I need help - Please, please read :-(

[~*~Mickey_Ears~*~]

Hello, anybody who is nice enough to read this.

I need a shoulder to cry on right now. Unless you want to scan through this real fast, I suggest that you go to the "Random Thread". It's a lot better then what you are about to hear, in this thread. So if you want to blow me off, then I guess that's okay. But if you will listen to me, you are a very good person, and I appriciate that more then you could know.

Since I was four, I've known what alchohol does to people. My Mom always drank thinking that she'd fooled me, and she just was acting wierd, drinking some freaky drink. but I've known since I was little. And now I am 13, so I have put up with it for 8 years.


My parents are alchoholics. Terrible, terrible alcholics. I have never told anybody here except for you guys reading this. Almost every night, my Mom and Dad go over to the property that we have next-door and drink. I love my Mom more then any of you could ever imagine. And for me to see her like that, it hurts my heart. I stay at our house, and throw a fit every time that it happens. Right now, they have been over there for four hours. I've been alone sobbing for that long, too.

And lets say, it's Saturday! My Mom says she's gonna drink that night. And we have the best plans tomorrow. So I say, "okay, as long as you don't spend the night next-door." If she does, she stays all night drinking, and she is still drunk in the morning for hours. And who wants to have fun with a Fricken drunk woman?

My dad gets SO grumpy when he drinks. But he's not THAT bad, I guess.

Is it SO MUCH TO ASK FOR MY REAL MOM AND DAD??!?!?!?? I DONT HAVE ANYBODY TO TALK TO, AND I FEEL LIKE I AM GOING TO EXPLODE! I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO! SOMEONE PLEASE TELL ME WHAT I AM SUPPOSED TO DO!!!!

Sorry

~Carrie

 

[iGenie]

You can cry on my shoulder, but I'm afraid I can't sympathize with you... my parents don't drink, at least nowhere near like that. I feel so bad for you though...

If I was in your situation... I would confront my parents (make sure they're sober when you do) and talk to them about how you feel. Tell them drinking is bad for them, at least the way they have been drinking, and that it can lead to kidney/liver failure, and that you hate seeing them drunk. Tell them that they should go see and alchohol counselor or something, to get them off drinking so much.

I hope this helps, and I'm so sorry...

 

[maxxeh]

Well, only one of my parents drinks, my dad, and not that much, but often. He drinks with Sprite, so he is always sober, I guess. Anyways, I just wanted to say I'm praying for you, and everyone here will support you.

What I would do personally is confront them, like the poster said before me, but also seek guidance. A trusted ADULT friend and others like that. Guidance Counselors at school are awesome for that kind of stuff. I'm sorry I have nothing better or more profound, but that's all that I have had to do in the past.

Hope it helps and I hope your holidays will still be joyful!

 

[::Snow_White::]

I'm really sorry.
Have you tried talking to them about it?
I mean like really sitting down and talking to them about it?
Have you tried talking to your grandparents, cousins, or anyone?

I haven't gone through anything like this before.
But you can PM me anytime. I'll listen.

 

[Rockstar mentality]

Ummmmm my parents drink alot but its not that bad. IF ure feeling like this then tell another family memeber, and aunt, and uncle, grandma, grandpa, anyone that can help u get together and get them help

 

[reminisce]

any time you need to chat, my pm box is open. i can only imagine what you must be going through, but this can only make you stronger. youll work through it

 

[iGenie]

any time you need to chat, my pm box is open. i can only imagine what you must be going through, but this can only make you stronger. youll work through it

That being said (about getting stronger) it can also make you into a bitter person if your parents don't know they're hurting you.

 

[BabyPiglet]

Try talking to a trusted family member about it. I think that will help a lot.

I'm really really sorry.

 

[CheezDoodle]

I'm sorry you're going through this; it must be very hard to watch and not be able to do anything about it.

I have a now-grown-up cousin who had to go through this, too, and Alateen helped her learn how to deal with it better. Here is a link to their website so you can find meetings in your town: http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/english.html

Hugs to you. PM or IM me if you would ever like to talk.

 

[iGenie]

Um, why hasn't the OP come back yet? We've given her some great advice

 

[Cassidy]

Ask to talk to her in private. Away from everyone else. Tell her how to feel about it. And/OR when shes sleeping hide the bottles. Thats what I do with my dad's cigarettes.

I talk to my dad, he doesnt smoke as much anymore.

Maybe she wont drink anymore.


I'm sorry Mickey

 

[disneydance]

I'm so sorry I dont know what to say my parents dont drink at all but our next door neighbors do and they have friends come over all the time and they drink together and they get drunk then go outside at 12:00am and get into fights I would reccommend confronting them when they are sober and talking to them about it and if they dont take it seriously talking to a trusted adult about it or maybe your school counselor I hope that everything gets better to you Carrie

 

[tinkerbelle22]

I'm so sorry. This sounds like a horrible position to be in

Before I was born my dad was an alcoholic, and my mom (they weren't even married yet) dumped him twice. My dad realized how much he loved her after the second time they broke up, and he started to get his act together. He went to rehab, and although it took a while, he eventually became sober. My mom took him back, they got married, and had me and my brother.

So what I'm trying to say is that you need to talk to them (obviously when they're sober and in a good mood), and tell them how you feel, and the pain you're going through. Because your parents care about you. Like I said, it took a while, but my dad realized eventually what he was doing to the people he loved. And hopefully your parents realize this too. But if talking to them doesn't work, definitely talk to another family member. We're here for you. Good luck!

 

[~*~Mickey_Ears~*~]

Thank you so much for all of your helpful support!

I really appriciate you taking the time to do this for me. Thank you so much, you all have such kind, caring, warm hearts.

I will try all of your advice, tonight if my parents drink.

Again -

Thank you!

~Carrie

 

[shellybellypolo]

Ok well I have two minutes to tell what I have to say (dad's getting mad) so here I go:

Before I was born, my grandfather was an alcoholic, and so was my grandma. But my grandpa smoked too. My mom said that every night they'd get drunk, screaming and throwing dishes around the house. It must have been terrible. But the moment my grandfather found out my mom was pregnant (with me), he put down his cigarette and whiskey bottle and said, "Never again.". It makes me horribly sad to think that millions of kids are going through this suffering. And when I saw your thread, my heart bursted into sadness.

You can PM me anytime, I'm also in the VMK Chat Room of the DIS most days. I'm here to talk whenever and where ever. You can talk to your parents, make sure that they know you know what's going on. Tell them how it makes you feel when they're drunken, and ask them to kindly stop. Like others said, you can also confront family members to help you. Alcohol Anonymous is a great program too. I'll pull up the site later when I have time.

I am so so sorry sweetie. You're defenitely in my prayers.

 

[Disney.Ears]

I'm sorry you're in the postition. But definantly let your parents know the risks of drinking. Mainly liver failure. My "aunt" recently died because of that. She drank wine, a lot. Nearly a bottle a day and never really acted drunk as far as I could tell. But let them know that it can kill them. And for your sake of having parents around, that they stop.

Good luck.

 

[RaggedyAnnPrincess]

I'm really sorry! That must be difficult, but you seem very brave! I wish you a lot of luck, and you can always talk to us!

 

[AngelInDisguise]

I'm really sorry. I would just talk to themand let them know how you feel.