I love my sister....really!!!

[sixAMmom]

We just got back from a trip to the Fort with my sister and her 2 kids. I love my niece and nephew very much but they are a little spoiled. They basically want for nothing. My sister and BIL have alot of money and spend it on their kids. While my husband and I don't we still try to give our kids something special while at Disney. Anyway I gave each of my 4 kids $15 Disney Dollars to spend on whatever they wanted(no hassles from mom about what it was). We were only camping for 3 days and didn't go to the parks, so they went around to different hotel's shops to look for things. Well my youngest and her youngest are only 6 months apart so they like the same stuff. At one shop my DD found a Belle set and bought it with her money. My sister's DD saw an Ariel set and bought it for her. We get back to the camper and my niece wants to play with my DD Belle playset, and my DD shares(which she is good at) and my niece doesn't want to share hers. Fine. So the next day my niece plays with my DD's set and loses some of the pieces, so I put it up. My niece askes for it again and I say no, my sister gets mad!! I give in to my niece to keep the peace while at Disney!! On the last day we go to DTD and my sister BUYS my niece the same set my DD has(now missing pieces). I was really angry about it. My sister and BIL have more money and less kids then my husbend and I do but she makes sure her kids have what my kids have. I can't and don't do that with what her kids have?? I never say anything but it is really starting to bug me. Help I need a little perspective Again I will say I love my sister and she does great things for me and my kids but I can't stop thinking about this!

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Honestly I would have been annoyed that her child lost the pieces and my sister didn't replace them. I wouldn't care however what she bought her kids otherwise. JMHO.

 

[dementia412]

Can't do much about people who spoil their kids. You just have to make sure your kids understand the situation, and if it gets nasty pull them away from it. This thing with the playset though... honestly I think you should have said something to her. I believe people should replace something their kids lose or breaks (especially if you can afford it)... and buying the same set for her daughter after the kid lost pieces of her cousins... that was outragous! Why she wouldn't have purchased an extra for her niece at that point is beyond me.

 

[Hannathy]

Oh I would have definitely said something to my own sister! Her or her DD would have been giving my DD the missing pieces or the new set. Not saying something is what you do when you want to be polite or keep the peace with casual friends with family you say something! Talk about being spoiled I think it started with your sister SHE sounds like the spoiled brat not her DD. And personally you should replace your DD's set because you are the one who let her play with it and lose the pieces, and I definitely wouldn't have let her play with it a second time. NO is NO. I feel sorry for your DD.

Thinking about this, Does your sister even know her DD lost the pieces? That may change my feelings a bit.If she doesn't know she may not have known to buy a new one for your DD. If she did and didn't buy a new one then she is lousy.

 

[NU2WDW]

At one shop my DD found a Belle set and bought it with her money. My sister's DD saw an Ariel set and bought it for her. We get back to the camper and my niece wants to play with my DD Belle playset, and my DD shares(which she is good at) and my niece doesn't want to share hers. Fine. So the next day my niece plays with my DD's set and loses some of the pieces, so I put it up. My niece askes for it again and I say no, my sister gets mad!! I give in to my niece to keep the peace while at Disney!! On the last day we go to DTD and my sister BUYS my niece the same set my DD has(now missing pieces). I was really angry about it.

What were angry about: the fact that your niece lost the pieces, that you caved to her/your sister's petulance, or that your sister bought your niece a brand new set (i.e., doesn't have to budget)? Either way, it's your own dd who has lost out -- she bought a toy with "her own" money and now has an incomplete set because you wouldn't stand up for her. JMHO, but that's how I see it.

 

[ScottishSweety]

I would have said something to my sis..and not given into my niece. I know its easier to keep the peace, especially when on holiday, but in the long run it just lets your neice think your a walk over. As a kid we didn't get much, but I apreciated everything we got because we learnt the value of things, so your kid's are going to grow up with great values (not saying your sisters kids wont so please dont take offence lol). If I were you the next time something like this happens I'd say something to your sister. It doesn't have to turn into a huge argument ..but if she goes mad again then you need to let her know she's in the wrong and you'r not taking it HTH .

 

[ThreeMusketeers]

OMG, give op a break here. It's not that bad.

So..you didn't say something to your sister this time. You understand now, and you are fed up. Next time just say something to her when she is doing something spoiled and selfish and you are all set.

 

[taximomfor4]

how old are the girls this happened with? If 8 or 10 yrs old, there is a different way to explain it. If it was a 3 or 4 yr old, completely different, ya know?

ETA: Just reread the OP, and noticed this happened with OP's youngest dd who it appears is 3 yrs old. Were the missing pieces ever found? Like when packing up? It would be hard, after the fact, to let your sister know her dd lost pieces to your dd's set. Perhaps next time, say something earlier. ALthough next time, if you let her dd play with your dd's new toy, watch her closely so nothing gets lost.

Maybe if you mention this to your sis now, she'd sneak your dd replacements?

Beth

 

[sixAMmom]

Yes I did tell my sister her DD lost the pieces, And yes when we got home I bought my DD the same set at Walmart for almost half the price(wasn't going to pay for another one at Disney prices). My DD is very happy with her set at home and doesn't know what happened at Disney with her set. She likes playing with her cousin and I am not going to say anything about it to my DD.

 

[sixAMmom]

Sorry I also forgot to mention that my sister has ALWAYS been this way. Even as a kid. She almost died when she was a baby and my parents gave in to her ALOT! They didn't treat me bad though, just different.(Thanks for letting my use the Dis boards for therapy )