I need to rant. I'm frustrated and scared.

[Lavender_Blue]

Sorry for the late response - preparing for the hurricane and having to re-arrange plans to celebrate DF's birthday.

I talked to my fiancee about some of the things mentioned. He says he did call California Assisted Living (more specifically it was Visalia Assisted Living) and they said to him that his father either had to be disabled or on social security in order for them to step in.

That sounds a little weird for me. Did we just not ask/say the right thing? My fiancee says he called and literally asked, "What can I do to help my father - he can't take care of himself."

Or is there some other place we need to call?

Or...do we really have to wait until January's court date?

I think if there's nothing else to do, I will just have to see about calling the state rep. Otherwise, I know there's nothing else we can do and then (if I ever see the relatives) I can say, "I did everything I could possibly think of to try and help."

I also made a mistake in the age, my future father-in-law is 53 (just turned so today).

EDIT: To respond to Mackey Mouse - I believe there are records and I think they'll probably come in handy. At least I hope so. I don't know. I'm so disgusted with the state of California and how they can get away with this stuff. He should have been declared disabled when he refused to get his skull cap put in. Hell, he should have been declared disabled when he left the hospital regardless. His speech was slurred and he'd just suffered a TBI and almost didn't make it out alive!

If it were my father, I would have pressed charges against the hospital. However, my fiancee's family doesn't want to do that, and I'm not going to urge them to. Perhaps that would be too much of an ordeal for them.

But, yeah, for some reason because he's not in his 60's, it's hard to get him anything. =\

 

[kimis]

Hi Lavender Blue! WOW! You have and your fiance have really had a rough time. I didn't realize you future father in law was only 53. I am not sure what you can do at this point because of his age. However because of the medical issue I would still go to a nursing home and talk to their on staff social worker to see what else can be done. They specialize in legal and health issues of the elderly and disabled. They might know something that would help. Keep us posted. In the meantime I am praying for you. I was wondering if your fiance talked to an attorney about his rights concerning his dad? Good luck! I am praying for you.