feelings but it's business as usual for me on the DIS.

Agreed. I have enough stress in everyday life without adding more to it. I am sorry for all parties involved. I'm sure there have been very hard decisions that have been made on all sides. I wish everyone peace.

 

[CRB#33]

SonjaH, I think that is truly a wonderful way look at this situation. I see that people are breaking off into camps without hearing the full story from anyone.

As nice as a people are, there are two sides to any story when legalities are involved. And I've never seen a side where each one didn't think they were the side being wronged.

So like you, until we hear the truth, I hope that the relationships that have been built here can continue, and grow. Not fall apart when we don't even know the truth.

We can still like people that have done wrong, or at least respect others that like them.

There would be a lot less meaness in the world if people would really reflect on this statement.